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lara_412

Thanks.

Smudger I have thought that maybe he has lied about something and is now backing away because we're due to meet.

I don't think he's nervous. He's not the nervous type at all. He even admitted his confidence is incredibly high (he's not big headed though) and that he doesn't get anxiety or nerves being on a date. The opposite of me then lol!

I'm not going to contact him. He knows where I am so he can work for me!

smudger1964

Think most of us get nerves on a first date its the trying to hide them thats the hard part..

Good plan if hes interested in actually meeting you bet his going to be in touch if you go quiet

zzzLazyDaisy

lara_412 wrote: »

Hey,

I don't mean this in a rude way but I think you should just tell him on the first date because if things go further, he's going to find out anyway.

I hope you have a lovely time!

welshcamper wrote: »

i think you should tell him before your date, ive been on pof for a while, and if a date of mine hadnt told me, before the date, there wouldnt be a second date, not because of disability but because of honesty.

Thanks for the advice, lara and Welshcamper

Well, we met up and had a pleasant lunch. BUT his profile says he is divorced, when in fact he is only two months out of a 25 yr marriage - not his decision - and is still obviously shell-shocked. He told me that he put divorced because a (well meaning) friend said that if he puts separated it puts a lot of women off. To be honest I don't really mind that he's not divorced... but I'm not getting involved with someone who has so obviously not come to terms with the breakdown of his marriage - he spent most of the time talking about his ex-wife and the unfairness of it all, with me making sympathetic noises! So, the upshot is, that I didn't tell him about my health problems. There was no need, as I am unlikely ever to see him again!!!

On the plus side, I came home to an e-mail from someone else asking to meet me. This guy does know something of my health problems, as he asked me a direct question about me being retired at my age (while I don't generally volunteer that information, I also don't lie about it if asked). I haven't replied yet, as I'm exhausted and don't want to commit myself just yet, but hopefully we'll meet sometime next week, if we are both available.

So, an interesting day! :A

missmontana

Lara, he's probably hedging his bets, I've had those kind of texts, it doesn't take 2 mins to send a quick msg even if you are having a busy week!

VfM4meplse

lara_412 wrote: »

I'm feeling a little deflated. I really don't want to call him because I don't have any minutes left on my phone. :rotfl:

Why is he not calling?! I'd like to hear his voice again. It just seems too much of a coincidence that he's suddenly gone quiet once I asked him to meet.

It's probably not personal to you.

I've been in contact with a couple of guys online lately, both of whom contacted me. One acted like he was in sixth form and had never had a g/f before and sent me really b*ll*x emails which were ever so full of himself, so I had no intention of even having a conversatiion with him. The other? - well I missed his call and had a busy weekend planned so didn't call back. I was interested in neither, I'm tired, bored and indifferent, and in truth still missing an ex. I can't muster much enthusiasm for anything atm.

lara_412

Hi, thanks for everyones' advice.

Well he did call me tonight. Unfortunately it wasn't for a nice friendly chat!

He was pestering me to have phone sex with him. When I said no, he said I was boring so I hung up on him. I think he might have been a little drunk but he sounded like he knew what he was asking on the phone.

I've deleted his number as I just find him seedy now. I will admit I am a little gutted but at least I found out before I met him.

Onwards and upwards as they say!

lara_412

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

Thanks for the advice, lara and Welshcamper

Well, we met up and had a pleasant lunch. BUT his profile says he is divorced, when in fact he is only two months out of a 25 yr marriage - not his decision - and is still obviously shell-shocked. He told me that he put divorced because a (well meaning) friend said that if he puts separated it puts a lot of women off. To be honest I don't really mind that he's not divorced... but I'm not getting involved with someone who has so obviously not come to terms with the breakdown of his marriage - he spent most of the time talking about his ex-wife and the unfairness of it all, with me making sympathetic noises! So, the upshot is, that I didn't tell him about my health problems. There was no need, as I am unlikely ever to see him again!!!

On the plus side, I came home to an e-mail from someone else asking to meet me. This guy does know something of my health problems, as he asked me a direct question about me being retired at my age (while I don't generally volunteer that information, I also don't lie about it if asked). I haven't replied yet, as I'm exhausted and don't want to commit myself just yet, but hopefully we'll meet sometime next week, if we are both available.

So, an interesting day! :A

I get annoyed at men like this. Ok it's understandable he's having a difficult time, but why join a dating site and then advertise as looking for someone when he's barely out of a marriage and going to sit through the entire dating talking about his ex. Rant over lol.

Good luck with the next man! Sounds promising!

Li0nhead

Its annoying why some of us are still single.

Sorry just in male depressive mode.

zzzLazyDaisy

lara_412 wrote: »

Well he did call me tonight. Unfortunately it wasn't for a nice friendly chat!

OMG! Sounds like you had a lucky escape! At least you found out before wasting the cost of petrol going to meet him....

Better luck with the next one!

Dx

curlytop12

oh,what an eventful week you've all had!
i haven't bothered with POF since i had my first date from there in jan. now i know i'm on MSE and careful with money but.....
when arranging to meet,he said "last one there,pays"- i thought he was a joker...
in the restaurant he picked up the menu and said "lets look at the prices then"-
then" if we share poppadoms,we won't need a starter"
finally,at the end of the meal he said "shall we split the bill or are you wanting me to pay?"

i wouldn't ever expect NOT to split the bill on a first date,and he was a nice bloke too,but flipping heck!

and also,to make it worse,i'd had a 25% off voucher for a different place but thiught i'd look cheap taking it! HEEHEE !