what are the best value dating sites?

zoesmummy_2006

awww runningwoman and butterflies im so happy for you both, sounds like you both met good men, just one question......do they have any brothers/friends, if so send them this way please

Im still single, not actively looking, got a very vulgar message on okcupid a couple weeks back so decided to delete the account. I only seem to appeal to taken men looking for a bit of fun on the side But hey ho, at least I always have a cool side of the bed to move to on a hot night

lara_412

Hi all, hope you're all doing fine!

Update from me..

I met a guy from okcupid & things were going well. We had 2 fantastic dates and he admitted he liked me. After the 2nd date we kept chatting via texts and emails and suddenly he messaged me saying he couldn't see me anymore as his ex-wife had suddenly came back into his life. Apparently she's making his life really difficult right now so he can't see anyone. I felt kinda strung along really as from the start he had said his ex-wife wouldn't be a problem.

I then jumped back onto okcupid and started chatting to another guy, seemed nice etc, but he's quite pushy. I gave him my mobile number and we arranged to meet. He cancelled our first date and we're still talking but haven't re-arranged anything. What I mean by pushy is the fact he wants to speak to me every day and won't let it go if I say I'm busy. I'm unsure about meeting him because of his behaviour.

sapphireeye

I'm glad to see that people have had success in the dating arena even if others are still looking. Runningwoman I'm glad that you found someone that you like enough to give things a shot!! :-)

It's been just over 6 months since I had my first date with my man from the internet and I'm still just as smitten if not more, and I still think he's perfect for me! Just wanted to check in and say that it's all still going well so far.

jemcart

If you’re based in London, the best one is Doing Something (www.doingsomething.co.uk), wherepeople put up dates they’d like to go on e.g. rowing on the Serpentine in HydePark, and members of the opposite sex who are interested contact them. It’s a reallygood idea!

sapphireeye

runningwoman wrote: »

Thank you zoesmummy :beer:, I’m afraid only sisters though, and one’s married too :eek::rotfl:





Yay, missed your posts but absolutely delighted you are all loved up :beer:

It’s been two years since I was properly in love and I’m delighted to have made this move and taken some emotional risk, regardless of how it turns out.

He put me in a cab home a week or so ago before he had to catch his flight home – had a lovely time together but things were a bit “ambiguous” (by my choice really) and I was like “BYE DARLING”, then five minutes later, sat crying my eyes out and not knowing why, poor driver didn’t know what hit him! And I don’t like starting heavy discussions with men, so I was a bit stuck really.

So it was really lovely to hear from him soon afterwards making it clear that he wasn’t interested in seeing anyone else - and so would I be interested to doing the same. Different city so contact will be difficult - we’re giving it a month or two to see how things progress.

Nice mix of someone attractive to me – just my physical type - and also has been very attentive (calls when he says he will, uber helpful and wants to do things for me).

7 years older, which is top of my preferred age range - dirty old man . But to be fair, in shape and sort of a “happy where I am in terms of good career and confident” older man, not one of those “trying to be younger and still working in a young man’s job and putting up photos of me in sunglasses to hide the wrinkles” older men, so that’s cool.

Was actually casually dating someone 2 years younger - dirty old woman - and although he did tick most of my boxes and treated me well, the way he courted me was a bit too “matey” for my liking – sort of “hey want to hang out” and “assuming you’re my girl and we make last minute plans to go over to each others places just because we’ve spent a few nights together” type .

Maybe that’s cool when you’re of a similar mentality - I suspect he’ll make some other young lady very happy. But personally, as politically incorrect as it sounds, I do like a man’s man who doesn’t let a lady see the bill or hold her own umbrella or make her own cup of tea in the mornings, and can (and will :eek:) throw me onto a bed :T And I've got one now.

I suspect we’re going to struggle with anything long term – I’m not keen on the marriage/kids thing and certainly don’t want to be “pushed” or on a timeline – so although I’m ardently attracted and this is definitely a “fit/connection I’ll only get once a year” – if he has certain relationship goals he needs to meet soon, it’s not going to be a goer.

Plus, I think long distance love - with the highs and the lows - can be an absolute emotional rollercoaster - reunions are great, but not the blues when my man leaves :cool:

But for now, I’m just going to try and enjoy it and not tense up too much - we’ve both blagged a long weekend this one so I am currently planning outfits and enjoying the chance to bring out my best dresses :j:money: A girl has to get her priorities right, what’s the point of having a man if he isn’t giving you an appreciative audience and a few occasions to dress up for? CAN’T WAIT

I'm not sure how much distance there is between the two of you but me and my man have been working with distance right from the beginning as well. I'm at university (as a 'mature' student) and go between my university house and my parents house quite frequently, he's based near my parents house so there's a good 2 hour drive between us when I'm away. However we've managed to work it so that we've seen each other every 2/3 weeks with either me going home or him coming here and then during longer breaks I've been able to go back home and spend it with him and I spend quite a lot of time staying at his house. Being the barmy woman I am and because I'm only in 1.5 days a week next year (final year) I will be commuting to university and shacking back up with my parents (and saving a fortune in the process) so I should be able to see him more frequently as of two day's time when I finish for the year! I have no long term plans to stay in my university city (I hate it there, hence why I come home so frequently, even before I met him) so it didn't make any sense for me to look for a man there when I was trying to get out at every opportunity.

Your distance may be a lot more than ours but I was so glad to find a man that was willing to put up with me being all over the place and in fact his job can mean that he can be sent to work away from home at a moment's notice so he's not home all the time anyway. It's not always easy but we've made it work through both being willing to put the effort in. Initially I was worried that things might feel different when I was home for a longer period of time and there wasn't so much of the missing each other and being desperate to see each other again but I was home for a good month solid and everything was lovely!

I can't remember how old you are but I've also ended up with someone older than me, 8.5 years older in fact (but doesn't act it or look it actually...) and it works really well. Sometimes I feel really young because he owns his own house and has a good job and I'm currently living the student life but I'm definitely not your typical student and I think he appreciates how much I gave up (a good job and a nice lifestyle) to go to university and have a proper career! From what I know he's in no rush to move onto the next stage and actually I think that from a man's point of view that can be one of the benefits of dating someone younger, their biological clock is less likely to have started ticking and so if the man isn't after all of that yet then by the time the woman is ready then they might have come round to the idea ;-) Maybe that's a bit controversial, I'm not sure!

Barny1979

I'm still single unfortunately

System

Nearly 2 months in Still loved up and besotted with him. See him every weekend and talk everyday.

asparagus1968

thanks for all the updates!
so pleased for the loved-up ones
i've deleted myself from POF-its just not for me.
i'll still dream of meeting someone lovely some day,
good luck to you all

Scotty1.7

asparagus1968 wrote: »

where have all the regulars gone???? scotty,butterflies,lionhead,lisa etc?
have they all met the one?or given up?

Nope still here, still single, still looking

OKCupid seems to have given me more luck though, got more replies then 1 year on POF, no dates as such yet, but started to talking to one girl on there who seems great and its a wait and see sort of thing. exchanged about 30 messages etc.

She is in Notts though, but still nothing wrong like that.

Glad to hear everyone else is ok

sportbeth

A potentially contraversial comment here but I'm a bit shocked at the number of women who have posted on here who have said they've found "the one" then immediately refer to them paying for everything or buying them gifts.

Is this me only reading half the thread and not realising that men are all on the scrounge these days or has nearly 3 decades of feminism gone unnoticed?

(for the record I'm a 50/50 woman all the way and fiercely independent)