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ali-t

VestanPance wrote: »

Three possibilities.

1. He's either the most shy person on the planet.
2. His profile is false (pictures etc), so he know when you meet he'll be found out.
3. He's a time waster, actually married/got a girlfriend.

I have met him once and he isn't particularly shy, he does look like his pics, says he isn't married so that leaves that he is a time waster.

I don't understand why he wouldn't just say he is looking for email chat rather than his profile saying he is looking for a relationship. He is quite sexually forward so again I don't understand why he wouldn't just state that he is looking for nothing serious rather than saying he wants a relationship. He wasn't wearing any jewellery and works outdoors a lot so I thought I might have noticed a mark from a wedding ring.

We have another meet up scheduled for the weekend so if he misses that one it is going to have to be game over. Grrrrr!

Am I wasting my time with him?

JustKeepSwimming_2

VestanPance wrote: »

Three possibilities.

1. He's either the most shy person on the planet.
2. His profile is false (pictures etc), so he know when you meet he'll be found out.
3. He's a time waster, actually married/got a girlfriend.

ali-t wrote: »

I have met him once and he isn't particularly shy, he does look like his pics, says he isn't married so that leaves that he is a time waster.

I don't understand why he wouldn't just say he is looking for email chat rather than his profile saying he is looking for a relationship. He is quite sexually forward so again I don't understand why he wouldn't just state that he is looking for nothing serious rather than saying he wants a relationship. He wasn't wearing any jewellery and works outdoors a lot so I thought I might have noticed a mark from a wedding ring.

We have another meet up scheduled for the weekend so if he misses that one it is going to have to be game over. Grrrrr!

Am I wasting my time with him?

I would have agreed with VestanPance's 3 reasons, but you've ruled out the first 2. Maybe he has a reason that he's a bit embarrased about - like he needs to care for a relative/friend but doesn't want to put you off, or he has meetings that he doesn't think you'd be into. An ex of mine kept quiet that he used to meet some mates & dress up as sci-fi characters.....A friend's ex kept quite about going to his AA meetings :rotfl:

Hate to say it but maybe he is married - not all men wear rings, especially those that work outdoors/trades. I have friends who are married to a builder, a plumber, a heating engineer, a landscape gardner, a farmer & none of their husbands ever wear rings. Some of the men I work with at high school don't wear them either. Or maybe he has a child that he sees but hasn't told you about yet?

Hope I'm wrong (am usually ) & after all, what on earth do I know about dating :rotfl:. I can't give any reason as to why he might be looking for friendship vs relationship - except to question if he actually knows what he wants?

0^0 wrote: »

Same as always in here, nowt ever changes. May as well pop in and be miserable like everyone else.:rotfl:

Oy - I'm not miserable about being single! Quite glad tonight as I'm far too knackered & grouchy to have to be on my best behaviour when all I can think about is how early I can go to bed with a good book.

ali-t

Thanks justkeepswimming. I was meaning to pm you again because he's back! He swears blind there's no children either so I suppose I'll just have to accept that he's game playing, likes the idea more than the reality or just isn't into me.

maintenanceman

ali-t wrote: »

Go on then, give us girls some insight into the male psyche because you men are all still a bit of a mystery to me!

I know its a bit of a crystal ball question but there's one man who has been messaging me for around 6 weeks. We have arranged to meet up a lot over this time but he has cancelled them all but one. He is very keen by text and is in touch a lot, most of it initiated by him and always saying how much he wants to meet. He swears blind he isn't married or seeing anyone but totally drags his heels about meeting again. Am I wasting my time because he is just not into me?

Ali T. I think your answer is in your question. If you read your question over and over again I think yo will find your answer. Basically it doesn't add up. The guy probably has a girlfriend or is married and just likes some female atttension to boost his ego or brag to his mates that he has all these 'birds' after him. Next he will be telling you he is a secret agent working for the government and thats why he has cancelled.
What reasons did he give to cancel? Was his dog sick? did his car break down? Sorry it sounds like too much blah blah blah to have cancelled so many times/ One cancellation O.K but more than one. His story sounds like baloney.

ali-t

maintenanceman wrote: »

Ali T. I think your answer is in your question. If you read your question over and over again I think yo will find your answer. Basically it doesn't add up. The guy probably has a girlfriend or is married and just likes some female atttension to boost his ego or brag to his mates that he has all these 'birds' after him. Next he will be telling you he is a secret agent working for the government and thats why he has cancelled.
What reasons did he give to cancel? Was his dog sick? did his car break down? Sorry it sounds like too much blah blah blah to have cancelled so many times/ One cancellation O.K but more than one. His story sounds like baloney.

Thanks, you are just confirming what I have suspected. He has either been working late, the works van broke down, too tired, unwell etc etc. I'll see if he cancels again this weekend and get him told. Grrrr. His profile on the dating site is private so no one can see it unless he makes contact with them. Doh! You are right, the answers are all there

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ali-t wrote: »

Thanks, you are just confirming what I have suspected. He has either been working late, the works van broke down, too tired, unwell etc etc. I'll see if he cancels again this weekend and get him told. Grrrr. His profile on the dating site is private so no one can see it unless he makes contact with them. Doh! You are right, the answers are all there

Hi, ive read your post and you say youve met him once in 6weeks, which was the only time you have seen him. Hes cancelled all further dates/meet ups. The only other contact you have had is txting over the past 6weeks. If it were me i could understand a cancelled date once and go for a second date, but if that date was cancelled there had better have been a very good reason to cancel it and not by txt either. If he was really interested in you he would have phoned you and re arranged another date very soon. I would just cut contact with the guy as he seems like a timewaster and getting your hopes up to get them crushed. The guy i was talking to cancelled a coffee date and i havnt heard from him so ive deleted his number and moved on. I cant be dealing with a man like that as it doesnt take a second to txt anyone and it seems rude like being ignored. Why ask for a coffee meetup, then cancel then dont txt. Hes not interested. Time to move onwards and upwards

maintenanceman

ali-t wrote: »

Thanks, you are just confirming what I have suspected. He has either been working late, the works van broke down, too tired, unwell etc etc. I'll see if he cancels again this weekend and get him told. Grrrr. His profile on the dating site is private so no one can see it unless he makes contact with them. Doh! You are right, the answers are all there

I am sorry if I painted a dark picture ( i had a couple of beers) but you don't have to feel deflated by the experience. You never know whats around the corner.

ali-t

maintenanceman wrote: »

I am sorry if I painted a dark picture ( i had a couple of beers) but you don't have to feel deflated by the experience. You never know whats around the corner.

It's not a problem, I've got plenty more fish in my sea just now but there's just something about that one that I want. Probably because he is keeping me on my toes lol

maintenanceman

ali-t wrote: »

It's not a problem, I've got plenty more fish in my sea just now but there's just something about that one that I want. Probably because he is keeping me on my toes lol

Want or wanted? Anyway Maybe you like to do a bit of chasing and he is playing hard to get which is keeping you interested. If he was calling you all the time reckon you would be put off. Either that or it's a case of 'other girls might be interested in him' so he must be O.K

maintenanceman

I really hope I haven't killed this thread. Its ok I wont post again.