Partner hit me...

Dontknowanymore

DUTR wrote: »

Of course that is best, and chances are that is the way things will be (eg not killed).
Personally I don't think it will carry on and get worse, the OP should give the final chance 1st, yes it is easy for keyboard warriors to suggest pack your bags and go, it's not as if the OP is coming home to a beating everynight , likewise she could leave and meet somebody even worse, you all know it is not much fun being single and none of you are mentioning the cons , as the OP has already considered some, there is rarely a text book relationship.

SO you should only get out of abusive relationship if you are getting a regular beating?
I cannot beleive the sheer ignorance!!!!!!!
Domestic abuse is not just about being beaten you fool!

There is rarely textbook relationship but beleive you me, most abusers think and do very similar things! Get a room full of abuse victims and it's scarily surprising how similar their stories are!

Honestly, you need a reality check! :eek:

DUTR

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

You are absolutely VILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad:

OP do not listen to this crap! please! :mad:

Is the crap you refer to in post #120 eg your own posting?
If folk don't want to read my posts thankfully there are other balanced posts in the thread for the OP or anybody else in a similar situation to consider :j

System

DUTR, when I first went on the internet I assumed that people who posted were entirely 'genuine', the word 'Troll' didn't exist for me lol, other than from the Hobbit and vague memories of orange haired figures from the '70s'. 6 years later I am much more suspicious having seen the most incredible fantasies bandied about as truth. I still try to take people at 'face value' as I did initially here, it's my nature. It's also my nature to look for 'alternative arguments' lol.

Dontknowanymore

DUTR wrote: »

Indeed, I have been hit by women and perhaps may have slapped one in my time , the easiest option is for the OP to run to the hills, but in practice (and that is the life we are all living) it is not the better option right now, especially as the defendant has recognised his errors, ideally we would like to see the OP's 4 episodes as bad blips from the past, mental bullying is much worse and as a bloke I would have to say women are worse for doing this (does not make all women bad though) and it seems to be socially acceptable. Unless I have read the OP incorrectly, she had been on on evening out and her partner got jealous and reacted badly, it does not make it accpetable I agree, but leaving will perhaps leave much more pain for many years to follow than the temporary sting of a slap

No. He has ore than likely said what he wanted her to hear!

The first part of your post says it all really, never before have I come accros another poster so vile and ignorant as you.....

DUTR

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

SO you should only get out of abusive relationship if you are getting a regular beating?
I cannot beleive the sheer ignorance!!!!!!!
Domestic abuse is not just about being beaten you fool!

There is rarely textbook relationship but beleive you me, most abusers think and do very similar things! Get a room full of abuse victims and it's scarily surprising how similar their stories are!

Honestly, you need a reality check! :eek:

Did I say that though?
I agree DV is not just about being beaten, already covered in the thread.
How would you know what most abusers think?
This thread is about the OP and their situation, however it seems to have turned into a snipe DUTR thread, which in itself is abuse :eek:

Dontknowanymore

DUTR wrote: »

Is the crap you refer to in post #120 eg your own posting?
If folk don't want to read my posts thankfully there are other balanced posts in the thread for the OP or anybody else in a similar situation to consider :j

No your first post in this thread as you well know.
This is no laughy jokey matter. you are one sick individual.

Tish_P

I cannot believe all these revolting excuses for someone who hits a partner and deliberately breaks their stuff. Let alone the nostalgia fir the days you could slap your wife about a bit (strangely enough, this nostalgia seems mostly to be felt by those who would have been doing, not getting, the slapping).

Domestic violence is not OK regardless of the gender of the victim or the perpetrator, and nobody has remotely suggested it would be OK if the genders were reversed here. If the OP were a bloke whose girlfriend had hurt him and smashed up his things my advice would be what it is here: leave as soon as you safely can.

3v3

Dontknowanymore wrote: »

No. He has ore than likely said what he wanted her to hear! .....

Don't we all say what we want the other person to hear??? If we didn't want them to hear it, we wouldn't say it, surely?

DUTR

Purbeck wrote: »

DUTR, when I first went on the internet I assumed that people who posted were entirely 'genuine', the word 'Troll' didn't exist for me lol, other than from the Hobbit and vague memories of orange haired figures from the '70s'. 6 years later I am much more suspicious having seen the most incredible fantasies bandied about as truth. I still try to take people at 'face value' as I did initially here, it's my nature. It's also my nature to look for 'alternative arguments' lol.

It is good to take people on face value, what I have noticed on here (and other forums) is that if you sway from the clique and general opinion or view, then you get accused of all sorts, just look at the snipe attacks on me during this thread, if I were not a strong person right now, it wouldbe easy to see this as bullying and abuse , just this morning, I am described as vile, just because I didn't jump on the bandwagon to say 'leave this maniac now!' As you have viewed some of the OP's other topics then it does leave some question on the originality of the story or the Op's intent. That said it does not make DV ok by either gender. Just a few weeks ago there was a disturbing thread about a rape victim, it appeared the thread was just a troll playing on respondants emotions. That is not to say this thread is, we may know more when the OP returns back from the hospital

pearl123

Anyone who has ever been in a domestic abuse relationship knows - voilence escaltes. It moves on from a punch or slap if you stay. Men who can't cope with their own insecurities/ problems / control issues/ agression - should not hit women because they had to!
I'm disgusted by what I've read at times on this thread. A woman has been punched on 4 seperate occasions. And it appears some people think it's not "black and white" and that it can be ''justified.'
Yeh.....right.....heard that years ago from my abusive ex.