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mill1exx

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Well I'm a firm believer that you only get out what you put in.... so whatever works for you.

Yes i def agree with you so possibly that's where I am going wrong.

M x

There_Goes_Trouble

Well, you're not actually 'dating' these guys in the real sense of the word. For me, 'dating' implies that you're seeing someone seriously and are hoping that it is a long term thing. I think these first time meet ups are just that, meet ups. You're not cheating on anyone since you're not in a relationship with any of them. I do think you need to be honest with them though and if they ask, tell them you are meeting up with a few people.

For example, I'm going to a party on the 26th which will be full of people I don't currently know. Should I now cancel all other social activities I've got planned just in case I meet someone at that party? You're going to tell me I'm silly for even suggesting it. Although these internet meet ups are booked in advance, they're not real 'dates' in my opinion, just a first meeting. The more people you meet, the greater the chance of meeting Mr Right. I say go for it!!

VestanPance

mill1exx wrote: »

I don't understand how you can do 1 at a time though, because surely you are chatting to more than 1 person at the 1 time ? So do you just stop all conversation with someone because you are planning on meeting someone else next week. Then if that doesnt work out do you go back to that 1st person, which would then be a week later ? I am pants at POF etiquette

m x

The statistics suggest guys get far less messages, so they probably don't have quiet as many options to have numerous people on the go at any one time.

mill1exx

Oh the wonderful world of dating.

Do you reply to every message you recieve ?

I will be honest .... i don't. May come across as rude but really don't have the time to go back and forward with messages to someone I have no interest in whatsoever. On the other side too though, I have sent messages to males and don't wait for a reply either.

Just interested in what everyone else does.

m x

There_Goes_Trouble

I tend to reply to anyone who has made an effort with their message, even if it's a 'no thanks' message. But then, I'm probabaly quite a bit older than you and don't get very many messages, so don't have so much to keep up with.

I did get a message today though, from an 18 year old lad!!! Flippin' heck I've got friends my own age with children older than him, he's the same age as my niece!!! I haven't replied yet but I will, since my profile quite clearly states that I'm only interested in meeting people a similar age to myself. (am secretly a tiny bit flattered though....)

mill1exx

The last time I was on POF I went down the 'no thanks 'route. I often got responses from these messages that weren't very polite or asking why. This then dragged these on too, so now I just choose not to.

Feel a big bit flattered ...... I would lol

M x

There_Goes_Trouble

Any that come back and ask why I tell them straight. Then I block them so it can't drag on.

Most guys that reply say thanks for replying and leave it at that, but as I say I suspect I'm quite a lot older than you so the men I get contacts from are (usually!!) older too and less inclined to argue. The only ones I've really had problems with are the younger ones who are just arrogant and I simply send a blunt reply and then block them. I certainly don't get into conversations with guys I have no interest in.... especially when they're 22 years younger than me!!

mill1exx

I dont think I am a good bit younger than you ... i am knocking on the door of 40 .... unfortunately.

Think I may once again do the 'no thanks'. It's nice to be nice I suppose.

I find this POF really addictive. A spare few minutes and i have to go on and have a nosey. I need a life lol

M x

There_Goes_Trouble

Ahhh, so you and I are in 'competition' then eh? Found any good ones lately? LOL!

mill1exx

Unfortunately I havent lol. (not that I would share it with my competitor ;o)

I do think that POF does have you chatting and meeting people who you normally wouldn't. Either due to social circles or just people who normally you just wouldnt look at twice. It has it's advantages.

Waiting patiently for someone who has been on a date this eve to come back and share

M x