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jakem_2

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Recently had a really really nice conversation on POF with some who had the same breed of dag as my and my housemate, decided to just ask if she fancied takignt he dogs for a walk sometime. Surpirsingly I have heard from since that request. Did I do something wrong just askign if she would like to walk the dogs toegther?

Lol lol Scotty, not actually laughing at you about the dog walking, but laughing at myself regarding a conversation I had over similar subject, when it wasnt actually dog walking he meant...

I havent had any dates yet, but decided to go on a coffee date first with this one guy, its didnt go to well tbh, we were in a pub about 3 o'clock sat afternoon, as was the best place to meet, carpark, plenty people around.
Anyway, they had the music on and was quite loud, so we were chatting, and he couldnt hear me very well or I him, but I kept saying pardon, can you repeat that, (he was doing most of the talking) but got fed up asking him to repeat everything, so just decided to nod, make the right noises and smile, and thinking give it another 10 mins then I am out of here.

So of course he's chat chat chatting, and I hear or thought I heard dog walking, park, together, sometime, etc etc and thought to myself what is he on about, I havent mentioned a dog, and as far as I knew he never mentioned a dog in any of his comunications to me.
So am still nodding, grinning as can hardly hear a word he said, even tho he had a voice similar to Ashley Peacock from Corrie it was quite low and what with the pipe music playing I couldnt really hear him.

I thought I better get him to repeat about taking the dogs for a walk in the park, and let him know I havent got a dog, so I leaned over and said to him, I dont understand what your on about the dog walking for, as I havent got a dog, and I laughed.... I think he took my laugh to be a coyish gesture or something, he then said... ' come on, am not on about dog walking, am on about dogging!!!! :eek:
I sat and looked at him in shock, there was me thinking he's waffling on about taking dogs for a walk, am nodding, smiling and all that so he thinks am agreeing to dogging lol lol

I got away as quick as I could, never spoke or heard from him again

lufcgirl

Scotty...couple of days in is too early to show your hand! Or so I think. And walking dogs...probably after work...when it's dark by 5pm...with a guy she's never met before...it just seems weird and I'm only reading it as an outsider so I can see how it was interpreted by her.

My meet up was cancelled this morning. Secretly I'm relieved, I was out last night at the Britney Spears concert and had a few too many! Still...it's rearranged for Tuesday but again there is no expectation because I don't particulary want a relationship. If it happens it does, if not then I've got a few glasses of coca-cola and a challenge of pool, and a friend of course!

coin_operated_girl

So does anyone have any tips on going on the actual date?

I've got a date on tuesday and I'm really looking forward to it. We have made a bit of a online dating faux pas and have organised something for the entire day. I just hope we get on otherwise its going to be really awkward. I wasn't really planning on meeting someone so soon (only been chatting for 4 or 5 days) but hes really funny and I feel like I'm talking to an old friend rather than some random stranger, but obviously things may be different in real life.

I haven't done the whole dating thing in a long time and I would say I'm pretty inexperienced (I'm 24 years old and was with my ex for 6 years so I've not been on many dates really- certainly not with a complete stranger!). So any advice- dos and don'ts- would be welcomed

newcook

coin_operated_girl wrote: »

I haven't done the whole dating thing in a long time and I would say I'm pretty inexperienced (I'm 24 years old and was with my ex for 6 years so I've not been on many dates really- certainly not with a complete stranger!). So any advice- dos and don'ts- would be welcomed

my do's and donts are:

DO:
- let friends know where you are going, who with and what time you are expected back
- have a friend call you half an hour or so into the date, if the date is going bad you can say there has been an emergency and you have to go
- relax and enjoy yourself!
- let friends know if you are going to another venue

DONT:
- go off somewhere where there will be hardly anyone (such as woods in a park)
- forget to tell friends if you go somewhere else
- talk about your ex
- turn your phone off/put it on silent (if your friends do a 'check-in call' and you dont answer they will panic!)

mackemdave

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OMG a full day for a first date....Is it going to be local or are you travelling somewhere together.....I think you should re consider your plans as this is definetly a no no

lufcgirl

mackemdave wrote: »

OMG a full day for a first date....Is it going to be local or are you travelling somewhere together.....I think you should re consider your plans as this is definetly a no no

I did the same last year on a first date, we met in a city at 1pm and didn't leave until about 9pm.
We went to an animal park and walked around town, then just sat in a bar and talked for hours. Turned out to be the best relationship I've ever had!

I think though to be able to manage a whole day together you have to know the person quite well first. We'd been talking for three months before we actually did and even before we met we knew we were going to be together in the end. But I wouldn't recommend this unless your sure you have something to fill the time. Being in a bar would just bore you after a while!

coin_operated_girl

mackemdave wrote: »

OMG a full day for a first date....Is it going to be local or are you travelling somewhere together.....I think you should re consider your plans as this is definetly a no no

Eeek I know. We both live in London so we are meeting in central. I didn't mean to plan it like that at all. What happened was he mentioned that he has tickets to see a new show Russell Howard is recording and I just said I was jealous as I love Russell Howard and he asked if I wanted to go with him so I said yeah. Then the next day he said that he saw on the email that they advise you to get there 2 hours early, which I've checked and seems to be true as they give out way more tickets than they have seats to make sure there's a full audience, so I thought that's ok because I won't actually be talking to him much during the show. Then we decided we better get some food beforehand as we will be there for a while. So before I knew it we had agreed to meet up at 2:30pm not sure what time the show goes on to, but it doesn't start until 6ish I think.

So yeah, I'm not gonna be doing that again for a first date! Can you tell I'm really bad at this Internet dating thing?

pea-benn

Coin operated girl - I also have a daytime 1st date tomorrow which we haven't agreed quite what we're going to do - just a time and place to meet. I've only ever done evening dates or a quick daytime coffee when we've both had other places to be afterwards. Apparently it's going to rain all day so I'll use the weather as an excuse to make an early departure if I realise I've make a huge mistake!!

SailorSam

pea-benn, what about 10 pin bowling or a museum if you've got one local.

pea-benn

Thanks SailorSam. We're meeting in central London so plenty of things to do and will probably go for the museum or gallery option. I think I'll give the bowling a miss though. Not sure I want to show just how useless I am at it on a first date!!!