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lara_412

He does work but had a day off today. Yeah I am a little disappointed, felt like I had been messed about. Well at least he showed his true self before I could become attached lol!

The thing that hurts is that last night he couldn't stop saying how much he was looking forward to meeting me. It's like he has done a complete 180 on me

psychopathbabble

lara_412 wrote: »

He does work but had a day off today. Yeah I am a little disappointed, felt like I had been messed about. Well at least he showed his true self before I could become attached lol!

The thing that hurts is that last night he couldn't stop saying how much he was looking forward to meeting me. It's like he has done a complete 180 on me

It's really hard when you get on with someone on the net then they turn out to be different in real life... but if he can't be @rsed to make an effort to meet you then it is most definitely his loss! Please don't let that loser make you feel bad or down in any way!

benb76

If it makes you feel any better, any grown man who would actually admit to staying up until 4am on the Xbox is NOT even worth meeting for a coffee.

VfM4meplse

lara_412 wrote: »

The guy I was supposed to meet yesterday (and now today) has just called me. We were meeting at 9.30am and he called about 9.05am saying he just woke up and was feeling very lazy and might stay in bed for a bit.... I asked if he had forgotten we were meeting and he said "no" but didn't realised we had a specific time and place planned... WHAT THE?! lol. If it wasn't so funny I'd be crying. Yesterday we planned both a time and place and I've been up since 6am today as I needed to walk the dogs early and sort things out before I met him. I actually feel a little upset about the whole situation and now I'm wondering if he's just taking the p*ss or what. His excuse for waking up late was that he was on the XBOX till 4am. Great, just great.

I don't expect to be treated like a princess on a first date but a bit of common courtesy and some punctual manners would be good.

He did say he'd be ready by 11am at the latest but it's really annoying me now. I am going to meet him because I'm dressed up now and ready to go.

Hope everyone else has a nicer day!!

Edit - He is 50 miles away too which made me think he'd be up early too.. as it takes him like an hour to get here.

What a loser - and so disrespectful of your time! I wouldn't be happy either, but don't feel too badly about this as it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with this guy being a jerk.

I stuck a profile on PoF on Sunday eve out of curiosity and so far it has dredged up complete rubbish from the bottom of the pond . Well at least I can say that I have been proven right, it's a waste of time.

ETA: just had an email from someone offering friendly "advice". I'm resisting the tempation to paste it into my post, shall just have to LMAO alone :rotfl:

LisaB85

lara_412 wrote: »

He does work but had a day off today. Yeah I am a little disappointed, felt like I had been messed about. Well at least he showed his true self before I could become attached lol!

The thing that hurts is that last night he couldn't stop saying how much he was looking forward to meeting me. It's like he has done a complete 180 on me

Call it a lucky escape! If he is like this now, what will he be like 6 months down the line?

I have been let down before in similar ways, they say they want to meet you arrange a rough time for a certain day and then on the day they ignore texts etc before getting back in contact a week later or not at all.

I have a 1 strike rule for first dates, cancel once and then rearrange if they cancel again or try to change times etc then it is game over.

Victoriahl

lara_412 wrote: »

Just called him. He said he's just got out of the shower. He wasn't in a rush, I told him not to worry about me waiting for the past two hoursbecause I wouldn't be here if he ever showed up. Off to do some shopping. thanks everyone

Oh god, I'll just second everyone else; what a complete t*at!
Definite lucky escape there- don't give him a second thought and just concentrate on finding a nice one (and seeing if he's got any mates for me, if you do...!)

lara_412

You've all made me feel so much better, thank you. I will admit, I did get a little upset once I got home. I never usually cry over a guy but this one really took the biscuit and yes it did upset me.

I have met no one but complete idiots from dating sites. Actually maybe one or two of the guys have been nice but most are just complete idiots. I know there are nice guys out there on dating sites, it's just none of them seem to live around here. :rotfl:

Well a little update on the situation. He text me about 1.30pm asking if I was okay. I didn't reply. He then text again at 2pm just saying "sorry." I replied asking why he did it, he replied saying he WAS going to meet me, he's just not very good with timings and didn't realise we had arranged a time. He also said he guessed we weren't meeting anymore. I didn't reply to that one lol.

I just feel as if today he changed into a different person. We haven't been chatting long but he did send long emails and we would text and chat pretty much all day every day. Some of the stuff he would send made me think he was a decent guy. It was only last night he was texting me saying he couldn't wait to meet me.. then all of a sudden he does a complete 180. I think he got cold feet... either that or he genuinely has no punctual skills to his name.

It's really difficult not to become even a little emotionally attached to someone you've been chatting to. Anyone else experience this?

I laughed when he said he was playing XBOX till 4am. Just reminded me of a teenager really!! He's supposed to be a 32 year old professional. :rotfl: You wouldn't believe it though would you? (No offence to anyone who does play XBOX in their 30's! )

VfM4meplse

lara_412 wrote: »

It's really difficult not to become even a little emotionally attached to someone you've been chatting to. Anyone else experience this?

It's hard to remember, esp when you've been seemingly getting on so well with someone online / viia email, that nothing is real until you meet up.

It's always worth trusting your instincts, if he acts like a d*ckhead, the chances are he is a d*ckhead. Don't let it get you down though, just remember your own value.

lara_412

VfM4meplse wrote: »

It's hard to remember, esp when you've been seemingly getting on so well with someone online / viia email, that nothing is real until you meet up.

It's always worth trusting your instincts, if he acts like a d*ckhead, the chances are he is a d*ckhead. Don't let it get you down though, just remember your own value.

I think I enjoy getting the nice emails/nice texts etc from a guy when we're getting to know each other online. I think it makes me feel wanted. I have got a habit of becoming too emotionally attached before meeting someone but I am trying to get out of that mind-set. A few men I've met have been NOTHING like their online personalities.

Victoriahl

lara_412 wrote: »

I think I enjoy getting the nice emails/nice texts etc from a guy when we're getting to know each other online. I think it makes me feel wanted. I have got a habit of becoming too emotionally attached before meeting someone but I am trying to get out of that mind-set. A few men I've met have been NOTHING like their online personalities.

It IS easy to get too attached to someone you've not met before, if you're emailing and texting all day- you start to look forward to the contact and attention. But until you meet up in person then you really don't know them at all.

In fact I'm very wary now of men who text too much- I've found in a lot of cases these are the untrustworthy ones, and I know my friends have had the same experience of serial texters...