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smudger1964

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I think that's generous. It's very unlikely that any text sent would not received, a second text in the absence of a response is likely to be seen as overt persistence, which feels uncomfortable coming from a stranger.

I tend not to delete numbers - but that is because I like to know who is calling / texting me!

There is a really odd cohort on PoF - I have blocked all those that have contacted me (bearing in mind I only signed up on Sunday ) purely on the basis that their emails and profiles have given me cause for concern - including one from an old man in the US who said he would be happy to relocate for me - bonkers! I'm very glad that I haven't put up a mugshot.

Thats a bit scary the willing to relocate ones

Good advice about the not deleting numbers though I have been put in awkward situations many times just getting texts from random numbers that I have deleted saying "so this drink when do you fancy going out"

benb76

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I think that's generous. It's very unlikely that any text sent would not received, a second text in the absence of a response is likely to be seen as overt persistence, which feels uncomfortable coming from a stranger.

I tend not to delete numbers - but that is because I like to know who is calling / texting me!

There is a really odd cohort on PoF - I have blocked all those that have contacted me (bearing in mind I only signed up on Sunday ) purely on the basis that their emails and profiles have given me cause for concern - including one from an old man in the US who said he would be happy to relocate for me - bonkers! I'm very glad that I haven't put up a mugshot.

Have to say that I think that it's much less likely that you'll get messages from any sort of normal man if you don't even have a picture of yourself on your profile!

Most normal men and women won't even bother looking at a profile with no photos.

VfM4meplse

benb76 wrote: »

Have to say that I think that it's much less likely that you'll get messages from any sort of normal man if you don't even have a picture of yourself on your profile!

Most normal men and women won't even bother looking at a profile with no photos.

Don't underestimate the pulling power of the written word lol. It's worked out ok for me on other (paid) sites, because I've met some nice men that way. It feels to me that the quality diminishes the larger the pond gets.

lou--b

Is it just me or does POF become an addiction?? It is almost like compulsive viewing . I have now realised that I need to get back in to the real world so have permanently deleted my profile. I did try hiding it but it didnt stop me from logging in and checking people out! Also people who have messaged you before can continue to do so even when your profile is hidden. Kind of defeats the purpose.
I think Ive had messages from everyone within a 75 mile radius and only agreed to meet with 4 guys which tells me Im too fussy anyway so internet dating is probably not for me. Hopefully my luck will change and I'll meet someone in real life. If not I suppose I can always try again!
Good luck to everyone who is still looking. I will be checking in on here to see how its going.

Lou x

benb76

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Don't underestimate the pulling power of the written word lol. It's worked out ok for me on other (paid) sites, because I've met some nice men that way. It feels to me that the quality diminishes the larger the pond gets.

I bet you'd do way better with a photo up! Any normal man will fancy a women primarily on how she looks, the personality and intelligence is the next thing we look for. Believe me I am a man, I know what I'm talking about!

LisaB85

Had a date last night, I met him on POF and met him briefly at a show after I went shy and hid :rotfl: but didn't put him off and we went out last night.

Had a lovely evening although I am no longer sure how to read men eg do they want a kiss? as I've been used to men who will go in for a kiss if they want one although those have been the ones who I have read wrong and have messed me about.

Spoke to him last night when we were both home but no real mention of doing anything again although he is often busy so could just go with the flow. Haven't heard from him today but again he could be busy but I just don't know.

I have been messed about and left hanging so many times I have no idea how to read men so will see what happens although would be happy as friends if he isn't into me in that way.

He doesn't come across as a player just a down to earth, homely type and I don't get any signals of him being a messer.

lori64

lou--b wrote: »

Is it just me or does POF become an addiction?? It is almost like compulsive viewing . I have now realised that I need to get back in to the real world so have permanently deleted my profile. I did try hiding it but it didnt stop me from logging in and checking people out! Also people who have messaged you before can continue to do so even when your profile is hidden. Kind of defeats the purpose.
I think Ive had messages from everyone within a 75 mile radius and only agreed to meet with 4 guys which tells me Im too fussy anyway so internet dating is probably not for me. Hopefully my luck will change and I'll meet someone in real life. If not I suppose I can always try again!
Good luck to everyone who is still looking. I will be checking in on here to see how its going.

Lou x

Hey, you are not too fussy, just means you know what you want, and what you dont want!!
If you ask me, most peeps aint fussy enough..and cheer yourself up in the knowledge that many people are in fake relationships anyway!:rotfl:

VestanPance

LisaB85 wrote: »

Had a date last night, I met him on POF and met him briefly at a show after I went shy and hid :rotfl: but didn't put him off and we went out last night.

Had a lovely evening although I am no longer sure how to read men eg do they want a kiss? as I've been used to men who will go in for a kiss if they want one although those have been the ones who I have read wrong and have messed me about.

Spoke to him last night when we were both home but no real mention of doing anything again although he is often busy so could just go with the flow. Haven't heard from him today but again he could be busy but I just don't know.

I have been messed about and left hanging so many times I have no idea how to read men so will see what happens although would be happy as friends if he isn't into me in that way.

He doesn't come across as a player just a down to earth, homely type and I don't get any signals of him being a messer.

Based on your final comment there's the possibility he's shy or lacks confidence to take things further with women.

You don't really need to read men. We are obvious creatures. If he didn't go for a kiss on your date there are two possibilities:

1. He wasn't attracted to you.
2. He lacks confidence or is a bit shy around women, so held back trying anything for fear of upsetting you.

If we was a 'playa' he'd have tried it on and then you'd never have heard from him.

With regards to many others talking about people being 'busy' I think particularly with online dating you have to be open to the fact they are most likely dating/messaging a number of other people. These 'busy' periods are most likely them keeping their options open.

LisaB85

VestanPance wrote: »

Based on your final comment there's the possibility he's shy or lacks confidence to take things further with women.

You don't really need to read men. We are obvious creatures. If he didn't go for a kiss on your date there are two possibilities:

1. He wasn't attracted to you.
2. He lacks confidence or is a bit shy around women, so held back trying anything for fear of upsetting you.

If we was a 'playa' he'd have tried it on and then you'd never have heard from him.

With regards to many others talking about people being 'busy' I think particularly with online dating you have to be open to the fact they are most likely dating/messaging a number of other people. These 'busy' periods are most likely them keeping their options open.

He's not you're normal townie kind of bloke, sometimes flirts and other times holds back but I'll just see what happens.

He has only been on POF about twice since we started chatting (on each others faves) I pop on to read the forums or mail someone I chat to on the forums.

But you could be right he might not be attracted to me, wouldn't blame him but then I assume after seeing me smelling of horses but still wanting a date is a sign of some sort.

Believe me men aren't always straightforward I have stories that would curl your toes x

System

I admit i don't bother looking at people without pictures. It makes me think a)what have they got to hide and b)who am i talking to really? I like to build up a mental picture of them, plus as shallow as it sounds i need there to be some physical attraction. Maybe i'm just a nosy so and so..

Right what are people's opinions on "keeping your options open"? I.e kind of dating more than one person at a time? Should you just focus on one at a time? or is it ok to be seeing and getting to know a few different people? I'm still unsure