Just received this - please help

make_me_wise

You know your husband better than any of us. It could be that you just live with a domineering, selfish individual who is tricky to live with.

However if the things I wrote in that second paragraph ring true then I think you are suffering abuse. It is incredibly hard to face that the person you love and share your life with could be capable of doing these things on purpose.

Do you live in fear, change your behaviour so as not to antagonise him, spend most of your time and energy trying to second guess him and stay one step ahead? Do you ever feel valued or do you live with constant criticism? Can you ever please him or are you made to feel like your efforts are never quite enough?

I am so sorry that you are upset hun.

Doorstep_horror

Saint_chris - he started his last affair on facebook, I'm just really scared at the moment, and I thank you and everyone from the bottom of my heart.

whitewing

What are you scared of? The thought that this really is the end of your marriage now? Or are you scared of him?

Doorstep_horror

There's just so much I need/want to say. But firstly let me say thank you

He was never violent or aggressive, just tended to put everything before me i.e I had a tummy bug but still had to take the children to school between bouts of illness whilst he was at home.

each_uisge

OP - don't really have anything to add to what others have been advising/suggesting, just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you.

Been in the same position myself with three young children and I know how hard it is.

Take Care of yourself x

Doorstep_horror

whitewing wrote: »

What are you scared of? The thought that this really is the end of your marriage now? Or are you scared of him?

That it is really over, that I won't cope and that I'm scared of what he'll try to do. (no violence -I know I keep saying it but he is not a violent man, my partner before him was so I know the difference).

whitewing

You're better off without him, girl.

Don't make any decisions or take any action tonight.

whitewing

You will cope. I did when I split up with son's dad. Plenty of people on here to help you cope. And plenty of advice on help too. Take your time with it all. Keeping calm is good advice. Anything he says to you, you can post on here and we'll give our views. Don't you worry. You will get through this.

Doorstep_horror

I've just received another photo.

Op seems to know a lot about who took them and where they were taken, I've asked how come?

whitewing

What is he actually saying (with personal details left out, of course)