Just received this - please help

jungle_jane

he might not be physically abusive, but it sounds like he is emotionally abusive and extremely controlling. Apart from that, if the information you have is correct then he is a callous liar with no scruples.

if i were you, i would be building up a support list to help you through this...for example i would consult those lawyers. carry on posting here. tell your mum what is going on. join some women's support groups. recognise his abusive behaviour and seek the help of the resources available to women in a similar position. post here - you already have an army of supporters wanting to help.

jees, doorstep. feel so bad for you - sending you major good vibes hun xx

peachyprice

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

I've just received another photo.

Op seems to know a lot about who took them and where they were taken, I've asked how come?

Is there a chance that your OH has been swinging with this couple and it's all gone a bit too far? I can't think of any other way someone would be in the bedroom taking photos, seemingly with their knowledge.

Doorstep_horror

He's just sent a few photos and he's told me where they were taken and by whom, I'm waiting for a reply to find out how he knows so much.

seabright

Doorstep_horror wrote: »

I wish I could just chuck him out, but the house we live in has just his name on the mortgage, it was purchased whilst married, but as I'm a sahm he said it would be easier to just do it in his name.

This isn't true, it's an asset of the marriage, so will be considered as a joint asset for any divorce

Saint_Chris

Hi
facebook...............argh the root of a lot of trouble, but good if you use it right. Can you get on his page now, or does he no longer use it.
At the end of the day only you knows what's gone in your past, and you who knows what you want in the future.

This forum is wonderful and as you can see there is a lot of support and good advice for you, and people would be here for you anytime you need to talk.

Bitsy_Beans

peachyprice wrote: »

Is there a chance that your OH has been swinging with this couple and it's all gone a bit too far? I can't think of any other way someone would be in the bedroom taking photos, seemingly with their knowledge.

I was wondering the same thing, especially if the photo's are looking a bit "posed".

Sorry you are having to go through this OP, but you will cope, the sun will still rise in the mornings and if you feel yourself start to waver if you decide to finally put the nail in the coffin of your relationship try re-reading this thread, if not the info you've been sent.

Doorstep_horror

peachyprice wrote: »

Is there a chance that your OH has been swinging with this couple and it's all gone a bit too far? I can't think of any other way someone would be in the bedroom taking photos, seemingly with their knowledge.

Only one photo was taken in a bedroom, other at a club and the one ive just received was taken by my husband, i know that because he's in front of a mirror.

whitewing

I know it is horrible, but also in some sense does it really matter? You had already decided he wasn't for you. This just maybe confirms it. I see no particular reason for ongoing communication with this bloke. He doesn't need to drag it all out for you. (I understand that he is hurt or angry too but that's his problem).

You do need to get some support for yourself though.

denton6

big hugs to you, keep strong , sometimes it's hard to believe that these are the people who we thought we knew.

Doorstep_horror

To be truthful I think it does matter, at least to me. Because prior to this I thought it was all nicey nice, we were going to do a online divorce but now I feel like I've been lied to once to often and I need to do this via a solicitor.