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Lotus-eater

JennyP wrote: »

Why???? What odd habits have you got?

The most common thing that puts me off someone on internet dating is that they are too pushy and don't listen e.g. I have told a couple of people that I'm uncomfortable giving my phone number out after only one or two emails and they say they don't like email and carry on pressing me for my number. I kind of think, if you can't listen to what I'm saying now at the start, what hope is there?

Nothing worse then someone who won't listen.

I'm not telling you my odd habits

Februarycat

There is freedating.co.uk, its not bad and has quite a good forum, but saying that I have not actually met anyone off there but made a good e mail friend off it.

JennyP

I just rang Match.com and told them I didn't want my subscription at the end of the free trial so could I cancel. They then offered me a half price deal so I took it on condition that it wasn't on auto-renew. True to their word, they've put me on a non-auto-renew subscription! Result.

Seems like they are like mobile phone companies and Sky TV with their retention deals!

So now I've got a whole half-price month to fail miserably to meet someone instead of a mere 3 days!!!!

There_Goes_Trouble

Good luck Jenny!!

My date tonight wasn't great, so I'm back to the beginning again....*sigh*

I'm just looking for a normal man. Anyone out there?

Scotty1.7

'puts hand up'

Yep,

I can't find a decent girl to chat with and take out to try and make something happen

[Deleted User]

I am afraid my experience of dating sites was not overly good. Most of the time it seemed like if men were on there, there were very good reasons. I became quite good at sussing out the ones looking for 'fun'.., but most turned out to be social disabled in some way or kindof wanting a relationship.., but there being very good reasons why they weren't in one. One in particular, told me all about his various illnesses (when he wasn't looking at my bust and making various remarks about it), and was an obvious drinker (but the 'date' did make me giggle lol). I met a really nice man, who after two dates turned into a rampant beasty and then wouldn't even talk to me when I said no lol.

Oh and you get to be a good spotter of 70's and 80's clothing styles from men saying they are 48 when really they are 20 years older lol (with old photo's).

So personally, I'd try to find someone in real life who was available.., maybe through doing volunteer work etc.

RichGold

People try too hard on dates. A date I went on a while back saw a very nice educated lady (primary school teacher) and me in a country pub with her downing 4 large glasses of wine and almost raping me in my car on the way home. Normally that would be a result, but that day it didn't seem appropriate.

I don't know why I bother.

Lotus-eater

RichGold wrote: »

People try too hard on dates. A date I went on a while back saw a very nice educated lady (primary school teacher) and me in a country pub with her downing 4 large glasses of wine and almost raping me in my car on the way home. Normally that would be a result, but that day it didn't seem appropriate.

I don't know why I bother.

She was probably really nervous, I would definitely have called this one back.

SailorSam

JennyP wrote: »

Why???? What odd habits have you got?

The most common thing that puts me off someone on internet dating is that they are too pushy and don't listen e.g. I have told a couple of people that I'm uncomfortable giving my phone number out after only one or two emails and they say they don't like email and carry on pressing me for my number. I kind of think, if you can't listen to what I'm saying now at the start, what hope is there?

I'm more comfortable just emailing, perhaps you need to be more confident to actually 'speak' but a couple of women i've met online have said these days when it's so easy to block a caller on your mobile, if things go wrong, they think talking is better.
If you start messaging a guy it's so much easier for him to lie when he has time to think what to write in an email, if you phone him and ask a question he has to be able to 'think on his feet' and remember what he said last time.

RichGold

Lotus-eater wrote: »

She was probably really nervous, I would definitely have called this one back.

I don't think so. I forget to mention that the second large glass of wine was the one that she spent the time drinking exclusively talking about her ex.
I'm quite happily coming around to the idea that I have no-one to answer to, no-one elses problems to contend with and no-one elses kids under my feet. I'm about as happy as you can be on your own.

That's not to say life couldn't be better, but it could certainly be a lot worse.