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JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I'm not sure I believe that...:D You seem very well informed.

My head is full of useless bits of information unfortunately.:rotfl:

JustKeepSwimming_2

267 wrote: »

It's very much a real life example only the other way round. I am male and have had "conversations" with ladies a couple of times that have followed that path - and they contacted me first.

Sorry, I don't think I explained myself very well. What I meant was if you were having such a conversation with somebody in real life, you would most likely pick up that they were shy from other clues, not just their one word answers, & it would be easier to understand their apparent reluctance to chat. But I don't understand the nerves so much when it is online chatting.

Maybe those women want to make sure what they write can't possibly be taken the wrong way? A man asked me why I had only one photo on my profile so I explained jokingly that it wasn't easy to get a picture of me without my eyes shut - he then told me (not offered) he'd do a photo session that would make me look very sexy, but he'd need to stay overnight :eek:

That has made me think very carefully about what I say :rotfl:

267

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Sorry, I don't think I explained myself very well. What I meant was if you were having such a conversation with somebody in real life, you would most likely pick up that they were shy from other clues, not just their one word answers, & it would be easier to understand their apparent reluctance to chat. But I don't understand the nerves so much when it is online chatting.

Maybe those women want to make sure what they write can't possibly be taken the wrong way? A man asked me why I had only one photo on my profile so I explained jokingly that it wasn't easy to get a picture of me without my eyes shut - he then told me (not offered) he'd do a photo session that would make me look very sexy, but he'd need to stay overnight :eek:

That has made me think very carefully about what I say :rotfl:

No apology necessary, my fingers are working faster than my brain at the moment, I'd have caught up eventually .

If you get anyone else like him just say: If you need more than one photo to recognize perfection, we're probably not suited.

samuelthomson240

thanks ill overhaul my profile must get some pictures of myself in speedos cheers john

JustKeepSwimming_2

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

thanks ill overhaul my profile must get some pictures of myself in speedos cheers john

I'm assuming you are joking about the speedos...

ali-t

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I'm assuming you are joking about the speedos...

:rotfl:Posing in a pair of budgie smugglers is not the way to land lots of dates :rotfl:

ali-t

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Sounds like a second full time job & you must be knackered (sorry, that sounds wrong, so I hope you know what I mean!). Have you had any awful dates? Sounds nosey of me, but I just need to convince myself that not all blokes are nutters....

It is pretty busy but I slot them in at various points in the days and evenings. My problem now is how to decide who to keep and who to bin off, particularly when they are all really nice and all have the potential to make me happy

I have had some really rubbish dates over the years. There has been a surgeon recently who was so arrogant it was frightening, the engineer who was racist and a nurse who sprayed when he talked and it got worse the more he drank.

But there has also been lots of lovely ones who were everything I was looking for on paper but there was no strong attraction there. I think my expectations are too high, I want a high achieving ambitious man but also want to lose the power of speech around him (not literally all the time) because I find him so attractive. At least I am having fun trying although no fun tonight as Mr Sunday cancelled on me grrrr but on the plus side, Mr Friday has been back in touch looking to meet up again. Swings and roundabouts...

On_My_Lonesome

Apologies Im joining the thread having only read last couple pages.

Im considering having a go at online, any suggestions on how to put together a profile? I have no idea at all what to say without boring people to tears by going on for ages of being too short so sound unfriendly.

JustKeepSwimming_2

ali-t wrote: »

It is pretty busy but I slot them in at various points in the days and evenings. My problem now is how to decide who to keep and who to bin off, particularly when they are all really nice and all have the potential to make me happy

I have had some really rubbish dates over the years. There has been a surgeon recently who was so arrogant it was frightening, the engineer who was racist and a nurse who sprayed when he talked and it got worse the more he drank.

But there has also been lots of lovely ones who were everything I was looking for on paper but there was no strong attraction there. I think my expectations are too high, I want a high achieving ambitious man but also want to lose the power of speech around him (not literally all the time) because I find him so attractive. At least I am having fun trying although no fun tonight as Mr Sunday cancelled on me grrrr but on the plus side, Mr Friday has been back in touch looking to meet up again. Swings and roundabouts...

I so love hearing that somebody is getting on with online dating & your story gives me hope - although I can't ever imagine being in the position of having to choose between 4 decent men :rotfl:I'm guessing you are much younger than me

On_My_Lonesome wrote: »

Apologies Im joining the thread having only read last couple pages.

Im considering having a go at online, any suggestions on how to put together a profile? I have no idea at all what to say without boring people to tears by going on for ages of being too short so sound unfriendly.

I misread that & have been puzzling why being short (physically) should make you unfriendly :rotfl: And I'm back to work today after a summer break so I'd better sharpen up.

Ali-t & 1940sGal have written excellent posts about how not to do a profile so do read those. Personally I like to see someone make a joke or two, & give a decent amount of information - rather than saying I like sports maybe expand on which sports, but don't just give a long list... It is hard to get the balance right. Can you read some other profiles first & get a feel for which type you like to read, then tailor yours to reflect those?

I also like to see a well laid out profile (but I do work in a school :rotfl:) with paragraphs & correct spelling/punctuation as I find those much easier to read than profiles which are just one long sentence (& this is a frequent comment from other men & women on the same site that I use).

I believe in being honest, so any embellishing/lying is probably going to get you caught out quite quickly - if a man says he has a pilot's licence & is flying off to Rio in his own plane for a weekend of partying with movie stars I tend not to message them back...

At least one good, clear photo is a must, ideally just of you rather than with your mates so they can tell which one is you!

Off to work now - best of luck with it all.

ali-t

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I so love hearing that somebody is getting on with online dating & your story gives me hope - although I can't ever imagine being in the position of having to choose between 4 decent men :rotfl:I'm guessing you are much younger than me
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I'm in my mid 30's, not particularly good looking, a body that is definitely not all that and a grumpy cow to boot!

But, the men on the websites think I am a saucy, curvy redhead, with a great line in banter and flirtation who makes them feel like they might be in with a chance of being the centre of my world :rotfl: Most of them when they meet me believe the hype rather than the ordinary reality. I never lie to people but always play to my strengths.

Justkeepswimming, make sure your profile reflects the good stuff, plays down any not so good stuff and believe the hype about yourself and they will be knocking your door down :T