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ali-t

On_My_Lonesome wrote: »

Apologies Im joining the thread having only read last couple pages.

Im considering having a go at online, any suggestions on how to put together a profile? I have no idea at all what to say without boring people to tears by going on for ages of being too short so sound unfriendly.

Evening, are you male or female? This will have an impact on my views as I am female so tend to have mainly seen male profiles. It will be easier to give you my views on the don'ts rather than the do's but these are just my opinions, everyone is attracted to different things so will find different things attractive.

Don't state on your profile anything about 'how has it come to this/never thought I would have to resort to internet dating/hope none of my friends or family see this/would you tell people we met in the pub' as it makes it sound as if you find internet dating shameful or embarrassing. Remember the women/men you are going to make contact with are on here and it suggests that you find their behaviour shameful/embarrassing.

Don't write 'I don't know what to write here' It makes you sound like you have never had an original thought in your life! It reads like you have no views, don't have a personality to showcase and need help to get through life rather than being a confident and capable adult.

Don't write 'I like nights in, nights out, open fires etc' Yawn yawn yawn. Most people like these sort of things but it doesn't tell the reader anything about you.

If you insist on putting a list of interests, say what you like about them and why you like them e.g. what kind of films are you into and why.

Inject a bit of humour into the profile. The first couple that I saw that started very ironically cracked me up - its a bit boring now so you need to find your own USP. 'Nagging, illnatured, shopaholic who with holds sex as punishment seeking hen pecked, impotent millionaire' type thing but like I said it has been done to death now.

Anything that gives a flash of your personality is good, something to leave people wanting more rather than thinking you are a bore.

despite the amount I have written here my profile is fairly short with a few paragraphs detailing what I am looking for and none of the information repeated from earlier sections.

On_My_Lonesome

Thank ali-t I will get my thinking cap out of the dusty depths of the cupboard and give it a go at the weekend when have more time to sit and compose (drink wine).

I'm female by the way. I think the pic will be the hardest part for me, I tend to either pull faces when someone points a camera at me or hide behind other people so might have to get someone to take something thats not too crazy, wouldn't want to scare any potential off with a scary picture.

ali-t

I read one really funny one from a guy who changed his profile weekly and it was more like a blog. He was ranting about womens profiles where they wrote about loving girls nights out, nights on the wine etc but since they were online every Saturday night it seemed more like they were sitting on their own in the house with a bottle of wine and a giant dairymilk. It made me laugh as it had a distinct ring of truth about it.

On_My_Lonesome

Thats a good one ali-t and yes does sound about right. It has however given me a glimmer of an idea, will have a play around with it and let you know if it turns into anything more than a faint spark.

ali-t

Please do, I'm a right nosy mare and love reading people's profiles. PM me if you don't want to put it on here.

newcook

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

im on pof asked a couple of people here to look at my profile but no dates as off yet what am i doing wrong vassirion240 cheers

in all honesty, I gave you a few suggestions on what you could write but rather than put it into your own words you just copied and pasted it!

As I said before, you need to talk about your likes, your dislikes, what makes you laugh etc. dont just list them.

what sort of messages are you sending to women? are you just sending 'Hi how are you?' or are you actually reading what they have put in their profile and commenting on things?

even if you are using a phone to access the internet, you should make sure you use commas, full stops, question marks etc.

You are trying to sell women a product (you!) – they aren’t going to buy it if it doesn’t sound good!

JustKeepSwimming_2

Well I'm starting to wonder if I have a 50 mile exclusion zone around me & my profile :rotfl: as I'm not sure I could do any worse at this dating stuff!

So far the few men who have messaged me to chat & are only 10 years older than me (or less) appear to have decided that they no longer wish to chat. Was it something I said although how "That sounds like fun - I'm usually around after 8pm if you'd like to chat" can possibly sound so offensive/unattractive I do don't know. It does suggest that I'm in most nights though - which is certainly true.

How is everyone else doing?

1940sGal

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Well I'm starting to wonder if I have a 50 mile exclusion zone around me & my profile :rotfl: as I'm not sure I could do any worse at this dating stuff!

So far the few men who have messaged me to chat & are only 10 years older than me (or less) appear to have decided that they no longer wish to chat. Was it something I said although how "That sounds like fun - I'm usually around after 8pm if you'd like to chat" can possibly sound so offensive/unattractive I do don't know. It does suggest that I'm in most nights though - which is certainly true.

How is everyone else doing?

There are no words for how offensive that is. What were you thinking? :eek: :rotfl: Blimey some people are weird/over sensitive/pillocks (delete where appropriate )

Despite signing up for OkCupid i've hidden my profile. Not deleted but it will probably end up being. Also hidden my guardian soul mates profile. Sod online dating. In fact sod dating full stop right now.

I'm hoping to get that job at costa which will allow me to meet lots of new people and make new friends. I'll be happy with doing that and generally enjoying myself.

As for the here and now, well i have a friend down south who is always up for some flirty fun when the mood takes me nothing serious, no commitment and just fun between friends. Great stuff.

JustKeepSwimming_2

1940sGal wrote: »

There are no words for how offensive that is. What were you thinking? :eek: :rotfl: Blimey some people are weird/over sensitive/pillocks (delete where appropriate )

Married maybe? Or am I too cynical :rotfl:

Despite signing up for OkCupid i've hidden my profile. Not deleted but it will probably end up being. Also hidden my guardian soul mates profile. Sod online dating. In fact sod dating full stop right now.

I have to decide if I'm going to renew by Tuesday - I doubt it tonight!

I'm hoping to get that job at costa which will allow me to meet lots of new people and make new friends. I'll be happy with doing that and generally enjoying myself.

As for the here and now, well i have a friend down south who is always up for some flirty fun when the mood takes me nothing serious, no commitment and just fun between friends. Great stuff.

I think I'd prefer friends to a date. I do have friends, but no single ones of either sex so when we do go out conversations often turn to what their partners have done/said or problems with in-laws etc. Totally understandable but frustrating when the conversation then turns to what went wrong with all my partners (crikey I sound such a slapper :rotfl:) & why I still don't have a new partner.

I like the sound of your friend more than mine :T

Although my friends are lovely they're mot that sort of friends....

1940sGal

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I think I'd prefer friends to a date. I do have friends, but no single ones of either sex so when we do go out conversations often turn to what their partners have done/said or problems with in-laws etc. Totally understandable but frustrating when the conversation then turns to what went wrong with all my partners (crikey I sound such a slapper :rotfl:) & why I still don't have a new partner.

I like the sound of your friend more than mine :T

Although my friends are lovely they're mot that sort of friends....

I'm lucky. He's a great guy, we've got lots in common and, best of all, he's a few hundred miles away