Partner hit me...

thistledome

Wow, if you think hitting your partner is comparable to a driving offence you really are in a minority of one, DUTR.

And hitting your partner 4 times is not a mistake, it's a habit.

chrissie57

Hateful as DUTR's posts are, surely he has a point re previous posts from OP - who doesn't seem to have returned to this thread:o

Just in case it's real, though - get out and get out now, this definitely sounds like the end of the rest of your life if you stay with this man.

If you are a troll - may any god you believe in forgive you for your post and remember what goes around comes around

Marker_2

thistledome wrote: »

Wow, if you think hitting your partner is comparable to a driving offence you really are in a minority of one, DUTR.

And hitting your partner 4 times is not a mistake, it's a habit.

Thick people are annoying ... DUTR was CLEARLY using that as an EXAMPLE. Presumably a simple non confusing example for the simplistic minds on this thread!!

Back to topic, and those that are of the 'get out now, before you die' camp ... not that very long ago I was sitting beside a dying mans bed with his wife. He used to hit her alot, they were from a generation where it was pretty much the norm for the missus to have a back hander (or worse) every now and again. Since I'd known them, and seeing them there together taking his last breath. I can promise you he died a very happy man with his wife by his side, and she was left heartbroken. Despite the DV in their past they managed to get passed that and be a lovely little old couple that clearly loved eachother. Had the wife in my scenario listened to people like you then she wouldnt have ended up by his bedside on his final days holding his hand, and she wouldnt have the kids, grand and greatgrandkids she has now.

Not everything is as back and white as you'd like it to be.

Tish_P

Oh, those happy days in the golden past when a woman could simply expect a light beating every now and then! It's all gone wrong since, with the voting and the higher education and the expectations of physical safety.
*vomits*

3v3

Marker wrote: »

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Not everything is as back and white as you'd like it to be.

Very true.

pearl123

Being in a domestic abuse relationship is stupidly dangerous (for the women) and dysfunctional. It should never be classed as normal nor acceptable!
OP we are now six pages in and it would be normal to comment on what people have said on this forum! One begins to wonder why not?
OP - At the end of the day you can't run/hide from the truth - it will catch up with you one day.

I now have scars on my face from my domestic abuse past. It's not a good look for a woman. All it takes is one blow to the upper eye....and you'll be in the facial scar club. It's as easy as that. One punch could also kill you.

DUTR

pearl123 wrote: »

Being in a domestic abuse relationship is stupidly dangerous (for the women) and dysfunctional. It should never be classed as normal nor acceptable!
OP we are now six pages in and it would be normal to comment on what people have said on this forum! One begins to wonder why not?
OP - At the end of the day you can't run/hide from the truth - it will catch up with you one day.

I now have scars on my face from my domestic abuse past. It's not a good look for a woman. All it takes is one blow to the upper eye....and you'll be in the facial scar club. It's as easy as that. One punch could also kill you.

Perhaps this should read
Being in a domestic abuse relationship is stupidly dangerous (for the VICTIM) and dysfunctional. It should never be classed as normal nor acceptable!
OP we are now six pages in and it would be normal to comment on what people have said on this forum! One begins to wonder why not?
OP - At the end of the day you can't run/hide from the truth - it will catch up with you one day.

I now have scars on my face from my domestic abuse past. It's not a good look for a woman. All it takes is one blow to the upper eye....and you'll be in the facial scar club. It's as easy as that. One punch could also kill .

Let's not pretend this is a crime where the victim is always female

3v3

pearl123 wrote: »

Being in a domestic abuse relationship is stupidly dangerous (for the women) ....

Yes, they could be arrested when the man finally builds up courage to report them to the Police. Unfortunately, the majority of men tend not to report the domestic abuse they endure from women.

DUTR

3v3 wrote: »

Yes, they could be arrested when the man finally builds up courage to report them to the Police. Unfortunately, the majority of men tend not to report the domestic abuse they endure from women.

Yes indeed, neverdespairgirl informs that she is employed in the judicial system, I suppose their stats will show that there is not one male victim, somehow that is ok to be a victim if you are male?

pearl123

3x3 - when I said it was stupidly dangerous for a women to stay it was because of what the voilence could potencialy do. I.e kill her, or scar her mentally and physicall for life.
We are not talking about the domestic abuse perpertrated against men in this instance by their partners. It is in this instance a man against a woman. Of course it is unaceptable the other way round as well.

Men justify this voilence by saying.. she made me do it. And in the end the women end up thinking that she was indeed responsible. And so a pattern emerges of 'lubby-dubby oh so in love'..... to 'you made me do it' voilence. Also voilence does not always just involve fists! It can get a hell of a lot worse.
Voilence against ones partner male or female is not acceptable at all.