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ali-t wrote: »

That would only leave me one night a week, so not really do-able lol. I have strict one day, one date rules!

Live dangerously and talk to them all at the same time.

For that though you need to be extremely good at remembering names and a quick typer. Its also important not to get conversations mixed up in case you send the wrong person the wrong reply.:o:D

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JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

4 men - wow I admire your time managment skills! With work & being a single parent to 2 kids who need taking here, there & everwhere & an unreliable ex who changes his plans for when he has the kids (job related so not his fault) I think I'd struggle to fit in seeing even 1 man.

I'm sure if the OP can manage 4 then you could cope with one.:D

JustKeepSwimming_2

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

im on pof asked a couple of people here to look at my profile but no dates as off yet what am i doing wrong vassirion240 cheers

1940sGal wrote: »

I've had a look on your profile and, for fear of being pedantic, the only thing I see is grammatical errors, things like using too many exclamation marks, or not using commas to separate your interests and personally I wouldn't put that you were 'over 12 stone'. I've never seen that on a dating profile.

Try to be a bit more detailed if you can. For instance, try explaining things rather than just stating facts in a simple sentence. Perhaps put one or two more pictures up? The one you have is ok but people can't really see your eyes because of the glare in your glasses (i always have the same problem).

Just a few things I noted, I'm sure some others will have different opinions.

Also, don't worry too much about it. It's not necessarily anything you're doing. PoF isn't the best site around. Perhaps try another and see how that goes?

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

pay sites compared to pof including dating affinity?. i have had not 1 date and im not even a minger vassirion240

I've only used one dating site, so can't comment on others, & have heard good & bad tales about many sites... Not helpful, sorry.

I think 1940sGal has given you some excellent advice about your profile, which I've just looked at, & I agree with everything she has said.
Rightly or wrongly, I sigh if I see a profile (or message) that contains lots of text speak/grammatical errors, & that comment does come up several times on the dating site I use which has a daily comments/diary section. Several men have posted that they also hate text speak/errors in womens' profiles too.

I agree with her comment about glare on your picture too, but apart from that it is a good picture - clear & honest. I do see some unfocused photographs, some so dark you can barely see the person, & some nice group pictures (which one of them are you?). And what is going on with the upside down pictures...

I find I'm making snap judgements about men based on hardly any information & I do worry I'm getting it wrong :rotfl:. Best of luck - it isn't easy doing this, is it?

ali-t

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Live dangerously and talk to them all at the same time.

For that though you need to be extremely good at remembering names and a quick typer. Its also important not to get conversations mixed up in case you send the wrong person the wrong reply.:o:D

you have got me all wrong. What I meant was that I wouldn't meet up with more than one in any one day. I manage speaking to them all daily - either on chat, email or text - sometimes all 4 of them at once!

I work full time and also have a lot of outside interests that I don't intend to give up just because there are a few men on the scene. I am enjoying meeting up with people and getting wined and dined.

To fit them all in I have met some at lunchtimes and others after work or in the evening. Some during the week and others at weekends but it is absolutely exhausting.

JustKeepSwimming_2

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Live dangerously and talk to them all at the same time.

For that though you need to be extremely good at remembering names and a quick typer. Its also important not to get conversations mixed up in case you send the wrong person the wrong reply.:o:D

Are you speaking from experience?

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I'm sure if the OP can manage 4 then you could cope with one.:D

But I'd need to find one who actually wants to date me first. Which I'm not doing well at so far :rotfl:

ali-t

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

pay sites compared to pof including dating affinity?. i have had not 1 date and im not even a minger vassirion240

Only read the text below if you want the harsh reality from my perspective. Obviously not everyone will share you view but as you have had no dates, my view sounds like it might be shared with others.

To be brutally honest I think your profile needs to be overhauled, especially the picture. It looks to me like you are in bed, wearing your work clothes clicking your mouse. If that is the case I am reading into this that you don't have friends that could take pics of you, the dreamcatcher is pretty cheesy, the image you want people to take away of you is you in bed but in a very non-sexual way which is bizarre and becuase of the way you are sitting your shirt looks a bit bizarre. It is a bit 'dad trying to be cool' with the shirt rumpled and open necked - more David Cameron than Daniel Craig.

IMO, you should have more than one pic and make it of you in your casual clothes or if you want one of you in your work outfit, make it a smart and sharp suit not a crumpled shirt. If you are using the webcam on your laptop have the laptop either level with your eyeline (maybe on a shelf or something) rather than below as looking down doesn't show off your face or features very well. Try a few poses from pouting to wide grin just to get comfortable and it can look more natural if you are looking off to the side rather than looking down at the webcam.

Don't mention your height or weight in the about me section, people can see it in the top section and you would be better showcasing personality in the about me section than anything physical. TBH I think there will be quite a few women who would be put off by your height but if you pull them in with a few killer personality statements then it is more likely to be overlooked. A few self depreciating remarks in a tongue in cheek way always make me laugh and think that the person doesn't take themselves too seriously. I would probably take a second look at someone who had something about Tom Cruise who is going to be playing Jack Reacher (who is 6'5") in the upcoming Reacher movie. Something memorable that would make me smile rather than the usual blah blah blah.

Decriptive text including things like own car, flat etc is good but the etc makes it sound like you don't value these things. 'Home owning, independent male with good career' sounds more positive than what you have written.

Your bottom paragraph that starts with 'I love being out and about...' is good and should be your opener. It makes you sound fun and interesting to be around. I think you need to say a bit more about what you can offer a woman in addition to what you want.

Just my opinion but surely worth experimenting with to see if it secures you a few dates.

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JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Are you speaking from experience?

No, I dont go on dating sites.:o

1940sGal

ali-t wrote: »

Only read the text below if you want the harsh reality from my perspective. Obviously not everyone will share you view but as you have had no dates, my view sounds like it might be shared with others.

To be brutally honest I think your profile needs to be overhauled, especially the picture. It looks to me like you are in bed, wearing your work clothes clicking your mouse. If that is the case I am reading into this that you don't have friends that could take pics of you, the dreamcatcher is pretty cheesy, the image you want people to take away of you is you in bed but in a very non-sexual way which is bizarre and becuase of the way you are sitting your shirt looks a bit bizarre. It is a bit 'dad trying to be cool' with the shirt rumpled and open necked - more David Cameron than Daniel Craig.

IMO, you should have more than one pic and make it of you in your casual clothes or if you want one of you in your work outfit, make it a smart and sharp suit not a crumpled shirt. If you are using the webcam on your laptop have the laptop either level with your eyeline (maybe on a shelf or something) rather than below as looking down doesn't show off your face or features very well. Try a few poses from pouting to wide grin just to get comfortable and it can look more natural if you are looking off to the side rather than looking down at the webcam.

Don't mention your height or weight in the about me section, people can see it in the top section and you would be better showcasing personality in the about me section than anything physical. TBH I think there will be quite a few women who would be put off by your height but if you pull them in with a few killer personality statements then it is more likely to be overlooked. A few self depreciating remarks in a tongue in cheek way always make me laugh and think that the person doesn't take themselves too seriously. I would probably take a second look at someone who had something about Tom Cruise who is going to be playing Jack Reacher (who is 6'5") in the upcoming Reacher movie. Something memorable that would make me smile rather than the usual blah blah blah.

Decriptive text including things like own car, flat etc is good but the etc makes it sound like you don't value these things. 'Home owning, independent male with good career' sounds more positive than what you have written.

Your bottom paragraph that starts with 'I love being out and about...' is good and should be your opener. It makes you sound fun and interesting to be around. I think you need to say a bit more about what you can offer a woman in addition to what you want.

Just my opinion but surely worth experimenting with to see if it secures you a few dates.

That's pretty much what I said a few posts back. I wouldn't dream of putting my weight on there and I know from experience pictures with a web cam/phone don't work when you're wearing glasses. Huge reflection!

JustKeepSwimming_2

ali-t wrote: »

you have got me all wrong. What I meant was that I wouldn't meet up with more than one in any one day. I manage speaking to them all daily - either on chat, email or text - sometimes all 4 of them at once!

I work full time and also have a lot of outside interests that I don't intend to give up just because there are a few men on the scene. I am enjoying meeting up with people and getting wined and dined.

To fit them all in I have met some at lunchtimes and others after work or in the evening. Some during the week and others at weekends but it is absolutely exhausting.

Sounds like a second full time job & you must be knackered (sorry, that sounds wrong, so I hope you know what I mean!). Have you had any awful dates? Sounds nosey of me, but I just need to convince myself that not all blokes are nutters....

But as I now appear to have an online dating stalker, I'm not sure anyone will convince me of that. This man winks at me several times a day but never sends a message, or replies to any of mine. I did point out in my first message that as he is over 80miles away (requested that men live no more than 20 miles away as I don't have a car) & he smokes (requested a non-smoker) I doubted we were suited. As he kept winking, I asked if he'd just like to chat - no reply just further winks. I'm starting to think I'll have to block him as it is starting to worry me a little . Just don't understand why he would do this?

Other than he is just another nutter I have attracted :rotfl:

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No, I dont go on dating sites.:o

I'm not sure I believe that...:D You seem very well informed.

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JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

If these were real life examples then you could argue that the man is possibly shy & tongue tied, but I don't think that applies to email does it?

It's very much a real life example only the other way round. I am male and have had "conversations" with ladies a couple of times that have followed that path - and they contacted me first.