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JustKeepSwimming_2

snowedunderitall wrote: »

.. I'm in alone on a Friday night tbh I'd just like to meet people more than guys, for example there's a band I'd love to see live but none of my friends are even close to liking that type of music! Unfortunately my job doesn't let me meet that many new people (and no single guys!) so this may be the way to go for now...

I think I'd almost rather meet more new friends than a partner too - I'd just like some friends that aren't all coupled up, or be able to suggest going to see a band or have a beer with a male without it being such a minefield.

takethemon wrote: »

dont know how i ended up here,but it makes me wonder if there are a few cynics about!

Cynical women on here - not a chance :rotfl:

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

I see there are a few newbies on this thread, I pop in and out every so often, I'm the one with the dyslexic non pc owning friend, so I do her stuff all she has to do is go on dates, she had another nutter this week, I am hoping we can find at least one normal man for here to have a date with this side of Christmas!! I have her on four sites, all free, and still the same losers on each of them!!

There do seem to be an awful lot of nutters out there...

And many of them are messaging me

On a happy note a work colleague told me about a friend of hers in her 50s who'd been a widow for some years. She is getting married next year to a man she met on POF :T. And she didn't even have to date any nutters as he was the first man she dated.

Mrs_Huggett

Aaaah! That's lovely JKS I keep telling my friend that she will meet someone, but I do wonder at some of the men on these sites!! She has another friend who has found herself single, so maybe they could swap stories!!

button16

Hey up,
So I've followed this thread for a while and decided to give it a plunge today on the internet dating scene. I signed up to Match and thought I would share my first day on the site with you.

So after filling out my profile I received a message to go on IM with this guy so I did, got chatting and getting to know each other and ended up adding him on facebook. Only for him to delete me immediately and then blacklist me. How polite of him!!!

Then I've had a few views and a couple of how are you sort of messages. That's it so far for day 1, I have to say it's not looking great!

JustKeepSwimming_2

button16 wrote: »

Hey up,
So I've followed this thread for a while and decided to give it a plunge today on the internet dating scene. I signed up to Match and thought I would share my first day on the site with you.

So after filling out my profile I received a message to go on IM with this guy so I did, got chatting and getting to know each other and ended up adding him on facebook. Only for him to delete me immediately and then blacklist me. How polite of him!!!

Then I've had a few views and a couple of how are you sort of messages. That's it so far for day 1, I have to say it's not looking great!

OK - buckle up & develop a hide like a rhino (& welcome to the mad world of internet dating :beer:).
From the messages I read posted from men on the site I'm on (can't see anything posted by women) your experience of being quickly deleted is a common one - the consensus is either they are a bit odd & had a wobble at the thought of getting anywhere a relationship, or they shouldn't be on the site in the first place & are worried about being caught out :rotfl:. Who knows, I've given up on trying to work men out.

Best of luck though - it does work out for some people so you may be one of the lucky ones.

My 50 mile exclusion zone is still in force & appears to be marching around the country in true Dr Who style. Yesterday I sent out a group message to men within a certain age range & was sure I'd only selected those within a 30 mile radius from me - only to find out it went to every man in that age group across the land :eek: which wasn't what I meant to do. I've had some lovely replies from men soooo far away (Strathclyde seems to have more than its share of decent men) but nothing from anyone nearby . It isn't like I've previously chatted to all the local men either - only had chats with 4 of them!

Being rejected by 238,121 men (according to site figures) has not helped my confidence :rotfl:

Februarycat

I get fed up of men asking if I have MSN, thats usually their 2nd message, after saying "Hi how are you?". Are there not men on these sites that can actually type more than 4 words :mad:

button16

Thanks for the support JustKeepSwimming, I've pretty much just set up the profile and haven't even put any restrictions on it yet. Thankfully, I've not been contacted by any 95 year old men or had any lude messages as yet. Is there any optimum time to be active on the websites?

The reason I have really signed up is that it is fairly difficult to meet new people where I live and I'm starting to get to the age where friends are beginning to get engaged/married and thought well what harm can it do.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Februarycat wrote: »

I get fed up of men asking if I have MSN, thats usually their 2nd message, after saying "Hi how are you?". Are there not men on these sites that can actually type more than 4 words :mad:

Not that many

What has suprised me is the number of men who've just handed me their personal email addresses & mobile numbers - I could be a nutter for all they know :rotfl:

button16 wrote: »

Thanks for the support JustKeepSwimming, I've pretty much just set up the profile and haven't even put any restrictions on it yet. Thankfully, I've not been contacted by any 95 year old men or had any lude messages as yet.

Don't worry, you have plenty of time to get those!

Is there any optimum time to be active on the websites?

The reason I have really signed up is that it is fairly difficult to meet new people where I live and I'm starting to get to the age where friends are beginning to get engaged/married and thought well what harm can it do.

FWIW - my advice is don't take any of it personally (which is easier said than done). I've had some truly vile messages which have upset me - I just have to remind myself the men who send them are utter morons :rotfl:

I don't know about the optimum time, sorry. My timing has always been rubbish

I rang to cancel my membership today - but got talked into another 2 weeks free. We shall see what happens (or more likely doesn't).

Thanks to whoever posted the advice about meetup - I've checked the site periodically for a few years but there has never been much near me. Last night I checked again & there is a group in my town (small but it is a start) & a singles but not dating group in the next city, so hopefully I will get to meet some new friends that aren't all coupled up.

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Februarycat wrote: »

I get fed up of men asking if I have MSN, thats usually their 2nd message, after saying "Hi how are you?". Are there not men on these sites that can actually type more than 4 words :mad:

{Waves}

I can. In fact I made pretty much the same comment earlier in the thread with regards to monosyllabic responses from Ladies.

Conversation is very much a lost art for some people (32) :rotfl:

Februarycat

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Not that many

What has suprised me is the number of men who've just handed me their personal email addresses & mobile numbers - I could be a nutter for all they know :rotfl:


I agree about the mobile numbers, some send their mobile & Home no straightaway, no way would I give out my tel no's to someone I had only exchanged one message with.

sleepy-head_3

Oh dear, sounds like lots of people have had their fingers burned! Happily, I have a success story to tell After 5 years of thoroughly enjoying my single life, a very active social life and a good career I decided it was time to do something about meeting someone who actually wanted the same things as me in life. My Mum (of all people!) had seen the eHarmony add on TV and suggested I have a go. Begrudgingly I signed up which took me about 2.5hrs - the questions are pretty detailed! I sat back and waited........after 5 dates with 5 guys who were perfectly lovely people but no spark, I met Mr Right. We clicked instantly, have similar interests and backgrounds and above all, we're on the same page morally. After 2 happy years together we got engaged this year and will be married next year.

Give eHarmony a go! It's different to other sites because you have to jump through so many hoops to get to the end of the sign-up process, but that means that largely the people using the site are genuine and have made that effort for a reason. I would advise anyone using internet dating sites to approach it with the view that you're widening your social circle and if you happen to meet someone that you click with, even better.

Good luck!