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Frogletina

I've just seen this on POF

First date - chat..coffee...walk...meet later for a meal .

Are we walking in different directions? :rotfl:

System

Frogletina wrote: »

I've just seen this on POF

First date - chat..coffee...walk...meet later for a meal .

Are we walking in different directions? :rotfl:

Brilliant :rotfl:

lori64

lara_412 wrote: »

One thing I have learned is that being busy is just an excuse really. I know people can be genuinely busy but literally a text takes 2 minutes to type and send.

Think about it this way. If you really like someone you'd want to at least let them know you're still there even if you're genuinely busy. So you'd text them saying "hey I'm busy but I'm still into you" or something like that lol. You wouldn't just disappear.

I know this post sounds cynical but most people I've met who disappear or go quiet, always use the "busy" excuse when it's not the truth.

Have you read "He's just not that into you"?
I came across a copy in a charity shop....oh, so true with what you say about the "BUSY" excuse!! As the book says...a guy who really wants to spend time with you is NEVER too busy to see a woman he is GENUINELY into!!

I have learned so much from that book...only wish I had known it existed 20yrs ago! Mind you...would I have heeded its advice? Who knows.....

This dating malarky is a minefield..esp for a 47yr old female like myself! Im just not into the internet dating thingy..smacks off desperation and sweet shop syndrome from the blokes who dont make the effort with a woman, cos there are sooooo many to choose from!

lara_412

lori64 wrote: »

Have you read "He's just not that into you"?
I came across a copy in a charity shop....oh, so true with what you say about the "BUSY" excuse!! As the book says...a guy who really wants to spend time with you is NEVER too busy to see a woman he is GENUINELY into!!

I have learned so much from that book...only wish I had known it existed 20yrs ago! Mind you...would I have heeded its advice? Who knows.....

This dating malarky is a minefield..esp for a 47yr old female like myself! Im just not into the internet dating thingy..smacks off desperation and sweet shop syndrome from the blokes who dont make the effort with a woman, cos there are sooooo many to choose from!

Hi, yes I have a copy of that book. I got it free from a magazine ages ago. It's incredibly good and I recommend it to any woman.

lara_412

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Ahahah oh dear god, last night i got a message saying "I THINK I LOVE YOU" :rotfl: Bless..he got blocked pretty sharpish.

No plans for dates, spent last night chatting to a lovely guy but he lives 30 miles away so nothing will probably happen. Nice to chat to someone "normal" though who doesn't turn the talk to sex after a few messages (or straight away)

Good luck with your date Lara-i'm sure it will all be fine

Thank you.

Recently one guy got chatting to me and he asked me to delete my profile... we hadn't even met at that point! lol. He would also talk about marriage and children eeeeeeeeeek! :rotfl:

Regarding the guy you've been chatting to, 30 miles is nothing at all! However it does depend if the public transport is good/or either of you have a car.

My date is tomorrow. Eek. I am a little nervous. I guess it's because of my confidence really. Bought a new outfit today anyway to make me look good. Let's hope this one goes well and that this guy turns up (unlike the last one!) :rotfl:

Barny1979

Good luck for tomorrow!

I'm having very little interest and I'm on four websites! :-(

bacardi66

Barny1979 wrote: »

Had a date on Tuesday night, thought we got on well, but then when she got home the tone of the texts changed and was told she didn't feel any spark :-(

A few years ago I went on quite a few internet dates but didn't feel any spark - although we had nice dates and got on well. so I decided not to see any of them again. I think that's the hardest thing about internet dating, when you date in the real world its normally the initial spark that starts the relationship. On the internet you can have lots of mutual interests, get on well etc but when you meet in the flesh there is no spark.

I have quite a few friends who have settled down with people they met on the internet but they have told me that does take a few dates sometimes to feel that "spark" so this time round I am going to give them more than one chance! I had a good date last week, he was a nice bloke, we got on well, chatted lots and had the same sense of humour - but I certainly didn't come away thinking WOW! He is very keen for a second date so I will meet him again but Im keeping an open mind.

Barny 1979 I think you should just date as much as possible until you find a "mutual spark", Ive got friends who are now living with/married to people the met on internet dating but it did take them a while to find each other (one of my friends had met 75 different men!) and then quite a few dates before they realised they had met their perfect partners!

Barny1979

I'd be happy to go on dates until I met the right person, unfortunately I'm not getting the opportunity to go on dates.

System

lara_412 wrote: »

Thank you.

Recently one guy got chatting to me and he asked me to delete my profile... we hadn't even met at that point! lol. He would also talk about marriage and children eeeeeeeeeek! :rotfl:

Regarding the guy you've been chatting to, 30 miles is nothing at all! However it does depend if the public transport is good/or either of you have a car.

My date is tomorrow. Eek. I am a little nervous. I guess it's because of my confidence really. Bought a new outfit today anyway to make me look good. Let's hope this one goes well and that this guy turns up (unlike the last one!) :rotfl:

Yeah he's only 54 mins away by train (we worked it out last night)

I would like to meet him, we've been chatting non stop since he messaged me 3 days ago, in fact i think we spent about 12 hours chatting last night. It's so weird, i haven't clicked with anyone like this before (well not since my ex). I get butterflies in my stomach everytime i see i have a message from him.

I'm sure your date will go fine hun Keep us updated!

VfM4meplse

Barny1979 wrote: »

I'd be happy to go on dates until I met the right person, unfortunately I'm not getting the opportunity to go on dates.

Why not? Your profile seemed ok.

It's a lot easier for men as there are less weird women out there.