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Frogletina

ali-t wrote: »

Funny how we are all different with different expectations. I stopped messaging one man as he got in touch every night asking how my day had been. It drove me nuts that he didn't have anything original to say for himself.

I have also cut off contact with people because it was going too slow. If I haven't met them within 3 weeks it isn't going to happen. I'm not looking for a text buddy, a !!!! buddy or a new friend. There's 100's of men out there so I don't want to waste time with people who are just messing about.

I'm really getting to know so much about the guy I have met through the messages that he sends. Yes, he does ask how my day has been but also about so much more. We never have 'conversations', no instant messages, msn chat or phonecalls which after so much time may seem unusual but it works.

He's the best friend that I've never had. I wake up to a message from him and before he goes to bed he sends me his final one of the day. He is caring, intelligent and humourous though rather self-deprecating.

I'm sure we will meet a third time, but for now it's baby steps. Because I know he's worth it, and I feel that I am too.

ali-t

What a lovely post frogletina

JustKeepSwimming_2

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Well i read through a lot of the thread on here and have also posted with regards to a recent relationship i had. But ive also registered on a couple of dating sites and heres whats happened to me: Guy1) wasnt over his ex when we met but it was years since they split and he told me she works where i do, its a big place. And he wasnt really my type. Guy 2) Lied about his age he said he was 50 (IM 47) he was clearly around 57+. So he was out as far as im concerned i dont do lies. Guy3) Nice but a bit dim and lived with his parents. Guy4) Nice guy said hed meet me again and then didnt bother to txt to cancel the date he arranged, luckily i didnt get ready. So again no good. Guy5) Lovely in his pic we had a jokey txt banter, unfortunately when we met ommited to say he was a drinker and cocaine user and was locked up the night before we met as he got arrested. Guy 6) I never met this one as he said he lived in a room at work, in other words didnt have a place of his own. Guy 7) The guy thought that i was the one the. decided after 6 weeks i wasnt the one and basically ended it just like that. Said he got cold feet!! Guy 7) lovely he was but lived over 200 miles away so i didnt meet as in the real world it wouldnt work. Guy 8) said he was a carer, but actually lived with his mum and was unemployed). Guy 9) didnt bother meeting him make the mistake of taking his number and he was far too pushy, unemployed again. Guy 10) Was worse than guy 9 and said hed had 10 dates and all women were the same and wots wrong with US all.Said were a bunch of middleaged hasbeens and we want to look at ourselves as were all going to be left on the shelf as he was such a good catch!! Nerd. Needless to say i didnt even arrange to meet him. Im now onto Guy 11) were just messaging at the moment. So tell me please im quite petite (size8, etc) not that really should matter. Ive had over 200 guys look at my profile etc and made great comments. So whats going on here. Because none of them seem to fit what im looking for. Which is a normal down to earth guy with or without children etc you know the plan.....

I think guy 10 may be my ex :rotfl:

ali-t wrote: »

....I have also cut off contact with people because it was going too slow. If I haven't met them within 3 weeks it isn't going to happen. I'm not looking for a text buddy, a !!!! buddy or a new friend. There's 100's of men out there so I don't want to waste time with people who are just messing about.

You are lucky they chat to you for more than a few messages....

Although I wouldn't want to chat/message away to someone for weeks with out meeting them either, but I'm not having much luck in chatting to anyone with a view to meeting up for a date. I have made 3 great friends, so we swap stories & have a laugh which is lovely (but not what the site is for I feel :rotfl:).

Trust No One - I think your profile sounds great. So much better than most of those I've read. I can see why SailorSam likes you

Frogletina - that is a lovely post & I hope it works out for you. That is the way I want to feel about someone. I don't think you've been doing anything wrong - I just think internet dating is actually a lot harder than people (me for one) think.

Who went on a date on the weekend?

asparagus1968

well,i haven't been on a date, but took my little puppy to p*ts at home today and three lovely chaps came over (separately) it was to talk to pup not me:( but it's a start!
am hoping I'm going to meet the man of my dreams out dog-walking!!!!

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ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

I do partly agree with you. Too much txting for weeks isnt for me either. The guy that im in contact with atm ive been talking to for 2 days and weve had friendly banter and he asked me to meet him on Monday evening for a coffee. A bit too soon but i have agreed as were both busy other days in that week and i dont want to go past txting eachother for 2 to 3 weeks and then find were not interested in eachother. Hes coming to my town which is good as other guys have said meet them in their town or half way. but ive no expectations and i dont really call them "dates". I did at first and used to get excited but this is the 5th guy im meeting. I dont get my hopes up as i used to and just treat it as if i was meeting a friend for a coffee and if they ever cancelled (which no one has of yet) i dont get disappointed.

Well i spoke too soon, he did cancel as he does a second job and got called in. Although were still txting and it was only 3days and was a bit too early for me to meet. I think im going to give these sites a miss for a while as another guy wanted to meet me but was far too pushy and got the hump when i said he was nearly 2hour drive from mine. I feel in the real world that is too far as we all work. Ile just pop in and out of here and check on how others are doing....

0^0

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Ile just pop in and out of here and check on how others are doing....

Same as always in here, nowt ever changes. May as well pop in and be miserable like everyone else.:rotfl:

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0^0 wrote: »

Same as always in here, nowt ever changes. May as well pop in and be miserable like everyone else.:rotfl:

Aww, im not miserable, looking back ive had a few laughs, i forget to mention Dave (not his real name) came to see me from miles away and thought he was getting more than a cuppa!!! i sent him home with more than just a dissapointed look on his face when he tried it on. And then there was another local guy, i met him in the evening for drinks and spent all night fighting him off and left him to himself :rotfl:. I just dont take any of it as seriously as i did. Maybe one day ile meet a nice guy

maintenanceman

As a guy these posts are really interesting. Seeing what happens from the other side of the fence from the girls posts.

ali-t

maintenanceman wrote: »

As a guy these posts are really interesting. Seeing what happens from the other side of the fence from the girls posts.

Go on then, give us girls some insight into the male psyche because you men are all still a bit of a mystery to me!

I know its a bit of a crystal ball question but there's one man who has been messaging me for around 6 weeks. We have arranged to meet up a lot over this time but he has cancelled them all but one. He is very keen by text and is in touch a lot, most of it initiated by him and always saying how much he wants to meet. He swears blind he isn't married or seeing anyone but totally drags his heels about meeting again. Am I wasting my time because he is just not into me?

VestanPance

ali-t wrote: »

Go on then, give us girls some insight into the male psyche because you men are all still a bit of a mystery to me!

I know its a bit of a crystal ball question but there's one man who has been messaging me for around 6 weeks. We have arranged to meet up a lot over this time but he has cancelled them all but one. He is very keen by text and is in touch a lot, most of it initiated by him and always saying how much he wants to meet. He swears blind he isn't married or seeing anyone but totally drags his heels about meeting again. Am I wasting my time because he is just not into me?

Three possibilities.

1. He's either the most shy person on the planet.
2. His profile is false (pictures etc), so he know when you meet he'll be found out.
3. He's a time waster, actually married/got a girlfriend.