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sportbeth wrote: »

A potentially contraversial comment here but I'm a bit shocked at the number of women who have posted on here who have said they've found "the one" then immediately refer to them paying for everything or buying them gifts.

Is this me only reading half the thread and not realising that men are all on the scrounge these days or has nearly 3 decades of feminism gone unnoticed?

(for the record I'm a 50/50 woman all the way and fiercely independent)

I've found my 'the one', and he never pays for anything for me, in fact he owes me about £80 haha, which a lot of people find strange as he's in a job which most people would associate with him paying for everything...
I think a man who can provide though is attractive as it echoes back to out old instincts of being homemakers waiting for the men to bring home food etc. That's my take anyway

sapphireeye

sportbeth wrote: »

A potentially contraversial comment here but I'm a bit shocked at the number of women who have posted on here who have said they've found "the one" then immediately refer to them paying for everything or buying them gifts.

Is this me only reading half the thread and not realising that men are all on the scrounge these days or has nearly 3 decades of feminism gone unnoticed?

(for the record I'm a 50/50 woman all the way and fiercely independent)

My blokey does pay for a lot, however the balance is made up elsewhere. For example, for a large portion of our relationship we've been 150 miles away from each other and 90% of the time I've driven to see him (which is also my home town so I can see my parents as well) about every second weekend and obviously I pay for the petrol for my car, so if he pays for us to go out for dinner over the weekend while I'm home then we work out about even. A significant factor is that I'm a student and my yearly income is about 1/8th of what his is and I'd love to be able to split everything 50/50 and I always offer to pay my share (and he doesn't pay for everything), but if we were to be 50/50 all the time then I couldn't afford to go out as often and I'd feel like I was holding him back all the time. Also, I think that he would feel guilty if I was paying half of everything when he knows how little money I have. We're both very sensible with our money, I've completed 2 years of my degree and not gone near an overdraft (which is an achievement compared to everyone else I know) and he doesn't want me to start now. As soon as I have money then I will be paying for a lot more than I do now and I insist on paying for things now because I don't want to be a free loader, but I have to accept that there's quite an imbalance financially. If he insists on paying then I usually insist on going somewhere where we can use a discount voucher/I can get us student discount/we can get 2 for the price of 1 so I don't feel like I'm costing him too much, and we both love getting a bargain :-D

I don't see the man paying as an insult to my equal rights, the same as I don't see a man holding a door open for me or lending me his jacket an insult. He knows that I gave up a full-time salary in order to pursue a proper career and he knows how difficult that was (well, is) and admires me for taking that step to better myself so wants to support me in whatever way he can. I think that once I'm working full-time and earning a full-time wage our relationship will be a lot more financially balanced, but for the time being I don't think that should get in the way of an otherwise healthy and successful relationship.

You may not agree but I just wanted to give my viewpoint without starting a debate on an otherwise interesting thread :-)

System

sportbeth wrote: »

A potentially contraversial comment here but I'm a bit shocked at the number of women who have posted on here who have said they've found "the one" then immediately refer to them paying for everything or buying them gifts.

Is this me only reading half the thread and not realising that men are all on the scrounge these days or has nearly 3 decades of feminism gone unnoticed?

(for the record I'm a 50/50 woman all the way and fiercely independent)

With my bf its 50/50. He does always come up to see me but that's because i have my own flat and he still lives at home so it's not practical for me to go and stay with him (he's mum is a bit weird about gf's staying over). However i give him money towards his train tickets and i bought him a railcard so its cheaper. Generally speaking i buy all the food for when he's here, though he's chipped in a few times when there was something he wanted. If we go cinema or anything we split it 50/50.

Barny1979

I'm still single, had two dates with a really nice woman, but not getting my hopes up that we''l become a relationship. Hoping to see her again at some point this weekend as it's my birthday and it would be nice to see her.

Scotty1.7

sportbeth wrote: »

A potentially contraversial comment here but I'm a bit shocked at the number of women who have posted on here who have said they've found "the one" then immediately refer to them paying for everything or buying them gifts.

Is this me only reading half the thread and not realising that men are all on the scrounge these days or has nearly 3 decades of feminism gone unnoticed?

(for the record I'm a 50/50 woman all the way and fiercely independent)

I have to say I feel awkward letting a girl pay for some of the first few dates, I don't mind but I do prefer to pay for most so maybe 80/20

But on the other side I don't want the lady to feel awkward about being paid for so it getting the happy medium were both feel right.

If thats makes sense.

Barny1979

Barny1979 wrote: »

I'm still single, had two dates with a really nice woman, but not getting my hopes up that we''l become a relationship. Hoping to see her again at some point this weekend as it's my birthday and it would be nice to see her.

Well no date this weekend

springdreams

Barny1979 wrote: »

Well no date this weekend

Sorry to hear that Barny Hope you had a good birthday though :beer:

Barny1979

springdreams wrote: »

Sorry to hear that Barny Hope you had a good birthday though :beer:

Nope it was pretty crap to be honest. Also been told that she really thinks I'm a good bloke, but doesn't feel that certain something for me.

Seven women this year I've been on dates with and none of them have wanted a relationship with me

System

I kind of know the feeling runningwoman. Like i'm expecting something to go wrong?

Things are still going well but i can't shake the feeling he's not as into me as i am to him. I am over my ex, but i'm still equating feelings with getting hurt. So i'm afraid to open up as much as i maybe should. I'm trying to take things easy and just enjoy the time i spend with him rather than overanalysing things

Scotty1.7

Well may as well update

Going no were fast, not minding at all.

Just got a new job at work, different department etc and hoping for new things lol