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lara_412 wrote: »

Lol that's the thing, I want to text him but I don't want to at the same time?! (if that makes sense!) I really do want to see if he makes the effort as I had to ask him out for a drink the first time around.

If he doesn't want to see me again then that's fine but I wish he'd at least text me to tell me. It doesn't take 2 mins to type out "sorry I'm not intersted but it was nice meeting you." (Or something similar!)

Good luck with your coffee date! Let us know how it goes!

I will

I know what you mean, I'd rather someone just told me they weren't interested then at least you know there's no chance and can forget about them and move on!

lara_412

girlybags wrote: »

I will

I know what you mean, I'd rather someone just told me they weren't interested then at least you know there's no chance and can forget about them and move on!

I'm being a nosey so and so and checked his profile. He's been online this morning. If he has enough time to check a dating site, then he has enough time to text me. I'm not demanding at all but a text would be nice. Oh well, onwards and upwards!

girlybags

lara_412 wrote: »

I'm being a nosey so and so and checked his profile. He's been online this morning. If he has enough time to check a dating site, then he has enough time to text me. I'm not demanding at all but a text would be nice. Oh well, onwards and upwards!

I agree, a text takes 30 seconds. I really hate being ignored and find people who don't reply to texts really rude. I'd rather be told straight that someone just isn't interested, I hate all the waiting and wondering involved in dating... In fact why I'm preparing to put myself through it all again I'll never know! :eek:;)

lou--b

Hiya all. Im back!!
Took my POF profile down a while ago and said I was going to try the real world, I couldnt do it, needed my POF fix!!
Profile back up 19th March, been chatting to a couple of guys (that sounds bad!) Agreed to meet one last night...how did I not notice his profile states that hes 6"7...Im 5"2 eeek. Any how, he bored me senseless, kept namedropping "famous" poeple he'd met. Wont be a second date there.
On to today, arranged a morning meet as I had a spare few hours. Met in a park, had coffee and chatted. I didnt want it to end! Had to though as Im working this afternoon. He was lovely, easy on the eye and easily one of the funniest people Ive met. 2nd date arranged before he kissed me goodbye. Just had a lovely txt from him too. So far he's ticking all the right boxes
Only problem is...Ive arranged a first date with someone else next week. Not sure if I should cancel or keep my options open?
Views please??
Lou x

lara_412

lou--b wrote: »

Hiya all. Im back!!
Took my POF profile down a while ago and said I was going to try the real world, I couldnt do it, needed my POF fix!!
Profile back up 19th March, been chatting to a couple of guys (that sounds bad!) Agreed to meet one last night...how did I not notice his profile states that hes 6"7...Im 5"2 eeek. Any how, he bored me senseless, kept namedropping "famous" poeple he'd met. Wont be a second date there.
On to today, arranged a morning meet as I had a spare few hours. Met in a park, had coffee and chatted. I didnt want it to end! Had to though as Im working this afternoon. He was lovely, easy on the eye and easily one of the funniest people Ive met. 2nd date arranged before he kissed me goodbye. Just had a lovely txt from him too. So far he's ticking all the right boxes
Only problem is...Ive arranged a first date with someone else next week. Not sure if I should cancel or keep my options open?
Views please??
Lou x

Keep your options open and don't cancel the other date. It's only been one date with the other guy, anything could happen.
Sorry don't mean to sound so cynical but it's always good to keep options open until you're exclusively dating or in a relationship.
Good luck.

lou--b

lara_412 wrote: »

Keep your options open and don't cancel the other date. It's only been one date with the other guy, anything could happen.
Sorry don't mean to sound so cynical but it's always good to keep options open until you're exclusively dating or in a relationship.
Good luck.

Thats exactly what I was thinking, I just needed someone to tell me its ok to do it!!
Thanks Lara.

Lou x

lara_412

lou--b wrote: »

Thats exactly what I was thinking, I just needed someone to tell me its ok to do it!!
Thanks Lara.

Lou x

I've been dating for only a few months but I've learned so much. I did infact once have a similar situation; I had met a nice guy who seemed really lovely. I had another date with another guy but cancelled on him as I wanted to see where it went with the first guy. Well... the first guy ended up just messing me around and I regretted cancelling the other date.

Always keep options open until you're in an exclusive relationship or dating exclusively. That's my motto from now on.

zzzLazyDaisy

Well I came off the dating site as my free trial had ended. But I've met two men who I'm still seeing as friends (I've made it clear that nothing else is going to happen, and they seem okay with that).

But here's a strange thing... a chap who I've known for about a year has popped up and is e-mailing me regularly. We are only aquaintances and in fact I didn't even know he'd finished with his previous girlfriend until recently, through another friend. He seems very keen to meet up - he works abroad a lot, so it is looking like it will be end of April now.

I really like this guy, but he is youing and fit and I have no idea what he sees in me (though he is aware of my health problems so at least I don't have to deal with that hurdle). I guess I'll just have to bide my time....

girlybags

My coffee date this aft went really well. He seems normal and was really nice. There was no instant spark for me but he was easy to get along with and we're going to see each other again I think

bacardi66

lara_412 wrote: »

Keep your options open and don't cancel the other date. It's only been one date with the other guy, anything could happen.
Sorry don't mean to sound so cynical but it's always good to keep options open until you're exclusively dating or in a relationship.
Good luck.

I agree with this, I would always keep my options open, my profile active and dating other people until one turns into a proper relationship or we make a mutual decision to date exclusively and remove our profiles.

I had a nice date last week, wasn't bowled over, he has been texting and we did have a laugh so I will meet him again just to make sure he isn't for me - but I am still active on the website and responding to emails from other guys (and if I ever get an email from anyone who seems to have a brain, a personality and no psychotic tendencies I will date them :rotfl:) And I would expect him to be doing the same.