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Trust_no_one

BLUEBIE wrote: »

Am interested in joining a dating site but have no idea what to put in the profile bit wehre you have to write something about yourself, am hopeless at that sort of thing, any ideas?

Personally, I think you would be best taking some time to read other peoples profiles, male & female.

In my opinion you need to include a bit of humour, outline some points about yourself that are good, some that are not so good - they may be important to whoever is reading. Tell them what you are looking for, no point in pretending you don't have any issues, we *all* do, whether it be weight, height, tattoo's hair colour etc.

Below is a very old profile of mine. It may give you idea's, it may not.

Good luck - you're going to need it. :rotfl:

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So, where to start? I'm 47 and a widower, two things I never expected to say in the same sentence but there you go.

Ok, I'm old fashioned, I have manners and am not afraid to use them. I hold doors open and give up my seat to complete strangers. I wouldn't hesitate to give you my jacket if the weather turned while we were out.

Ex-smoker [many years now]. Over weight [due to giving up] but now working on it. Approx 5'9" -- Blond/salt & pepper hair, apparently quite thin on top (glad part of me is) but without several mirrors and some contortionist type moves, I can't see but then to be honest, I don't care.

I'm quite well domesticated, I cook, [ not just beans on toast, but it's no fun for one ], I clean [ well, in a male kinda way. You know, round rooms - I should live in a lighthouse and it doesn't need dusting unless I can write my name in 3D characters ) ], wash [ ok, so the machine does it but give me credit for knowing how to use it ] & iron [ now that is all my own work and no, I don't have 10 creases in each shirt sleeve ] )

Two [step]Children, although I don't normally use the word 'step', all grown up and in their own places. A young Grandson that has been with me 6 days a week since he was 6 weeks old when mum went back to work. Don't panic! He goes home most days and is now in school full time but he is a big part of my life. I also have a Grand-daughter, somewhat older she is at that pre-teen point in her life when all family are embarrassing.

I love music and always have the radio or a CD on. An extremely eclectic taste covers Gilbert & Sullivan, Glenn Miller, Classical and just about everything from the 1950s through to the present day. Favourite artists include: Sarah Connor, Debelah Morgan, David Bowie, Melanie Thornton and Prince.

Despite my love of music I have absolutely no rhythm and can't dance for toffee. It would be nice to say I had two left feet but I'm not even that good )

I don't sit glued to the tele but do enjoy things like Dr Who / Torchwood / House / Have I Got News For You & QI. Boston Legal is an absolute must watch.

I enjoy country walks, the coast and the dramatic images created by a roaring sea. I even enjoy walking in the rain, the dog on the other hand, she tries to get home without coming out from under the bushes.

I consider myself kind, generous, caring, compassionate and loyal. A big heart but sadly not the wallet to match.

The odd kick about in the park with my Grandson and an occasional trip to Oulton Park to watch touring or club cars is the limit of my 'sporting' interest so there's no danger of you being a sports widow.

I love my computer and would be lost without it because of the wealth of information and knowledge it has made available. I don't play computer games nor do I own any games consoles.
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Who am I looking for?

Top of the list I guess is to be 'chatty'. I need for you to be open and willing to share things about yourself. I don't understand why people email you to say 'hello' and then spend their time responding with one and two word answers. It's good to ask questions but if the whole of my email to you is asking questions it's not going to be a successful relationship.

As I'm old fashioned, I like ladies to be feminine, but I'd also like you to be happy traipsing through a muddy field with the dog. I'd want you to be happy with who you are rather than trying to look or be like everyone else.

I would rather you didn't look like Lydia the tattooed lady or a human pin cushion.

Most importantly is that I want you to be my best friend, that we are so comfortable together it's like we've known each other our whole lives.

It's not a problem if you have kids as I've pretty much raised 3 that aren't mine. I occasionally think that it might be nice to have 1 [or more] of my own but am quite certain it is now unlikely to happen.

Easy going and relaxed personality is very important. Being able to switch off from work at the end of the day would very much be a bonus.

It is absolutely essential that you have a sense of humour. Ask me 'does my bum look big in this' and my reply could well be 'babe, your bum would look big in a marquee' ) If you're not going to find comments like that even remotely funny or take them in the spirit they were meant then...................

An interest in current affairs would be nice, for us to be able to sit and chat about everything and nothing. To be able to 'put the world to rights' to have differing opinions and a mutual respect for those opinions.

An animal lover, particularly dogs. I know it might seem odd stating this considering I've made it clear I've got a dog but you'd be surprised. heh, maybe you wouldn't.

maintenanceman

ali-t wrote: »

I remember reading somewhere that men post pictures of themselves a few years ago and women post pictures of themselves a few stone ago. That totally rings true with some of the men I have met.

I think you are right. Although I haven't put my pic up yet I was thinking of putting up one when I was a bit younger. I am not going to do that now. TBH its not size it's more like some profiles have what look like professional photos and the 'daylight' photos look completely different.

JustKeepSwimming_2

267 wrote: »

Well, now I'm depressed - 7 ladies out there for me and I can't find one!

Did you get out of the dentist with your smile intact?

Just glad to get out of there! Not a very MSE visit

0^0 wrote: »

I think you and keep swimming would make a lovely couple. I have a sneaking suspicion she could be a bit fiery though.:D:rotfl:

Fiery? Moi? How's your match-making going 0^0?

ali-t wrote: »

I remember reading somewhere that men post pictures of themselves a few years ago and women post pictures of themselves a few stone ago. That totally rings true with some of the men I have met.

This must explain why I'm having no luck then - I've posted a photo' taken last month, so I look both old & fat :rotfl:

VestanPance wrote: »

I'd love to see the data to back that "fact" up. Unless there has been a growth in households of women with several husbands to reduce the numbers!

The data for online dating suggests the reverse of that, with a far higher ratio of male to female members on all sites.

No idea where they got that figure from - I hope it isn't true as I may as well give up now

VestanPance wrote: »

True, but in truth the data is not a sign of how many single people there are of either gender. Just how many people sign-up to dating sites.

Going on population sizes in most countries the split between genders is pretty equal, give or take a percentage point or two, so unless you live in a country with a unusual spike towards one gender then the chances are the number of single people of each gender will roughly be equal.

I think both genders are likely to claim they have the harder time meeting people. I honestly think it's more likely that it's often just the case that single men and women often have very opposite interests in how they spend their free time when single, so most likely the chance of meeting is limited. Particularly if these things become routine to them. Then they start to wonder where all the single people of the other gender are!

VestanPance - think you've hit the nail on the head there. Does this mean I have to take up football...

Frogletina

I have been chatting to someone on POF who I agreed ages ago to meet with just as a friend.

The first time I had to cancel as I wasn't well, which I did in plenty of time. Since then we have chatted on and off and have tried to arrange a mutual time to meet.

He cancelled the second time, said his rota had changed at work.

The third time he changed where I wanted to meet as he said it would be difficult to park and suggested somewhere that would be two bus rides away from me. I suggested meeting at a place somewhere between where the two of us lived, just one bus ride away for me and somewhere he would have no problem parking.

So we agreed 5pm yesterday and I arrived just before the appointed hour. It was at a coffee shop in an arts complex.

I was a bit worried as the last time I arranged to meet someone there from POF they didn't turn up. Still, I went to the cinema so it wasn't a wasted visit.

'So how did it go?' I hear you ask

Well, as before, it wasn't a wasted visit - I enjoyed seeing a film. As for the guy, he didn't turn up, he didn't message

What the hell am I doing wrong!

0^0

Frogletina wrote: »

I have been chatting to someone on POF who I agreed ages ago to meet with just as a friend.

The first time I had to cancel as I wasn't well, which I did in plenty of time. Since then we have chatted on and off and have tried to arrange a mutual time to meet.

He cancelled the second time, said his rota had changed at work.

The third time he changed where I wanted to meet as he said it would be difficult to park and suggested somewhere that would be two bus rides away from me. I suggested meeting at a place somewhere between where the two of us lived, just one bus ride away for me and somewhere he would have no problem parking.

So we agreed 5pm yesterday and I arrived just before the appointed hour. It was at a coffee shop in an arts complex.

I was a bit worried as the last time I arranged to meet someone there from POF they didn't turn up. Still, I went to the cinema so it wasn't a wasted visit.

'So how did it go?' I hear you ask

Well, as before, it wasn't a wasted visit - I enjoyed seeing a film. As for the guy, he didn't turn up, he didn't message

What the hell am I doing wrong!

Sorry to hear that..........You are doing nothing wrong at all. Maybe its just my suspicious mind, but I always suspect that people who dont turn up like that could be married. I could be wrong though.

0^0

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Fiery? Moi? How's your match-making going 0^0?

Rubbish, I havnt even got one PM yet requiring my services.:rotfl:

Frogletina

0^0 wrote: »

Sorry to hear that..........You are doing nothing wrong at all. Maybe its just my suspicious mind, but I always suspect that people who dont turn up like that could be married. I could be wrong though.

Thanks.

He was the one pushing for meeting me for ages and to be honest I wasn't that disappointed just annoyed by it.

0^0

Frogletina wrote: »

Thanks.

He was the one pushing for meeting me for ages and to be honest I wasn't that disappointed just annoyed by it.

So have you been in touch with him since to ask for an explanation?

Frogletina

0^0 wrote: »

So have you been in touch with him since to ask for an explanation?

No, I just want to write him off.

I messaged the previous guy to say he missed a good film as we had planned to go to the cinema. Despite him contacting me a few times again he never gave me an explanation as to why he never turned up. But he did try to see me again, and when I declined he wrote

'give I another chance'

lucky escape I think

0^0

Frogletina wrote: »

No, I just want to write him off.

I messaged the previous guy to say he missed a good film as we had planned to go to the cinema. Despite him contacting me a few times again he never gave me an explanation as to why he never turned up. But he did try to see me again, and when I declined he wrote

'give I another chance'

lucky escape I think

They arent worth bothering with if they stand you up...........unless its a genuine excuse. Sorry to be so intrusive but have you got anyone at the moment who you are writing to? tell me to get lost if you want, I am broadshouldered.:o:D