Just received this - please help

suze200

RacyRed wrote: »

On no!

Doorstep, I know this may sound fanciful, but it really is how that particular fetish scene can work. And before anyone asks, yes, I know exactly what I am talking about and no, I'm very definately not going into details. I think there are others posting on this thread who may be able to validate my concerns though.

Me too RacyRed. That is what I was trying to say at post 440.

NickyBat

freemanl wrote: »

Was on this site looking at something else, but stumbled on this thread.

My take on it (from a mans perspective).

Sounds to me like he thinks the house is in his name, but he is leaving, so he wants to get as much out of this house as possible before leaving. As far as the bank knows he is living there alone, so he is taking everthing out with Doorstep knowing.

Then once he shacks up with the new woman, he can stop paying the mortgage, bills etc to a) screw doorstep up as much as possible, and b) maximise what money he has to set himself up for his new life (possibly putting in another name to protect it).

To me the fact he has been doing this for months (and has previous) shows that he is keeping things from Doorstep and is only out to look after himself.

On top of that he has even got Doorstep to accept no Child mantainence!

Got to say i agree with this.

neneromanova

one thing that has got me stumped is why is he buying this house so quickly when he's not even divorced. IF he does get this mortgage and new house...It'll be half (maybe 1/4 if the misstress is on the mortgage) Doorsteps...

He's not the brightest is he

Doorstep_horror

neneromanova wrote: »

one thing that has got me stumped is why is he buying this house so quickly when he's not even divorced. IF he does get this mortgage and new house...It'll be half (maybe 1/4 if the misstress is on the mortgage) Doorsteps...

He's not the brightest is he

I hadn't thought of this, I don't think he'll put her name on the mortgage.

RacyRed

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

Racyred my husband is a very jealous person so I really dont know how this is going to pan out.

Good luck to them I say.

I really want to share their meeting site and her web site with you all but I know it's not a good thing to put out.

That is part of the play Honey, find out what his weakness then use it to control him. Trust me, he will be so much under her control that it isn't his mind he is thinking with, unless it suits her.

neneromanova

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

I hadn't thought of this, I don't think he'll put her name on the mortgage.

Then you can have half of the equity too

suze200

RacyRed wrote: »

That is part of the play Honey, find out what his weakness then use it to control him. Trust me, he will be so much under her control that it isn't his mind he is thinking with, unless it suits her.

Listen to RacyRed DH. She is 100% correct.

Doorstep_horror

RacyRed and Suze200 may I ask a question, if you don't want to answer that perfectly fine with me as I don't mean to pry or cause embarrassment.

In this kind of relationship is it natural for it to be a long term thing or would it just be a flash in the pan. I'm sorry but I don't know anything about this.

Maybe this is why he said they weren't having an affair it was just play.

Scorpio33

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

RacyRed and Suze200 may I ask a question, if you don't want to answer that perfectly fine with me as I don't mean to pry or cause embarrassment.

In this kind of relationship is it natural for it to be a long term thing or would it just be a flash in the pan. I'm sorry but I don't know anything about this.

Maybe this is why he said they weren't having an affair it was just play.

Forget about that. How he sees it doesn't matter. If you think what he has done is an affair, then it is an affair.

What I read here is "Maybe it is not that serious, so maybe he will eventually come back to me".

He has been with someone else, lied to you behind your back, and is now trying to get everything he can out of you. Do you really want someone like that in you life? He can't make you happy, and I think the only reason you can't see that is you have little life of your own.

Please please put yourself first.

suze200

His relationship with this woman will last as long as she wants. His need for what she provides to him is part of his sexuality and I would be very suprised if she is his first. He can't change, it's the same as being gay.

My guess is he's been hiding this from you for years. Working away from home will have given him the oppertunity to indulge. If she is the first she wont be the last.