huge row with husband over leaving wedding early

victory

ringo is right, it is not as if it was just a normal night in the pub or a visit to the cinema it was a wedding that can never be repeated and he was best man with best man duties and this 1am thing of course it could be said it was late but that also is a complete one off, a wedding cannot be reconstructed when someone feels better, it is a one off

euronorris

victory wrote: »

ringo is right, it is not as if it was just a normal night in the pub or a visit to the cinema it was a wedding that can never be repeated and he was best man with best man duties and this 1am thing of course it could be said it was late but that also is a complete one off, a wedding cannot be reconstructed when someone feels better, it is a one off

But why does one need their partner there to 'support' them, particularly right through to the end?

It's a wedding, not a traumatic event. I'm sure the OP's OH would've had a fab time without her.

balletshoes

victory wrote: »

ringo is right, it is not as if it was just a normal night in the pub or a visit to the cinema it was a wedding that can never be repeated and he was best man with best man duties and this 1am thing of course it could be said it was late but that also is a complete one off, a wedding cannot be reconstructed when someone feels better, it is a one off

this particular wedding is going to celebrated again though - in Greece next time - and I'm sure next time the OP will be more prepared for very loud noise, and a very late night.

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balletshoes wrote: »

this particular wedding is going to celebrated again though - in Greece next time - and I'm sure next time the OP will be more prepared for very loud noise, and a very late night.

And maybe discussing a 'plan B' - what happens if she wants to get out early like last time? I'm sure talking about it beforehand would help alleviation problems

adouglasmhor

JBD wrote: »

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And to all the people saying she should have taken paracetamol, not the safest thing to do if she had been drinking alcohol.

Why?

Q Is it dangerous to take paracetamol and drink alcohol?
A

No. Indeed paracetamol and alcohol are metabolised by the same oxidative enzymes and alcohol may even confer some protection to the liver in the event of a paracetamol overdose (19).

In certain circumstances, alcoholics may be at higher risk of liver injury in the event of a paracetamol overdose. However, paracetamol is used as an analgesic for patients in hospital liver units, including alcoholic patients (20).

http://www.pharmweb.net/pwmirror/pwy/paracetamol/pharmwebpichealth.html

pinkclouds

BugglyB wrote: »

Erm, I think what you're saying is that you decided to leave with your children.

I think this is different from your husband sending you home.

Well, I think it's the same thing. The reason I left is because we (the parents) decided it was time for our kids to go to bed. They couldn't go on their own and they needed me to bf them and put them to bed. If I didn't have the car, then my husband would have had to send me (and the kids) to the hotel in a taxi. So, he was "sending us home" *and* we "decided to leave". As it was, he just escorted us to the car and said goodbye there.

Anyway, that's by-the-by. It's obvious there are always a range of opinions on anything. It's more important that the OP's husband should be of the same opinion as the OP. However, doubtlessly they will move on from that and hopefully it won't happen again - whether the OP packs extra painkillers and earplugs next time or whether her husband agrees she should go home when she's too ill/tired/deafened. I apologize for sidetracking the discussion on to the groom's brother's children so much.

Torry_Quine

ringo_24601 wrote: »

I would have been very, very disappointed if my best man had gone home early at my wedding. Was there no where you could have gone to sit out the rest of the evening and let your 'headache' calm down?

Is there a female equivalent of 'man-ning up'? What if this was your best friend's wedding? Would you be willing to go home early because your bloke had a headache?

If my bridesmaid had been ill or my husband's best man then I would have been the first to tell them to go home. Why on earth would I be disappointed, the only disappointment would be that they were ill and unable to fully enjoy the day.

If my husband had a headache then of course I would be willing to go home early, I certainly couldn't stay and enjoy myself.

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Torry_Quine wrote: »

If my bridesmaid had been ill or my husband's best man then I would have been the first to tell them to go home. Why on earth would I be disappointed, the only disappointment would be that they were ill and unable to fully enjoy the day.

If my husband had a headache then of course I would be willing to go home early, I certainly couldn't stay and enjoy myself.

This does strike me as a 'I don't want to be here' headache

Person_one

ringo_24601 wrote: »

This does strike me as a 'I don't want to be here' headache

Are you accusing the OP of lying?

So what if it was anyway? Since when is 1am considered unreasonably early to leave a wedding?

Some posts on this thread have me baffled.

marvellousaunt

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If my bridesmaid had been ill or my husband's best man then I would have been the first to tell them to go home. Why on earth would I be disappointed, the only disappointment would be that they were ill and unable to fully enjoy the day.

AGREED.

If it's got to 1am on your wedding day and you are THAT bothered by one or two guests leaving, then I think there are a bigger problems. You've just got married, you're about to go on honeymoon/have your wedding night, you've had the entire evening surrounded by your close friends/family who have been celebrating with you - other people have other things going on in their lives aside from your wedding. They were actually there with you, and if they have to go, they have to go!

People are allowed to be ill and go home from a wedding. Especially at 1am. Lay off the OP!