Partner hit me...

DUTR

Purbeck wrote: »

It's absolutely NOT ok if the victim is a man, I have spent some time 'adjusting the balance' on several sites where info for abused women has been posted, by mentioning advice groups for male victims of DV. Both can be found by googling.
The following is quite interesting
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/jun/07/feminism-domestic-violence-men

An interesting and balanced read :cool:

pearl123

3v3 wrote: »

pearl123, I can appreciate that you speak from personal experience and understand that the issue can be an upsetting one for those who have been through it and are still suffering the effects from it. If it is upsetting you, perhaps it might be best not to read it?

3x3 - So do you think that someone who has not had the experience of domestic abuse or trained in domestic abuse should be advising her?

Would that make sense?

Your right I'm going to get off this tread for a while. I hope someone else up speaks out in suport for her going, as otherwise she'll be reading comments from a few sickening ignoramuses!
At the end of the day - her staying could kill her.

DUTR

pearl123 wrote: »

3x3 - So do you think that someone who has not had the experience of domestic abuse or trained in domestic abuse should be advising her?

Would that make sense?

Your right I'm going to get off this tread for a while. I hope someone else up speaks out in suport for her going, as otherwise she'll be reading comments from a few sickening ignoramuses!
At the end of the day - her staying could kill her.

Why are you so sure some of us male posters have not been victims either?

3v3

pearl123 wrote: »

3v3 - I might have been here!!!! The 'each time' gave it away!

The OP states hit/slapped - not punched. The common "each time" factor is that they have been out drinking.

jess1974

My ex husband was also violent after drinking alcohol, i made up excuses as to the bruises on my face, arms, holes in the doors etc, thank god i only wasted 3 years of my life on him, i am married now to the most gentle man i've ever met...............

3v3

pearl123 wrote: »

3x3 - So do you think that someone who has not had the experience of domestic abuse or trained in domestic abuse should be advising her?

Would that make sense?

Not at all, that is simply twisting my words.

Your right I'm going to get off this tread for a while. I hope someone else up speaks out in suport for her going, as otherwise she'll be reading comments from a few sickening ignoramuses!

The majority on this thread have stated that she should leave. If you are including me in your derogatory description of "sickening ignoramuses" - well, as you are well aware, name calling and putting people down is just the beginning of the domestic violence spectrum

At the end of the day - her staying could kill her.

Yes, that is one potential; but it is not the *only* potential.

Birdy12

Wow, I'm amazed how one post can trigger 8 pages of people arguing amongst each other...I mean responses. The OP hasn't even come back with a second comment!

DUTR

Birdy12 wrote: »

Wow, I'm amazed how one post can trigger 8 pages of people arguing amongst each other...I mean responses. The OP hasn't even come back with a second comment!

It could be either because of
a) going on the popular opinion, she is in hospital or a morgue
b) The couplke have kissed made up and forgiven each other
c) more than likely has a life outside of MSE

pearl123

hazeyjewel wrote: »

I know the answer to this really, but need to talk to someone.:(:(

Well the poor women did say that she knew the answer right from the outstart of her text!
One can deluded oneself that it will get better but it never does with domestic voilene.
Love is blind.
If she stays - she'll look back one day with deep regret.

hazeyjewel

Hi everyone.Thanks for all your replies.I have been mulling them all over, and had a good talk to him last night, and a cry:o:o
He told me a few things about his past that made me realise why he gets so pent up about stuff, and he has agreed to go to the docs this week to get counselling:o
I am very on my guard at the moment though, but since last week he has been fine, loving and attentive.
I know a leopard rarely changes it's spots, but i'm gonna give him another chance.If this doesn't work he has to go:(