what are the best value dating sites?

LisaB85

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I admit i don't bother looking at people without pictures. It makes me think a)what have they got to hide and b)who am i talking to really? I like to build up a mental picture of them, plus as shallow as it sounds i need there to be some physical attraction. Maybe i'm just a nosy so and so..

Right what are people's opinions on "keeping your options open"? I.e kind of dating more than one person at a time? Should you just focus on one at a time? or is it ok to be seeing and getting to know a few different people? I'm still unsure

I might still talk to others but not date more than 1 person, I'm choosing a human not a car so feel it can be unfair and would hate to compare 2 or 3 men against each other.

lara_412

Hi everyone.

Well I had a date last night. It was a spur of the moment thing, with a guy I know through a friend. We had been texting quite a lot lately and he randomly asked me out for a drink last night, so off I went.

I left him about 10pm and he said he would text me today. I haven't received anything. He's been on facebook as he's updated his status. Another classic "too cowardly to reject me."

I get so annoyed when people are too cowardly to tell someone they're not interested anymore. I feel really disappointed. I'm so fed up of dating really. I've had about 10 dates this year and only two of them went onto a second date (and even then, I was rejected after). What's so wrong with me? I would say I'm attractive, I have a lot to offer etc etc.

It's just really getting me down. I can almost predict the man will reject me before I've even met him.

I do keep a positive outlook when I'm on a date but still.... no offers of a second date.

LisaB85

lara_412 wrote: »

Hi everyone.

Well I had a date last night. It was a spur of the moment thing, with a guy I know through a friend. We had been texting quite a lot lately and he randomly asked me out for a drink last night, so off I went.

I left him about 10pm and he said he would text me today. I haven't received anything. He's been on facebook as he's updated his status. Another classic "too cowardly to reject me."

I get so annoyed when people are too cowardly to tell someone they're not interested anymore. I feel really disappointed. I'm so fed up of dating really. I've had about 10 dates this year and only two of them went onto a second date (and even then, I was rejected after). What's so wrong with me? I would say I'm attractive, I have a lot to offer etc etc.

It's just really getting me down. I can almost predict the man will reject me before I've even met him.

I do keep a positive outlook when I'm on a date but still.... no offers of a second date.

Big pet hate of mine, if I reject someone I have the respect to be honest but that is the problem people have no respect and treat people like commodities that can be chucked aside. So many times I have heard -

'I don't need to be honest or respect them we have never met/only had 1 date'

It is about time people realised that those on the other end of the screen or that person they met once is a real person and deserves a little respect and honesty.

I'm also at the stage I go on the date and expect either no contact or rejection afterwards (not that attractive) but I think this can come across in a bad way to the other person as a lack of confidence, even if you don't mention it or try to hide it I'm sure your date will pick up on it.

VfM4meplse

benb76 wrote: »

Any normal man will fancy a women primarily on how she looks, the personality and intelligence is the next thing we look for. Believe me I am a man, I know what I'm talking about!

That's the point, I'm not interested in Mr Average!

Men that show an interest in my profile w/o seeing a photo tend to be either complete chancers (QED PoF) or, thankfully exceptionally bright which is where the more exclusive sites are more useful. People w/o photos tend to communicate more openly, you can get to know a lot more about their personalities and how suited you really are that way before you meet. Also you get to like them as people first, which is how most of us choose our friends rather than based on looks.

Bearing in mind that most women on these sites are far more physically attractive than men, I've never rejected someone on their looks. What has been a dealbreaker are men that lack confidence, or appear to be sensitive. I like a robust kind of a man!

VestanPance

lara_412 wrote: »

Hi everyone.

Well I had a date last night. It was a spur of the moment thing, with a guy I know through a friend. We had been texting quite a lot lately and he randomly asked me out for a drink last night, so off I went.

I left him about 10pm and he said he would text me today. I haven't received anything. He's been on facebook as he's updated his status. Another classic "too cowardly to reject me."

I get so annoyed when people are too cowardly to tell someone they're not interested anymore. I feel really disappointed. I'm so fed up of dating really. I've had about 10 dates this year and only two of them went onto a second date (and even then, I was rejected after). What's so wrong with me? I would say I'm attractive, I have a lot to offer etc etc.

It's just really getting me down. I can almost predict the man will reject me before I've even met him.

I do keep a positive outlook when I'm on a date but still.... no offers of a second date.

Sounds like a run of bad luck. I guess the thing you never know is what the other is looking for, which stands for both sexes. They may be after a relationship, they may just like casually dating lots of people, they may be after a cheap fling or a leg over etc.

Wishing you the best of luck in finding someone you make that special connection with.

button16

Ooo I see some kind of experiment coming out here, person signs up with two profiles one with a picture and one without and see if there is a variation in the responses...

uk_american

I think I just did that experiment sort of...I'm a recent lurker in this conversation. (Hi! :wave:) Three years after finding someone on match, it recently ended. To see what was out there and slowly ease back into dating, I put up a POF profile, no photo.

I received 5 messages and a 3 requests to chat on this 'no photo' profile, after a day. Age ranges were huge, from 6 years younger to 13 years older. :eek:

I then added a few photos 2 hours ago, and figured out how to restrict my settings a little further as to who can contact me and to block the chat request for now. I've had 1 message and 5 'users who want to meet you', 1 of whom is an carryover from the non-photo set.

From this new set, there's actually some gentlemen who look interesting and they're now within my modified age expectations.

Not sure I'm fully ready for this though...

Frogletina

uk_american wrote: »

Age ranges were huge, from 6 years younger to 13 years older. :eek:

That is not a huge age range difference, I've had contact from almost every age, from teens up to those in their 70's. Recent messages from 1x19, 2x23, 1x31, 1x34, 1x36, 1x45, 1x52

I've only met one man from POF and I made the first contact. I met one other man from another dating site and he contacted me first without me having a photo on - all he had to go on was age, eye and hair colour, ethnicity and town (and that's miles from where he lives)

While typing this, I've just had a 'would like to meet' from a 57 year old. His profile says he wants a relationship - mine says I'm not currently looking for anyone.

Butterfliesarepretty

Well since woolly hat man Ive had no dates no messages nothing.

Am beginning to think my profile is putting people off.
Any guys on here in northwest?
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=31911493

Im off on a hen night in mcr on the 31st sat night to tiger tiger which will be good, possible chance of meeting someone.

Today been keeping busy, some thief nicked the metal latch off my front gate can you believe that so put a new one on with security screws and Ive now decided to get a camera for the front to link to my tv, sick of stuff being nicked and its always my house thats targeted as im out ten hours day. Ive had attempted breakin in past, hanging baskets nicked, car roof vandalised (although think that was done at work). The cameras are about £30 from maplin.

Frogletina

Butterfliesarepretty wrote: »

Am beginning to think my profile is putting people off.
Any guys on here in northwest?
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=31911493

Im off on a hen night in mcr on the 31st sat night to tiger tiger which will be good, possible chance of meeting someone.

Hi there

I have just taken a look at your profile from a female point of view. I cannot see much wrong with it at all. You might want to add an apostrophe to the heading so that it reads 'Looking for a man who's romantic and loves cuddles.' It was the first thing that I noticed - but I have to admit to being a bit of a pedant.

Your photos are lovely, and you describe yourself very well.

I think too many restrictions on who you want to contact you may be putting people off, even if they do not fall into any of those restricted categories.

Would you consider extending the age range of men you are looking for? I think you would certainly attract men in their mid to late thirties.