DD wore my perfume!

pigpen

I hate lying .. so mine would be told off for that..

In future dont let her use the hairdryer in your room.. a privelege lost. I wouldnt want my 9 y/o using it unsupervised anyway.. after sucking my own hair into the darn thing and blowing it up in flames and everything.. was very pretty but smelled vile!

Mine use it in the kitchen.

I would explain why you are upset. I buy my girls their own perfume.. they tend to use a gallon and smell like toilet blocks lol.

Chill.. it is flattering that she is trying to grow up and be like you.. it means she loves you.. you cant punish her for that!

somethingsgottogive

My step mother was just like you sound, very adamant that I wasn't to go in her room or try on her stuff/try out her perfumes etc - but she thought it perfectly fine to 'rummage' through my things - and I hated the b!tch. Lying is obviously something that's not be encouraged, but seriously, why on earth would she want to admit it if she know's you're going to go completely OTT?

I bet you brought her up to share her things didn't you?

*max*

I totally agree that you are massively over-reacting! You are reacting and talking about it like a petulant 12 year old sister would, not her mother..."Muuuuuuuuuuuum, X went into my room and she touched my things! Muuuuuuum!"...

Sending her to bed was punishment enough, anything more would be just cruel and disproportionate to the "crime", really.

Tomorrow you can sit her down and explain again that she should always ask before using something that isn't hers and that's why you sent her to bed. But keep it in perspective! It's not like she's been stealing cars at gun point, is it?

POPPYOSCAR

I have to agree with the majority of posters.

I also think you are over-reacting, but this obviously has roots from when you were a little girl and your upbringing.

I do not think in the big scheme of things this deserves a major punishment. What on earth will you do if she does something really wrong?

I hope you feel differently when you have calmed down a little.

(I actually feel quite chuffed when my 15 year old wants to borrow one of my tops - makes me feel like I am not quite so much a dinosaur after all!!)

System

Hang the child...thats what my mum did to me when I put on her face powder and spilled some of it when I was little.....

notjustanyone

Over the years my kids have used my socks, used my t-shirts, borrowed my shoes, emptied my aftershave bottles, loaned my tools to their mates, aquired my fishing gear, taken my bike whenever I ain't using it, yeah does my head in a times, but it's no big deal, they're my kids, my flesh and blood, love 'em too bits

The day they ever take money from me without asking, then that's when they'll have over stepped the mark

The_Bride

Hardly crime of the century is it? My DD once used my MAC eyeliner as a crayon! Maybe a spell in borstal will do the trick! Honestly some people.......

Caroline_a

Mine always knew that if they lied the punishment was always worse! However I think that teaching her that if she wants a squirt of mum's perfume, or indeed anything that belongs to anyone else she has to ask first is a good start. I'm sure you've been down this road, but sometimes boundaries get blurred, and for something like who owns what, particularly when there are more than one child in the house, becomes very important when they get to be teenagers.

jamespir

Kaz2904 wrote: »

Just sent DD (10 next month) up to my bedroom to blow dry her hair. She has come downstairs reeking of my favourite perfume (Vera wang princess). I only have one bottle of perfume and it's quite expensive so I don't spray much. She is very obviously wearing it, all of us can smell it in the air without even getting close to her.
She is denying all knowledge and saying that she's put on some of her body spray (one I gave to her because I thought she'd like it). I'm not a fool and I know she's lying. I've sent her to bed but I want to punish her.
It's not because she has my perfume on more about the fact that she didn't ask. If she had asked and we were going somewhere special, I might have let her have a squirt but she didn't ask and she's going to bed now and school tomorrow. She's invaded my personal items whilst I was letting her use my hairdryer and my mirror.
When I was a child, we all used to think we were so grown up being allowed to use the grown ups bedrooms and their mirror and their hairdryers to do our hair. We would never ever have dreamed about taking anything of their personal stuff. In fact I still remember breaking my Aunties lipstick when I was about 4. She was so upset that it has stayed with me and I never touched her stuff again unless she was there and we were poking through the wardrobe or the jewellery box.

My DD has no respect for my belongings despite me constantly telling her that these things are mine NOT hers. The kids get way more than us adults do and they do all of their activities too.

What is a suitable punishment for her to show her I really do mean business and that rummaging in my stuff and using my personal belongings is not allowed? Do I go as far as cancelling the birthday party she is going to on Sunday?

I have done all the explaining to her many many times about how hurtful it is and how she wouldn't like it if someone came and took something of hers without asking. Hence the reason I gave her her own body sprays so she could pretend at perfume. She knows what she does is wrong and I want it stopped before she starts thinking it's ok to take my clothes too (she's not far off my height tbh :eek:).

youve sent her to bed leave it at that

meritaten

jeez - there was me thinking that it was normal to try some of mums make up, perfumes etc! anything mum didnt want us to touch or see was locked in her wardrobe and that was sacrosant!
at that age I thought my mum was the hieght of sophistication and fashion! She always looked lovely and I wanted to be like her (visually anyway)!
Yeah, I pinched her make up and perfume and sometimes her clothes (when they fitted me), before I realised that mum hadnt moved on from the fifties and I really needed some up to date clobber and make up etc!
I wouldnt be cancelling any parties - but, I would be helping your daughter choose her own style.
and if I had any expensive perfume etc - keep it under lock and key!