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Lotus-eater

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

I just had a message from someone on POF informing me that they MIGHT be interested in me and that I should message him to tell him more about myself to see if I have a chance with him *rolls eyes*

I would be glad that someone like that, showed their true colours at the first fence, no mucking about

coin_operated_girl

I just blocked him, I couldn't be bothered to reply.

I've got my date in a few hours eeeek. Someone else messaged me last night and asked if I wanted to go for a drink later this week. He seems nice so I think I will say yes. Its funny because when me and my ex broke up I made a massive thread about it and people were telling me to go out and date a few guys and enjoy being single. I was adamant that I wouldn't do that because I'm not the most confident person ever and I've never really done the whole dating thing so it seemed like a really scary idea, but actually I think it was good advice- I'm really looking forward to meeting new people. Right now I'm not bothered if these dates don't turn into anything more, if it happens then it happens, if not then hopefully I would have made some friends.

Its a really interesting experience though. I've been talking to the guy I'm meeting today quite a lot and we seem to have a lot of banter and make fun of each other etc like you would with a friend. Whereas with the guy who wants to meet later on in the week, we haven't spoken that much and theres not really any banter but he seems nice and maybe we will have more to talk about as we haven't spoken so much. I think my biggest fear going on these dates is the dreaded awkward silences. I tend to find that either I click with someone straight away and I'm able to talk to them like I would an old friend or I don't click with them and I really struggle to make conversation. I'm not one of these people who are able to make conversation with anyone.

becky170

Lots of people seem to have dates lined up. How do you all cope with seeing a number of different people at the same time? To me it just seems wrong to date multiple people at the same time, but then I guess it's the norm with internet dating.

Ladyhawk

becky170 wrote: »

Lots of people seem to have dates lined up. How do you all cope with seeing a number of different people at the same time? To me it just seems wrong to date multiple people at the same time, but then I guess it's the norm with internet dating.

It's hardly like they are sleeping with each person and leading them on. Just keeping their options open for a few weeks to see what happens. Good internet dates (ie ones that you would want to see more than once rather than ones you just just have no spark with) are quite rare in my experience so why put of the opportunity to meet someone who could be your "one"?

Well... i have added more photos to POF and still no emails. Oh well. I was chatting to wto lovely (but not fanciable) guys at work today and told them to keep an eye out for someone for me. Maybe that will work better than POF. We did have a laugh about my requirements though which are not suitable for printing on this forum. They are not my actual requirements, just something I say to shut people up who ask me why at the age of 32 i am still single.

mill1exx

Hello .... My 2nd time now doing the internet dating thing and it is getting addictive again already ! Joined POF again 10 days ago and was surprised that the majority of males are the same ones that were there 2 years ago when I was on before. I am hoping that like me, they are back again rather than the thought that they have been actively on the site for the last 2 years !

Anyway, so far, just the same as before. A few nice people to chat to and a a few too many villages are missing their idiots. The majority of misguided ones I have came across are very much 'I am single, you are single, how about it?' .... erm no.

Had my 1st date the other night. Nice bloke but turned out not to be my type. Been chatting to another 2 at the mo so will see how it goes.

It's good to be able to come on here and read everyone elses experiences and know you are not alone in the minefield that is internet dating.

M x

Lotus-eater

becky170 wrote: »

Lots of people seem to have dates lined up. How do you all cope with seeing a number of different people at the same time? To me it just seems wrong to date multiple people at the same time, but then I guess it's the norm with internet dating.

I wouldn't do it, I could only do one at a time. Mostly because I'm crap at names and remembering things, so one at a time is as much as I could deal with.

mill1exx

I don't understand how you can do 1 at a time though, because surely you are chatting to more than 1 person at the 1 time ? So do you just stop all conversation with someone because you are planning on meeting someone else next week. Then if that doesnt work out do you go back to that 1st person, which would then be a week later ? I am pants at POF etiquette

m x

Lotus-eater

mill1exx wrote: »

I don't understand how you can do 1 at a time though, because surely you are chatting to more than 1 person at the 1 time ? So do you just stop all conversation with someone because you are planning on meeting someone else next week. Then if that doesnt work out do you go back to that 1st person, which would then be a week later ? I am pants at POF etiquette

m x

I'm not dating, so take anything I say with a pinch of salt, but I could only talk to one person properly at once.

mill1exx

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I'm not dating, so take anything I say with a pinch of salt, but I could only talk to one person properly at once.

I think I would be so much better not dating as I am so bad at it. I tend to witter on a lot of shengus.

I am a tad stand offish too, as because I am chatting to a few people then I think that obviously they must be too, therefore i tend not to put too much into it. If that makes sense ?

m x

Lotus-eater

Well I'm a firm believer that you only get out what you put in.... so whatever works for you.