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xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I give up and lo and behold he's suddenly messaged me >.< I need to take my own advice

Men confuse me

You're being messed with and you know it. When I say I am "busy" the fact is that I just can't be bothered with that person.

I hope your date goes well but don't pin too much hope on it, he hasn't been the most reliable so far. I also think that if you tolerate this silently it gives the green light for the erratic contact to continue.

ShAnE

Just my 2 cents from a male perspective.
Sometimes we can just be "busy" I could be texting back and fourth then suddenly get pulled into a meeting with a client which could take all day. During which, pulling my phone out and sending a text would look quite unprofessional.

However, I usually try and send a quick one saying "off too a meeting now, have a nice day" so that it can be expected that I won't reply.

But it's not only guys who do it. I've been in situations where an ex hasn't replied to me for 2-3 days, and claimed to be "busy" yet had time to sit around posting stupid comments on facebook and playing farmville...

Oh and one last thing, if a guy is "really really excited about meeting you" then suddenly loses interest. He probably wasn't thinking with his brain at that point in time, and therefore you should replace the word "excited", with "aroused".

missmontana

lou--b wrote: »

I really dont get some guys so Im hoping that someone here can help shed some light on this for me.
Was messaging a guy for about a week when he suddenly went quiet, didnt hear from him for a while then he messaged saying he had been mega busy and was sorry he hadnt been in touch, asked if I wanted to meet for coffee. I replied that coffee would be nice so he sent me his number, added me on facebook chatted there for a bit then said he would call me at 10. That was last night and Ive still not had a call!!
I did send a text earlier, just a hi, how are you? Nothing!!
So, what now, do I just forget about him and move on? Strangely I dont want to, we really got on well. I know its stupid to build up an image of someone Ive not met but he was really nice and to top it off he was HOT!!
Ive had a few dates with other guys but never really clicked with any of them.(posted here somewhere) Thinking of giving up altogether and settling with my cat lol. Thought life was meant to get easier as you got older?? Lou x

Maybe he's just hedging his bets? I've said this before, I must sound really cynical! Busy is no excuse, in my experience he's probably had a date with someone else, it didn't work so now he's messaging other people in his contacts.
You say he's hot, is it really him in his photo's? I've had people go cold when meets are suggested because they've exaggerated the truth about themselves!! :eek:

lou--b

missmontana wrote: »

Maybe he's just hedging his bets? I've said this before, I must sound really cynical! Busy is no excuse, in my experience he's probably had a date with someone else, it didn't work so now he's messaging other people in his contacts.
You say he's hot, is it really him in his photo's? I've had people go cold when meets are suggested because they've exaggerated the truth about themselves!! :eek:

Lol, its definately him in the photos, googled him to make sure and got him on facebook. He's actually been in touch today again so now I really dont know what to do. I think part of me wants to meet him just so I can see if we click in real life the way we do online IYSWIM.
He runs his own business so I suppose he could genuinely be busy, guess theres only one way to find out...
Oh and Im guilty of hedging my bets too!!

Lou x

smudger1964

There are just so many timewasters on these dating sites..just wasted nearly 3 weeks getting on well etc then decides she isnt ready for a relationship...jeez what is it with these ladies

had been getting "only 3 more sleeps till we meet again" texts then deafening silence

If I wasnt really looking for a loving relationship I would give up now

missmontana

Lou... I want to see what he looks like now! Go on, meet him, at least you'll have something nice to look at over coffee

zoesmummy_2006

i think i have one of the serial texters too

after the great date at the weekend he was in contact with me pretty much constantly, i told him i had a great time and he replied instantly with me too, and he's always the first one to message me, messages me every morning to say good morning etc, but the last couple days he seems to have gone a little quiet on me. Hes still texting me etc, but not said anymore about meeting again despite saying he wanted to come over again and go out for the whole night when he left.

anyways tonight ive been on fb and he'd added some more pics so i had a look and on his wall was a message from another girl saying sumat about a quiet night for him as she was outta credit.

Guess im gonna chalk this one up to another bad experience

missmontana

Oh not a bad experience Zoesmum, just a learning one! Moving on...

zoesmummy_2006

yep........NEXT lol

LTL

Off to see the woman I've been speaking to for the last few weeks tomorrow.

Wish me luck!