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Ladyhawk

Best of luck Phil - I agree... Your profile looks really good now so fingers crossed that there are some nice ladies in your thriving metropolis who will want to meet up with you

ali-t

philb120 wrote: »

Thank you, I think it looks a lot better now

I didn't see the first 2 edits but your current profile is nice and you come across as a nice bloke.

philb120

Thank you Ali

Maureen43

Can anyone give me some technical help with Match?

I have set up my own search (within 15 miles of my home, only with photo etc) and have now looked at everyone within that search.

How can I now filter that search to show only new users as otherwise I will have to trawl through the whole list regularly looking for new names?

Anyone know?

JustKeepSwimming_2

VestanPance wrote: »

The thing to beware of with paid dating sites is many don't highlight who are paid up members and who are not. That is something I thought was morally lax when working on them a few years back. From a business point it makes sense as it looks like there are more people active than there actually are.

Most allow people to sign up and create a profile free of charge, but block messaging, reading messages, or responding to messages unless they have paid. A good few profiles will be those of people who are past members that have quit but not deleted the profile, or those that have never paid up and just constantly browse.

Good advice there from VestanPance, as always.

I have also found it very difficult to completely delete my profile from a dating site after I'd decided this wasn't for me - I could easily delete the text of my profile & photos, but not close my account even though I'd asked "support" twice to remove it. I guess it isn't in their interest to remove any members

I did finally get through to them on the phone & they did agree to delete it straight away, but that did require some perseverence on my part as they don't seem to answer their phones that often.

philb120 wrote: »

Well I have updated my profile on POF from looking for friends. Going through the divorce at the moment so not looking for a relationship but a few dates might be nice. Is my profile ok? Don't want to sound needy or psycho

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35486013

Hi Phil - I didn't see the earlier drafts, but I like your profile as it stands now. Don't think you sound psycho :rotfl: but fun, considerate, genuine & the last line made me laugh. Best of luck with it all.

Maureen43

I've been emailing a seemingly nice guy over the last couple of days who has now given me his mobile number in case I want to (and I quote) "take a leap of faith and talk".

So, what do I do now?! Might seem obvious to others who have been in the dating game more recently than me. I last went on a date in about 1989...

I imagine I ring and suggest a place to meet. Perhaps a coffee shop during the day? Or do I ring and let him suggest a place?

If we do meet, what do I wear? If it is during the day I was thinking nice trousers, heels, top, made up but not overly so.

Any topics I should avoid? I don't want to present a false image of myself but I don't want to put my foot in it either. I don't really want to talk about my marriage break up but surely he wouldn't want to know about that either?

Can you tell I need help?!

Ladyhawk

First of all, Maureen, don't over think it.

Personally I don't like chatting on the phone before a date. I know lots of people do. So decide which you'd like to do first.

As for what you want to do, again don't be shy to suggest something you'd like to do. I went to the Wildlife exhibition at the Natural History museum on a recent date ( pity the guy was an idiot). I've also done coffee at lunch time during work, drinks after work, bowling, dinner, a walk along the Thames and I am sure other things that I can't remember at the moment.

Just make sure that it gives you the opportunity to talk - though possibly not about your marriage in any detail. Also try to avoid religion and politics

As for what you wear, be smart, neat and tidy but not over the top. I normally wear jeans, boots and a smart top. Sexy but in an understated way. It's the kind of thing I'd wear to meet the girls in town.

Most of all don't worry about it. If you click, then venue and attire won't matter a jot.

Maureen43

Thanks for the advice Ladyhawk. Will keep you updated!

ali-t

Maureen43 wrote: »

I've been emailing a seemingly nice guy over the last couple of days who has now given me his mobile number in case I want to (and I quote) "take a leap of faith and talk".

So, what do I do now?! Might seem obvious to others who have been in the dating game more recently than me. I last went on a date in about 1989...

I imagine I ring and suggest a place to meet. Perhaps a coffee shop during the day? Or do I ring and let him suggest a place?

If we do meet, what do I wear? If it is during the day I was thinking nice trousers, heels, top, made up but not overly so.

Any topics I should avoid? I don't want to present a false image of myself but I don't want to put my foot in it either. I don't really want to talk about my marriage break up but surely he wouldn't want to know about that either?

Can you tell I need help?!

I always go for something short for a first date - never a Friday or Saturday night. Usually a lunchtime, afternoon at the weekend or if its an evening - always on a weekday. This means if it goes badly or you want to bail out you have only committed to an hour or so rather than a whole afternoon or evening and if it goes really well it is great for both of you as there is the opportunity to extend it.

Like ladyhawk says don't overthink it, especially not conversation topics as it will seem very forced. I have had 1st dates in lots of places over the years including cafe's, pubs, art galleries, exhibitions etc. The relationship I am currently in was as a result of meeting on POF and we went to the bar in my local arts centre and round the exhibitions. They were pretty pretentious so we had a laugh as well as getting to know each other better.

I always think - what's the worst that could happen? - generally nothing bad happens and if it does it gives you something to laugh about on a future date with another man you hook up with. Dating is fun :beer:

SammyS1987

So who wants to do me?

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=49053543

I meant give me feedback on my profile you dirty bug**rs! :-P