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zzzLazyDaisy

I once had a date with someone who I'd met through work. At the bar he ordered a J2O and soda water in a pint glass, and then proceeded to argue with the barman because he was charged 50p for the soda water - he said the only reason he has soda water is because it is free and stretches the drink, and he wouldn't have bothered if he'd known he was going to be charged. It wasn't even as if he was poor.... He was quite obnoxious towards the barman and I was very embarassed.

Okay I am proud to be an MSEr, but there's a time and place for everything!

lara_412

gem68 wrote: »

oh,what an eventful week you've all had!
i haven't bothered with POF since i had my first date from there in jan. now i know i'm on MSE and careful with money but.....
when arranging to meet,he said "last one there,pays"- i thought he was a joker...
in the restaurant he picked up the menu and said "lets look at the prices then"-
then" if we share poppadoms,we won't need a starter"
finally,at the end of the meal he said "shall we split the bill or are you wanting me to pay?"

i wouldn't ever expect NOT to split the bill on a first date,and he was a nice bloke too,but flipping heck!

and also,to make it worse,i'd had a 25% off voucher for a different place but thiught i'd look cheap taking it! HEEHEE !

Ouch.
I did go on a date once when the guy was obviously trying to get me to order the cheapest thing on the menu lol. We went to Nandos (I'm not too fussy on the actual place of eating ) and when we sat down he said that we didn't need a starters and that I should just choose a main. He then said I should only choose a main with one side (if you're familiar with Nandos, you can choose either one side of chips etc or two sides for an extra couple of quid). I'm a polite person so didn't really question it lol.
After the main he said we didn't need a dessert either. He then paid and we left. As soon as we got outside he said bye, kissed me on the cheek and left. I got the rejection text later. :rotfl:I wasn't too bothered because he seemed quite stingy on the date lol!

To add - I don't expect a 10 course meal by the way lol.. it was just the fact he was in a very good job and could obviously afford the entire menu if he wanted. :rotfl:

lara_412

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I once had a date with someone who I'd met through work. At the bar he ordered a J2O and soda water in a pint glass, and then proceeded to argue with the barman because he was charged 50p for the soda water - he said the only reason he has soda water is because it is free and stretches the drink, and he wouldn't have bothered if he'd known he was going to be charged. It wasn't even as if he was poor.... He was quite obnoxious towards the barman and I was very embarassed.

Okay I am proud to be an MSEr, but there's a time and place for everything!

I would have been embarrassed too.

lara_412

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

OMG! Sounds like you had a lucky escape! At least you found out before wasting the cost of petrol going to meet him....

Better luck with the next one!

Dx

Thanks.

He did actually text me again saying that he just wanted to see how things go between us and didn't want to rush into things. I didn't reply as his wanting of a seedy conversation just turned me off him.

If anyone else has been following this situation, would you text him back or just leave it? I am wanting to text back but I really don't know how I could word a rejection. I'm also afraid of confrontation.

sunny_d_2

lara_412 wrote: »

If anyone else has been following this situation, would you text him back or just leave it? I am wanting to text back but I really don't know how I could word a rejection. I'm also afraid of confrontation.

Just ignore him? He's not worth bothering about, he'll soon get the message. Men are sooo fd up lol

The guy I said I would meet ignored my text yesterday asking him if he was still OK to meet and he was online last night, I ignored him and he didn't get intouch. Today he texted me asking how I am??! It's quite laughable really :rotfl: so he can forget it lol What doesn't kill you makes you stronger :cool:

Edited to add: By 'online' I mean on POF

smudger1964

I second that just ignore him..he had his chance and blew it his loss ....NEXT!!!!

Life is too short to waste any time with losers or people who still arent over their exs they are exs for a reason

If he doesnt give up after a few texts where he doesnt get a reply then you can add stalker to his list of attributes

missmontana

lara_412 wrote: »

Thanks.

He did actually text me again saying that he just wanted to see how things go between us and didn't want to rush into things. I didn't reply as his wanting of a seedy conversation just turned me off him.

If anyone else has been following this situation, would you text him back or just leave it? I am wanting to text back but I really don't know how I could word a rejection. I'm also afraid of confrontation.

You should have text him back saying "It's going nowhere after our last conversation!" He might think twice then.

zzzLazyDaisy

lara_412 wrote: »

Thanks.

He did actually text me again saying that he just wanted to see how things go between us and didn't want to rush into things. I didn't reply as his wanting of a seedy conversation just turned me off him.

If anyone else has been following this situation, would you text him back or just leave it? I am wanting to text back but I really don't know how I could word a rejection. I'm also afraid of confrontation.

I'd block him on the site and on my phone, and forget about him. Someone who would pull a stunt like that doesn't deserve common courtesy. If you reply, you open up the way for him to attempt to argue with you, or to (maybe) show his colours and get nasty.

If you really feel you must/should reply, I'd just say something like 'thank you for your interest, but on reflection I don't think we are suited'. THEN I'd block him!!!

Barny1979

I'm having no success on POF, my profile seems ok, not too excitig, but not too offensive, I'm putting it down to how I look

sarah_ace1

i'm meeting someone from POF tonight. he picked the place so i could find it easily. seems nice and easy going. i'm off the site now due to being too busy but snuck this meet in before i left ha ha