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Saint_Chris wrote: »

been reading this thread for a while, since my sister joined match.com

tonight she's on a 1st date with someone she's messaged a few times, i'm so excited for her, she text me about an hour ago, as i told her to keep in touch, (well you do worry don't you)

she said
'he's very posh and nice, don't worry i'll be ok'

i'm real excited for her.

OOO very good luck to her, please keep us all posted. Update for me guy no 11) just mesaged me and asked hows my day gone. I wont say 3rd time lucky on this one, as i havnt met him yet. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Frogletina

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Update for me guy no 11) just mesaged me and asked hows my day gone. I wont say 3rd time lucky on this one, as i havnt met him yet.

'My' guy is always interested in how my day has been, which I think is a good sign - I should get a message from him in the next hour.

I was talking to a friend of mine about my situation. She said 'take baby steps', so that is what I am doing.

Saint_Chris

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

OOO very good luck to her, please keep us all posted. Update for me guy no 11) just mesaged me and asked hows my day gone. I wont say 3rd time lucky on this one, as i havnt met him yet. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I will do x

1940sGal

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Well i read through a lot of the thread on here and have also posted with regards to a recent relationship i had. But ive also registered on a couple of dating sites and heres whats happened to me: Guy1) wasnt over his ex when we met but it was years since they split and he told me she works where i do, its a big place. And he wasnt really my type. Guy 2) Lied about his age he said he was 50 (IM 47) he was clearly around 57+. So he was out as far as im concerned i dont do lies. Guy3) Nice but a bit dim and lived with his parents. Guy4) Nice guy said hed meet me again and then didnt bother to txt to cancel the date he arranged, luckily i didnt get ready. So again no good. Guy5) Lovely in his pic we had a jokey txt banter, unfortunately when we met ommited to say he was a drinker and cocaine user and was locked up the night before we met as he got arrested. Guy 6) I never met this one as he said he lived in a room at work, in other words didnt have a place of his own. Guy 7) The guy thought that i was the one the. decided after 6 weeks i wasnt the one and basically ended it just like that. Said he got cold feet!! Guy 7) lovely he was but lived over 200 miles away so i didnt meet as in the real world it wouldnt work. Guy 8) said he was a carer, but actually lived with his mum and was unemployed). Guy 9) didnt bother meeting him make the mistake of taking his number and he was far too pushy, unemployed again. Guy 10) Was worse than guy 9 and said hed had 10 dates and all women were the same and wots wrong with US all.Said were a bunch of middleaged hasbeens and we want to look at ourselves as were all going to be left on the shelf as he was such a good catch!! Nerd. Needless to say i didnt even arrange to meet him. Im now onto Guy 11) were just messaging at the moment. So tell me please im quite petite (size8, etc) not that really should matter. Ive had over 200 guys look at my profile etc and made great comments. So whats going on here. Because none of them seem to fit what im looking for. Which is a normal down to earth guy with or without children etc you know the plan.....

I'm sorry but you seem quite prejudiced against people who don't have a 'place of their own'. You haven't mentioned age and i'm not asking you to is having a place of their own such a big deal? There might be a number of reasons behind it. Did you find out?

This worries me somewhat to be honest and I wonder if men are this picky. I live with my mum at the moment because i don't see me being able to move out any time soon. I'm 29 at the mo so what happens when i'm ready to meet someone but i'm still at home, i wonder if that will put a lot of people off. I can't help that i live at home still, and it seems unfair that someone would throw me over for something i can't help. Doesn't stop me being a good person.

EDIT: I'm not having a go, btw, I've just seen your other post that gives me a general idea of your age so it is understandable now i've seen that. But i do still wonder if men think that way...

SailorSam

Frogletina wrote: »

Four months? I've been on for almost 3 years and only met 3 guys. I have to say though I have turned quite a few down, but then quite a few have wanted to meet me and then cancelled.

I too am solvent, petite, own home. I don't show any preferences where age is concerned but I would say that 90% of the contact I get is from younger men.

If you've been online 3yrs Tina tell me this, "Why if you take the time to write a decent message do lots of women ignore it completely"
At first i use to take it personally but it's one of the questions i've seen raised on the forums in PoF, and it happens to everyone both men and woman of all shapes and sizes, and all ages.

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Sorry if it sounded that way, it wasnt meant to at all. There are genuine reasons for living at home i agree. But these men are in there late 30s to early 50s. Even if theyve divorced etc they could still rent. The last guy that i dated had only just left a relationship and i did say it was too soon, but even he started renting straight away. I mean these men are not young men. And yes i expect they are very good people but i really wouldnt want to be with a man that lives with his parents, grandparents (and also there own children because in there words its cheaper than being on there own) Ive edited to say you are still very young, my youngest son has left home and i do know how hard it is financally for them, but at 40 and 50 they should be independant unless they are carers for there parents in which case thats understandable.

Frogletina

SailorSam wrote: »

If you've been online 3yrs Tina tell me this, "Why if you take the time to write a decent message do lots of women ignore it completely"
At first i use to take it personally but it's one of the questions i've seen raised on the forums in PoF, and it happens to everyone both men and woman of all shapes and sizes, and all ages.

I never ignore a decent message. The only messages I ignore are ones that just say 'hi, how are you?' And even then I might reply if I think they had a good profile, but might be shy - not ones that literally say 'blah,blah, blah - it says I need to write more in this space'

I am honest though and have said to guys 'thanks for the message but I am looking for... am messaging someone at the moment... etc
My message currently says I am not looking for anyone but willing to still chat to the friends I have made online. But I still get messages from some guys asking to meet me.

The two guys I have met from POF are ones where I messaged first.

1940sGal

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Sorry if it sounded that way, it wasnt meant to at all. There are genuine reasons for living at home i agree. But these men are in there late 30s to early 50s. Even if theyve divorced etc they could still rent. The last guy that i dated had only just left a relationship and i did say it was too soon, but even he started renting straight away. I mean these men are not young men. And yes i expect they are very good people but i really wouldnt want to be with a man that lives with his parents, grandparents (and also there own children because in there words its cheaper than being on there own)

No that's absolutely fair enough. I was seeing things from my PoV really and my age bracket. I expect i would feel the same in your position. Just set alarm bells ringing for me really

ali-t

Frogletina wrote: »

'My' guy is always interested in how my day has been, which I think is a good sign - I should get a message from him in the next hour.

I was talking to a friend of mine about my situation. She said 'take baby steps', so that is what I am doing.

Funny how we are all different with different expectations. I stopped messaging one man as he got in touch every night asking how my day had been. It drove me nuts that he didn't have anything original to say for himself.

I have also cut off contact with people because it was going too slow. If I haven't met them within 3 weeks it isn't going to happen. I'm not looking for a text buddy, a !!!! buddy or a new friend. There's 100's of men out there so I don't want to waste time with people who are just messing about.

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ali-t wrote: »

Funny how we are all different with different expectations. I stopped messaging one man as he got in touch every night asking how my day had been. It drove me nuts that he didn't have anything original to say for himself.

I have also cut off contact with people because it was going too slow. If I haven't met them within 3 weeks it isn't going to happen. I'm not looking for a text buddy, a !!!! buddy or a new friend. There's 100's of men out there so I don't want to waste time with people who are just messing about.

I do partly agree with you. Too much txting for weeks isnt for me either. The guy that im in contact with atm ive been talking to for 2 days and weve had friendly banter and he asked me to meet him on Monday evening for a coffee. A bit too soon but i have agreed as were both busy other days in that week and i dont want to go past txting eachother for 2 to 3 weeks and then find were not interested in eachother. Hes coming to my town which is good as other guys have said meet them in their town or half way. but ive no expectations and i dont really call them "dates". I did at first and used to get excited but this is the 5th guy im meeting. I dont get my hopes up as i used to and just treat it as if i was meeting a friend for a coffee and if they ever cancelled (which no one has of yet) i dont get disappointed.