huge row with husband over leaving wedding early

RuthnJasper

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

Isn't that par for the course at a wedding?? I pretty much detest going to them, but I would never let on!

Does anyone actually enjoy them!?! :think:

I find my enjoyment of a wedding is in direct proportion to the number of handsome single men amongst the guests. Bit of a mystery; can't explain that at all...!

globetraveller

Gingham_R wrote: »

It sounds like something over nothing.

You needed to go home - fair enough.

He needed to stay - fair enough.

I don't understand why he didn't just phone a taxi for you and I don't understand why you didn't ask someone else for help with the taxi - like one of the bar staff.

And I don't really understand how this can develop into an argument.

Why didn't you ask him to stay on his own when you realised he was going to come home with you? As the best man, it's obviously going to be upsetting for him if he feels he was dragged away from the party.

Absolutely agree. Just get it behind you and get on with this holiday. We have only heard one side of the story. Weddings can be long, boring affairs quite often. From his point of view, he probably felt you had spent the night whingeing. You then sought attention by sitting with tissue stuffed in your ears and asking the grooms brother if his wife wanted to go home( and continue to seek attention this morning by posting here). I'll bet you both weren't on your best behaviour. If last night was a one off and you don't spend your life being p issed off with your husband's behaviour then let it go. Hey- I've been there. Really fed up with OH when he got drunk at a family wedding, having to leave early, trying to keep him awake in the taxi. Boy I was fuming! The next morning I had calmed down and realised that OH had had one too many as he also had a speech to do and its something he would avoid like the plague if he could. We ended up having a laugh about the whole thing. Life's too short.

basscadette

I see your user name is Athina - your husband is not Greek is he?

My Greek ex was totally like this and because I am very independent, we blew up loads over this kind of behaviour. He thought he was the man in the relationship holding all the orders, just like his dad, and I was there to do as I am expected to do as a 'good girl'. We 're not together anymore obviously, but your OH's attitude honks of Greek Man Syndrome.

poet123

I would have taken two paracetamol had a bit of fresh air and stuck it out. The Op's OH may have been worried about her getting a taxi alone abroad and felt obliged to go with her, I know mine would have. Sometimes we just have to grin and bear it and put others before ourselves.

Person_one

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

Isn't that par for the course at a wedding?? I pretty much detest going to them, but I would never let on!

Does anyone actually enjoy them!?! :think:

It varies surely, depending on who the other guests are! Some are torture some are wonderful.

I was referring to being miserable due to pain or illness, if you're going to be miserable anyway I'd wonder why you agreed to go in the first place!

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

I would have taken two paracetamol had a bit of fresh air and stuck it out. The Op's OH may have been worried about her getting a taxi alone abroad and felt obliged to go with her, I know mine would have. Sometimes we just have to grin and bear it and put others before ourselves.

Why does that apply to the OP more than to her OH though? Why can't he 'grin and bear' a few minutes worry until the OP gets back to the hotel and texts to let him know? Why can't he 'grin and bear' missing half an hour of the wedding to take her and come back?

Neither of those will cause him physical pain or suffering, but the OP grinning and bearing it through a nasty headache is much harder and more unpleasant.

neverdespairgirl

My OH was best man at a wedding in Istanbul in July.

He had to stay until the end, as he was responsible for getting (drunk) guests back on to a boat, then off it at the other end and into mini buses back to the hotel area.

We agreed that, if I'd had enough before 2am, or if our 6 year old had had enough, I'd get a taxi back to the hotel with our son, and he'd follow later.

As it happened, we all had a great time, and Isaac was fine, so we all stayed until the end and then went back on the boat.

I wouldn't have done the paper in the ears, hanging around outside thing, though. I'd have just called a cab (or got someone to do it for me) and told OH that I wasn't feeling well, was going back to the hotel, and "have fun, see you later".

victory

I get the feeling unwell part but why does everyone have to be involved in the scenario, the lady felt unwell fair enough, go home and leave them all to it, if it was a headache sleep would be very beneficial to it, if it was attention seeking with going outside and making a big song and dance about it and putting everyone in an awkward situation and making a fuss over an easy solution then that is out of order.

You can have many unwell days (headache not life threatening is it?) and go home, attention seek etc but there was only one wedding and he was the best man, you can't ever re-create that special evening:D

BugglyB

I guess really what it boils down to is we can't judge because we weren't there.

Theres a huge difference between OPs husband saying to her 'I really want you to stay til the end, can't you just hang on a few more hours, I'd really appreciate it' and 'you selfish cow, can't believe you're causing such a fuss, I forbid you to leave'

Equally theres a huge difference between op saying 'I'm really tired, you look like you're having a wonderful time how about I just leave you to it' and 'you're so selfish i can't believe you've chosen him over me' etc.

victory

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

My OH was best man at a wedding in Istanbul in July.

He had to stay until the end, as he was responsible for getting (drunk) guests back on to a boat, then off it at the other end and into mini buses back to the hotel area.

We agreed that, if I'd had enough before 2am, or if our 6 year old had had enough, I'd get a taxi back to the hotel with our son, and he'd follow later.

As it happened, we all had a great time, and Isaac was fine, so we all stayed until the end and then went back on the boat.

I wouldn't have done the paper in the ears, hanging around outside thing, though. I'd have just called a cab (or got someone to do it for me) and told OH that I wasn't feeling well, was going back to the hotel, and "have fun, see you later".

Exactly what I was trying to say:D