huge row with husband over leaving wedding early

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Person_one wrote: »

Are you accusing the OP of lying?

So what if it was anyway? Since when is 1am considered unreasonably early to leave a wedding?

Some posts on this thread have me baffled.

Me too.
Like whether one think 1am is late or early some believe it should be forced on the other person too...

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Torry_Quine wrote: »

If my bridesmaid had been ill or my husband's best man then I would have been the first to tell them to go home. Why on earth would I be disappointed, the only disappointment would be that they were ill and unable to fully enjoy the day.

If my husband had a headache then of course I would be willing to go home early, I certainly couldn't stay and enjoy myself.

True.
But it wasn't the bridesmaid or the best man. It was the wife of best man. Not needed there what so ever.
I cannot see why a person "having fun", who has one of the most important roles of the wedding day need "support" of poor other half who either is bored as she doesn't know many, different language or what ever or is feeling headache.

The same way I cannot see why person with headache need other half to go home early to "support" her, especialy as person with headache will most likely just go to sleep. It's not like she was being violently sick and needed her hair held up so they don't get messy!!:D (just kidding).

Mrs.W_2

ringo_24601 wrote: »

This does strike me as a 'I don't want to be here' headache

Why, how many people over the years have developed an 'I don't want to be here' headache while in your company?

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Person_one wrote: »

Are you accusing the OP of lying?

So what if it was anyway? Since when is 1am considered unreasonably early to leave a wedding?

Some posts on this thread have me baffled.

I just have the view that the OP bight just be a bit of a whinging nag.. "It's late, the music is sooo loud, i have a headache, i want to go". We're only seeing one side of this and i'm reading between the lines a lot.

Anyway, it's over now. No need to bicker over it still

Torry_Quine

Any wrote: »

True.
But it wasn't the bridesmaid or the best man. It was the wife of best man. Not needed there what so ever.
I cannot see why a person "having fun", who has one of the most important roles of the wedding day need "support" of poor other half who either is bored as she doesn't know many, different language or what ever or is feeling headache.

The same way I cannot see why person with headache need other half to go home early to "support" her, especialy as person with headache will most likely just go to sleep. It's not like she was being violently sick and needed her hair held up so they don't get messy!!:D (just kidding).

I was answering ringo_24601 who would have been disappointed if his best man went 'early'.

I do disagree that other half isn't needed to go with the person who is unwell though.

Mrs.W wrote: »

Why, how many people over the years have developed an 'I don't want to be here' headache while in your company?

Good point. :rotfl:

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Mrs.W wrote: »

Why, how many people over the years have developed an 'I don't want to be here' headache while in your company?

Thankfully my wife doesn't use that excuse! Our wedding also finished at 11.30pm and the band wasn't too loud

We don't know if the OP is actually friends with the groom (or is it just the DH's friend?). Did she even want to go in the first place? So many unknown things.

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Torry_Quine wrote: »

I was answering ringo_24601 who would have been disappointed if his best man went 'early'.

I do disagree that other half isn't needed to go with the person who is unwell though.



Good point. :rotfl:

I think that depends on the wedding. If it is the sit down style and the best man is not keeping company to the groom then it's no problem, but if it is the party style where best man and groom have silly dances organised then I suppose it would be little disappointing.

That is why some people are not compatible... Headache over "loud music" is not serious illness to warrant spoiling all the fun. And I am the woman!! I wouldn't expect my OH to go with me.

Also this approach would stop silly arguments like these... because let;s face it, if the OH didn't think it was imaginary headache he wouldn't be so p'd off the next day.. Whether it is true or not is another matter.

Torry_Quine

Any wrote: »

I think that depends on the wedding. If it is the sit down style and the best man is not keeping company to the groom then it's no problem, but if it is the party style where best man and groom have silly dances organised then I suppose it would be little disappointing.

That is why some people are not compatible... Headache over "loud music" is not serious illness to warrant spoiling all the fun. And I am the woman!! I wouldn't expect my OH to go with me.

Also this approach would stop silly arguments like these... because let;s face it, if the OH didn't think it was imaginary headache he wouldn't be so p'd off the next day.. Whether it is true or not is another matter.

Whatever the type of wedding shouldn't in my opinion make any difference. I don't see how wanting to leave could spoil the fun of those who are still there!

Headache and loud music would be more than enough for me to go, staying would be spoiling our fun and I do mean our. As I don't drive he would take me back and I'm sure he wouldn't go back to the wedding especially not at 1am.

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Torry_Quine wrote: »

Whatever the type of wedding shouldn't in my opinion make any difference. I don't see how wanting to leave could spoil the fun of those who are still there!

Headache and loud music would be more than enough for me to go, staying would be spoiling our fun and I do mean our. As I don't drive he would take me back and I'm sure he wouldn't go back to the wedding especially not at 1am.

So he would not be drinking either? As you don't drive he would have to not drink and drive home?

We are definitely on about 2 different types of wedding here now..
I am on about party wedding, you are on about sit down eat your meal and go home wedding.
Some weddings have program where the best man features, that is how it would be spoiling fun.

Maybe we are looking at this from 2 different age perspectives? Without trying to be funny with age related things.. please don't take this the wrong way.

Torry_Quine

Any wrote: »

So he would not be drinking either? As you don't drive he would have to not drink and drive home?

We are definitely on about 2 different types of wedding here now..
I am on about party wedding, you are on about sit down eat your meal and go home wedding.
Some weddings have program where the best man features, that is how it would be spoiling fun.

Maybe we are looking at this from 2 different age perspectives? Without trying to be funny with age related things.. please don't take this the wrong way.

He never drinks when we're out for that reason.

I've never known a wedding where the best man had anything specifically to do once the evening starts but I would call all weddings a party so don't see why you need to diferentiate.

You probably are right that we're different ages and I see what you say there. However the weddings I've been to recently have been of younger people and no there has been no input from anyone. The music starts and people dance or not.