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samuelthomson240

any tuition out there no dates from pof thanks john

VestanPance

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

any tuition out there no dates from pof thanks john

You're male so you are part of a group that outnumbers women on these sites by a fair margin. Most sites swing between 3-1 to 8-1 in terms of men and women.

When I was working in the industry the basic rules they outlined included. Read the profile and ask questions based on that. No text speak. Do not send messages like "hi, how are u?".

In truth I think a response is more likely is do they find you attractive. If you look good they are more likely to give you a chance. Try and stand out. A good number of women will be getting a reasonably high volume of messages. It's not like real life where only confident guys will go over and talk to a woman that interests them. Online anyone is more likely to make contact based without the fear of rejection face to face. When you send a message you will be up against x amount of other men for her attention, do you stand out?

The most successful guy I know at online dating, is actually a complete and utter dating disaster. He has a great skill with the written word and can craft a really funny online personality. The written word is his skill and it means he really stands out from the crowd. He pretty much never gets past date two though, as his online personality doesn't really match what he is like in person. In real life he very quiet/reserved/shy, so women turn up expecting this laugh a minute banter merchant and wonder who this quiet guy they have met with is.

You could maybe post your profile here and let people provide feedback, or ask your friends to do that for you. I'd say strangers are more likely to be brutal/honest though.

newcook

I offered on the previous page to take a look at your pof profile but you need to tell me your username so I can search for it!!

VestanPance

I'm not being nasty, but I'd also be careful in how you write your messages. There is no grammer in your messaging style on here, which could put people off.

gardenia101

What do you think of men (& women, so I'm not accused of being sexist here ) without children signing up for a dating site aimed at single parents?

My friend reactivated her SWK account, but cancelled it a few days later as she had a major wobble & confidence failure - not very MSE .

We were both suprised by how many childless men are on this particular site - when I asked a male friend he looked at me as if I'd grown a second head & announced it was "Because all those single mothers are going to be desperate for it, aren't they?".

Is this really what most men think?

In my innocence I imagined it might be easier for two single parents to get together as they both understand what a tough job it is & how lonely it can be - kind of singing from the same hymn sheet IYKWIM. Although I know how hard it is just to get out of the door being a single mum, never mind try & co-ordinate a meeting with another single parent!

SailorSam - that comment made me laugh so much I spat tea over my screen.

VestanPance

Yes, some guys will think that. Those guys are idiots though.

Li0nhead

how come women go for the idiots?

SailorSam

Li0nhead wrote: »

how come women go for the idiots?

That's not true,
If that were true i'd be fighting them off.

SailorSam

VestanPance wrote: »

When I was working in the industry the basic rules they outlined included. Read the profile and ask questions based on that. No text speak. Do not send messages like "hi, how are u?".

In truth I think a response is more likely is do they find you attractive. If you look good they are more likely to give you a chance.

There you go gentlemen, and ladies i suppose. Words of wisdom straight from the horses mouth. Someone who's worked there.
I don't know why so many people struggle to write a simple Email, it doesn't have to be long.
Paragraph 1, a couple of sentences to say why you're writing, why you chose this person to say hello to.
Paragraph 2, two more short sentences pick a couple of things out of their profile and ask about them
Paragraph 3, just one longer sentence saying good bye and good luck,
Unfortunately as Vestan says, no matter what women say about personality being more important and that they want someone honest and caring, if you haven't got the looks you're going to go to the back of the queue.

1940sGal

bedpotato wrote: »

It wasn't the website that turned out to be bad; it was your ex. What you really mean is: "horrible man, avoid at all costs" not "horrible website."

I met my ex on a dating website, too, and he turned out to be a cheating, lying, two-timing scumbag who tore my heart into little shreds. But that wasn't the website's fault. The website itself was rather good, and my ex's character is no reflection on the website, because he is not affiliated with it.

I mean exactly what I said. I thought the website was pants aswell.