DD wore my perfume!

January20

gugushui wrote: »

If I didn't want something touched I would store it out of reach anyway.

With a 2 year old I would agree, but the child in question is 9 and should really start learning some appropriate behaviour regarding other people's belongings! Or are we saying children are stupid and unable to understand anything until they turn 18, and then they magically become model citizens?

Zoetoes

Poor little girl can't have a bit of her mum's perfume on and feel like a princess without being made to feel guilty. I bet she would have loved mum to say she smelt beautiful.

Taadaa

Wow my son should count himself very lucky, he is always spraying hubbys deodorant about the place, and using too much shower gel, and generally being defiant and pushing boundaries, because funnily enough THAT IS WHAT KIDS DO.

Sounds like you are the one that needs to grow up.

Fredula

Rockporkchop wrote: »

It's not often I am lost for words but I am absolutely gobsmacked about how you are over reacting to this.

She is a nine year old girl and has had a squirt of your perfume, it's hardly the crime of the century. Sending her to bed was more than punishment enough - for goodness sake stop there. All this talk of invading your personal items, it's ridiculous and sounds so childish. And so what if your DD wants to try on your clothes? Surely all little girls want to be like their mums as they are growing up. My girls are always trying on my shoes, jewellery, lipsticks etc. And I don't care - I get pleasure from their fun and enjoyment because they are more important to me than all the material possessions in the world. If I didn't want something touched I would store it out of reach anyway.

Why don't you post this on Mumsnet AIBU and see what response you get on there?

This is unfair. One squirt of perfume is hardly noticeable, however, it sounds as though OP's DD use 2 - 4ish squirts of an expensive perfume, and considering we're on a money saving forum, we are all trying to save a few pounds. I would be gutted if one of my friends came over my house and squirted my perfume, especially if it was just to see what it smelt like.

You might like your daughters trying on your stuff, but for some people it's personal to them. As OP says, often children get more than adults do, and what adults do have, especially if they're on a tight budget, can be very precious to them.

moomoomama27

Taadaa wrote: »

Wow my son should count himself very lucky, he is always spraying hubbys deodorant about the place, and using too much shower gel, and generally being defiant and pushing boundaries, because funnily enough THAT IS WHAT KIDS DO

Teaching a child to respect ones property, and to show them that there are consequences wHen they touch something they shouldn't IS WHAT PARENTS DO!

No wonder there are such obnoxious children about who don't know the word NO anymore, when parents don't set boundaries. Just because they want to touch something, just because they want a little squirt of perfume, or a giant glob of someone elses shower gel doesn't mean they can, and the excuse beacuse they are kids is utter rubbish!

Aimless

Indeed! I used to have a friend who decided never to speak to me again after I told her small daughter that if she didn't leave my things alone, then I'd put her outside in the garden. Instead of being ashamed that her daughter was so naughty (in my house!) that I'd had to say something, she reacted as if I had threatened to beat her!

Taadaa

moomoomama27 wrote: »

Teaching a child to respect ones property, and to show them that there are consequences wHen they touch something they shouldn't IS WHAT PARENTS DO!

No wonder there are such obnoxious children about who don't know the word NO anymore, when parents don't set boundaries. Just because they want to touch something, just because they want a little squirt of perfume, or a giant glob of someone elses shower gel doesn't mean they can, and the excuse beacuse they are kids is utter rubbish!

I certainly hope you are not inferring my son is obnoxious because I have a different parenting style to the OP. He is cheeky yes and good on him, I didnt raise him to be too scared to say boo to a goose.

I chose not to go into one when my son does something that he shouldn't do, that does not mean that he isn't spoken to about it. Kids push boundaries and so things they are told not to do all the time. Fact, not utter rubbish. I did not say that means they can run amock and take things that they are not entitled to. However I believe in proportion and perspective when it comes to discipline. Something that I think is missing here. We are talking about having a squirt of something then lying, well that deserves a telling off. Not grabbing a baseball bat and going down the high street looting.

moomoomama27

Taadaa wrote: »

We are talking about having a squirt of something then lying, well that deserves a telling off. Not grabbing a baseball bat and going down the high street looting.

That makes no sense!

Taadaa

To be honest I am finding your attitude obnoxious, I really can't abide people that go on forums looking for a fight. I couldn't care less that you think it makes no sense. How I choose to raise my family is none of your concern. The OP was asking for opinions, not me. I gave mine, you don't like it, fair dos. End of.

moomoomama27

Taadaa wrote: »

To be honest I am finding your attitude obnoxious, I really can't abide people that go on forums looking for a fight. I couldn't care less that you think it makes no sense. How I choose to raise my family is none of your concern. The OP was asking for opinions, not me. I gave mine, you don't like it, fair dos. End of.

If defending the OP from the abusive comments she's recieved makes me obnoxious, then so be it!

I think you'll find that looking for arguments is the furthest things from my mind when posting on the forums, but as you seem to know it all I'll leave you to your opinion of me.