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alyth

maintenanceman wrote: »

after reading some of the issues people have with relationships I really wonder if its worth it. after all no one is completely compatible and emotions are unpredictable and misleading. So my point is that there is no point in searching for a partner if you are just afraid of being aolne and find someone you fancy and at least there is a pretty face to wake up too.

that is exactly the theory I work to - I love being on my own, I'm comfortable on my own, and there is no way I would let any man into my life. I'm not bitter or twisted in the slightest, I work weekends in a supermarket and I can truly say that I see so many unhappy couples there is no way I'd compromise my lifestyle for anyone. I have friends who are throwing themselves around the clubs in desperation of finding someone as they are so scared of being on their own.

I'm very much on my own, mid 40s, single, childfree and with no close family. I can go for days without seeing or talking to anyone and I love it. I appreciate that we are all different, but why put yourself through emotional heartache in the vain hope of finding someone that you can find fault with within a text context (and I totally agree with the poster who said the use of u instead of you is annoying!)

Maureen43

I have taken the plunge and have joined Match yesterday....

Terrified now!

How long does it take before people contact you generally?

I have had the same Daily Six two days on the trot even though I rated them all yesterday. Am I doing something wrong?

Any other hints and tips gratefully received.

ifstar

You can contact people too Maureen. If you see someone you like then why wait for them to move first, they might be waiting on you

Maureen43

Ok, so joined Match on Sunday.

I think I have a good photo and profile. Have had 44 views of my profile.

Have sent about 10 emails to people near to me who share my interests, have a photo and have a grasp of English grammar and spelling

Haven't sent any "winks" :eek:

But, haven't had any interest at all yet. No emails.... This is not doing anything for my rather fragile self-esteem.

I am also rather disillusioned by the number of men in their fifties and sixties who are looking for a woman in their thirties!

Am I being unrealistic?

[Deleted User]

Thats par for the course, a lot of older men seem to go for the younger women. Ive now met a lovely guy through a dating site, but if you read one of my threads, ive had to kiss a lot of frogs (not literally) to find a nice guy. And its early days for me and my new guy. i joined a couple of dating site in May 2012 and i was seriously about to give up. Im in my late 40s, single, solvent, mortgage owner, own car, petite size 8. And although i did get a lot of dates they werent on the same level as me... I was very very disillusioned but i though ide give it until the end of 2012 and then close my account. All the men i met either wanted to be Friends with Benefits, or lived at home, or not truely single. My advise to anyone using any dating sites is to go into it with their eyes VERY wide open as a lot of people on them are not what they portray themselves to be.

Maureen43

I suppose I thought I might have got answers to some of my emails.

They were pretty low key, along the lines of "Hello, I liked your profile, I like similar stuff, please contact me if you would like to chat".

Is that too forward / not forward enough?

Maybe my photo is scaring them off

Off to crawl under a large rock somewhere........

VestanPance

Maureen43 wrote: »

I suppose I thought I might have got answers to some of my emails.

They were pretty low key, along the lines of "Hello, I liked your profile, I like similar stuff, please contact me if you would like to chat".

Is that too forward / not forward enough?

Maybe my photo is scaring them off

Off to crawl under a large rock somewhere........

Personally I'd say if you are contacting someone then ask some questions based on what they have written in their profile. That way you have started the conversation rather than trying to get them to lead it.

I wouldn't say it's too forward. Why they aren't responding? Most likely either photo's (not attracted) or something in your profile that puts them off (could be anything).

JustKeepSwimming_2

Hi all - said I'd pop back to let you know how I'd found the man of my dreams after I'd left the dating site some months ago.....

Oddly enough, he didn't "just turn up after I'd stopped looking" :rotfl: so that pearl of wisdom if firmly kicked into touch along with the "its party season, you are bound to find someone if you just make the effort". Sigh.

But I'm pleased to report that my confidence has returned now that I'm no longer receiving dubious messages, or being rejected for being too old by men 20 years older than me.

I'm also glad the festive season is almost over & I don't have to hear any more "Oh, how sad that your still alone for another Xmas. Goodness, I simply couldn't bear it if I was left alone" inane comments.

I have had a peaceful time (kids with their Dad this year) apart from spending time talking to sobbing friends whose partners have treated them like domestic slaves/dragged them to spend Xmas with their vile families/got drunk at works parties & been caught doing things they shouldn't/dumped them.... Yet I'm the one who should feel sad & worthless as I'm on my own? I'm counting my blessings & reaching for another mince pie :T

I wish you all a year of fun filled dates & hope that you all find what you are looking for. And internet dating can work even if you do have to kiss a lot of frogs first.

asparagus1968

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Hi all - said I'd pop back to let you know how I'd found the man of my dreams after I'd left the dating site some months ago.....

Oddly enough, he didn't "just turn up after I'd stopped looking" :rotfl: so that pearl of wisdom if firmly kicked into touch along with the "its party season, you are bound to find someone if you just make the effort". Sigh.

But I'm pleased to report that my confidence has returned now that I'm no longer receiving dubious messages, or being rejected for being too old by men 20 years older than me.

I'm also glad the festive season is almost over & I don't have to hear any more "Oh, how sad that your still alone for another Xmas. Goodness, I simply couldn't bear it if I was left alone" inane comments.

I have had a peaceful time (kids with their Dad this year) apart from spending time talking to sobbing friends whose partners have treated them like domestic slaves/dragged them to spend Xmas with their vile families/got drunk at works parties & been caught doing things they shouldn't/dumped them.... Yet I'm the one who should feel sad & worthless as I'm on my own? I'm counting my blessings & reaching for another mince pie :T

I wish you all a year of fun filled dates & hope that you all find what you are looking for. And internet dating can work even if you do have to kiss a lot of frogs first.

*****fab post!*****

Ladyhawk

Im on Guardian Soulmates... what a complete waste of money!

I have written specific emails to at leat 50 men and have not recieved any responses. I have "liked" at least another 50 more, again with no responses. Worst of all (thinking that maybe my profile wasnt very enticing) is that I have had very few men actually looking at my profile.

Anyone else having no luck with Guardian Soulmates? Is it just me?