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lara_412

I must admit, there was one time a while back where I didn't want to meet the guy but wanted to keep in touch with him. It was nothing sexual and I did like him, I was just scared to meet him.

I think it was because he seemed so far out of my league. I was a student and he was a businessman who was 10 years older. We did "click" online (excuse the pun lol). I was worried that if I met him, I'd lose the image I had made of him in my head. I thought he was perfect online and I didn't want to meet him because I was afraid of it being a disaster and losing the connection I thought I had with him.

Well, anyway I did meet him and things did go well! We were from completely different backgrounds but we did have a lot of common interests. Nothing really came out of it but I did make a good friend and we still talk nowadays.

angelbob

#hi how everyones dating going?
I just had a weird one say 'big eyes and cling film' i don't know what that means??????????????
But this new man I'm chatting to seems better but
he's 6'8, I'm 5'3 :rotfl:

Peater

Barny1979 wrote: »

In the space of three days I've had 3 women delete their accounts on POF whilst in email conversation with me

Haha, oh dear. That's a bad run.

I reckon there are a few 'ringer' accounts on these sites y'know. Profiles run by the staff as a marketing excersise.

Don't take it personally, you didn't know them really.

zzzLazyDaisy

I have been a lurker on this thread for a while (well I've made an occasional contribution)

Anyway, I got a free month on Match.com two weeks ago. I've been chatting to someone for just over a week and we are meeting up today for lunch (we were going to meet up on Monday but I wasn't well enough to go out).

We haven't spoken on the phone (I haven't encouraged that - I hate speaking to strangers on the phone as I am slightly deaf and without other visual clues I don't always catch what is being said). But we've texted, and he seems nice. He has taken a lot of trouble to find somewhere for us to meet near to where I live, which means he has to travel as he is an hour away.

We seem to have a lot in common, but my concern is that he is very sporty, and I have a chronic disabling health condition. If I choose my day carefully, and rest up for a few days before/after an outing, I can look 'normal'. Although I walk with a stick, if it isn't too far from car to restaurant I can do without it.

My carer is going to drop me off and pick me up (I've told the guy I've got a lift, so he won't find that strange).

Basically, what I am saying is that with careful planning there is no need for him to know about my health problems at the moment. But if we hit it off, I'll have to come clean and since he's into all sorts of sports, perhaps I'm wasting my time and his.

Part of me thinks I've got too reclusive and my New Years Resolution was to get back out into the world a bit more.... and part of me thinks I'll never have the energy to keep up, so what's the point?

AAARRRGGHHHHH!!!

girlybags

I seem to be mrs popular on PoF at the mo, about 6 messages yesterday and I actually liked one of the guys which is a bonus! We chatted for a bit and he asked if I fancied meeting but I was a bit put off because he only has one pic up on which half of his face is covered and he admitted it was 5 years old :eek:

Anyway he said he would put some more pics up when he got home - he is apparently in London at the mo.

It's a shame most of the people on this thread are so far away from each other, if there were a few that lived around the same area who have had a few dates they could give warnings about who to stay away from and who seemed 'normal'

lara_412

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I have been a lurker on this thread for a while (well I've made an occasional contribution)

Anyway, I got a free month on Match.com two weeks ago. I've been chatting to someone for just over a week and we are meeting up today for lunch (we were going to meet up on Monday but I wasn't well enough to go out).

We haven't spoken on the phone (I haven't encouraged that - I hate speaking to strangers on the phone as I am slightly deaf and without other visual clues I don't always catch what is being said). But we've texted, and he seems nice. He has taken a lot of trouble to find somewhere for us to meet near to where I live, which means he has to travel as he is an hour away.

We seem to have a lot in common, but my concern is that he is very sporty, and I have a chronic disabling health condition. If I choose my day carefully, and rest up for a few days before/after an outing, I can look 'normal'. Although I walk with a stick, if it isn't too far from car to restaurant I can do without it.

My carer is going to drop me off and pick me up (I've told the guy I've got a lift, so he won't find that strange).

Basically, what I am saying is that with careful planning there is no need for him to know about my health problems at the moment. But if we hit it off, I'll have to come clean and since he's into all sorts of sports, perhaps I'm wasting my time and his.

Part of me thinks I've got too reclusive and my New Years Resolution was to get back out into the world a bit more.... and part of me thinks I'll never have the energy to keep up, so what's the point?

AAARRRGGHHHHH!!!

Hey,

I don't mean this in a rude way but I think you should just tell him on the first date because if things go further, he's going to find out anyway.

I hope you have a lovely time!

welshcamper

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I have been a lurker on this thread for a while (well I've made an occasional contribution)

Anyway, I got a free month on Match.com two weeks ago. I've been chatting to someone for just over a week and we are meeting up today for lunch (we were going to meet up on Monday but I wasn't well enough to go out).

We haven't spoken on the phone (I haven't encouraged that - I hate speaking to strangers on the phone as I am slightly deaf and without other visual clues I don't always catch what is being said). But we've texted, and he seems nice. He has taken a lot of trouble to find somewhere for us to meet near to where I live, which means he has to travel as he is an hour away.

We seem to have a lot in common, but my concern is that he is very sporty, and I have a chronic disabling health condition. If I choose my day carefully, and rest up for a few days before/after an outing, I can look 'normal'. Although I walk with a stick, if it isn't too far from car to restaurant I can do without it.

My carer is going to drop me off and pick me up (I've told the guy I've got a lift, so he won't find that strange).

Basically, what I am saying is that with careful planning there is no need for him to know about my health problems at the moment. But if we hit it off, I'll have to come clean and since he's into all sorts of sports, perhaps I'm wasting my time and his.

Part of me thinks I've got too reclusive and my New Years Resolution was to get back out into the world a bit more.... and part of me thinks I'll never have the energy to keep up, so what's the point?

AAARRRGGHHHHH!!!

i think you should tell him before your date, ive been on pof for a while, and if a date of mine hadnt told me, before the date, there wouldnt be a second date, not because of disability but because of honesty.

lara_412

I just got asked if I'd like to be someone's mistress over okcupid. :rotfl:Errr no thanks!!!!


Ok guys and gals I need some advice. I've been chatting to a guy for a couple of weeks now and we're on the verge of meeting (talking about this weekend but no firm plans). We spoke about it last Saturday. He did bring it up on the second day we got talking but I felt it was too soon to meet. He did say "let me know when you want to meet."

Anyway.. so last Saturday I said I'd like to meet and would he be interested in next weekend? He said yes sure, I'd love to meet. At first he seemed excited about it, but he's gone pretty quiet on me since Saturday?! Normally he's texting me all day every day alongside emailing me and FB messaging me, but in the past 5 days I've heard from him twice. One text on Monday literally said:

"Hi, how're are you?" Which I replied to. He then replied saying he was okay thanks. I then text him back again asking him if he could call me so we can sort out plans. I will add - we have spoken on the phone before. I didn't hear from him.

I thought maybe he's not interested anymore so I left it and didn't initiate any contact with him.

Yesterday I got an email saying:

"I'm sorry I've not been in contact much. Truth is I've been so busy at work and I haven't had much of a social life this week. I'm not being quiet on purpose and I hope we can meet this weekend."

I replied to his email saying I thought he would have called but I understood. He then text me again last night doing that really quiet/non-responsive chit-chat?! It's so strange as before Saturday he was really chatty and I mean really chatty. He was doing the one word responses thing.

I'm feeling a little deflated. I really don't want to call him because I don't have any minutes left on my phone. :rotfl:

Why is he not calling?! I'd like to hear his voice again. It just seems too much of a coincidence that he's suddenly gone quiet once I asked him to meet.

angelbob

lara_412 wrote: »

I just got asked if I'd like to be someone's mistress over okcupid. :rotfl:Errr no thanks!!!!


Ok guys and gals I need some advice. I've been chatting to a guy for a couple of weeks now and we're on the verge of meeting (talking about this weekend but no firm plans). We spoke about it last Saturday. He did bring it up on the second day we got talking but I felt it was too soon to meet. He did say "let me know when you want to meet."

Anyway.. so last Saturday I said I'd like to meet and would he be interested in next weekend? He said yes sure, I'd love to meet. At first he seemed excited about it, but he's gone pretty quiet on me since Saturday?! Normally he's texting me all day every day alongside emailing me and FB messaging me, but in the past 5 days I've heard from him twice. One text on Monday literally said:

"Hi, how're are you?" Which I replied to. He then replied saying he was okay thanks. I then text him back again asking him if he could call me so we can sort out plans. I will add - we have spoken on the phone before. I didn't hear from him.

I thought maybe he's not interested anymore so I left it and didn't initiate any contact with him.

Yesterday I got an email saying:

"I'm sorry I've not been in contact much. Truth is I've been so busy at work and I haven't had much of a social life this week. I'm not being quiet on purpose and I hope we can meet this weekend."

I replied to his email saying I thought he would have called but I understood. He then text me again last night doing that really quiet/non-responsive chit-chat?! It's so strange as before Saturday he was really chatty and I mean really chatty. He was doing the one word responses thing.

I'm feeling a little deflated. I really don't want to call him because I don't have any minutes left on my phone. :rotfl:

Why is he not calling?! I'd like to hear his voice again. It just seems too much of a coincidence that he's suddenly gone quiet once I asked him to meet.

Maybe he is nervous now that things could be going further? i dunno men are a weird species to me;) have you got actual times and places arranged for the weekend? xx i hope it all goes well

smudger1964

Yes I agree with angelbob could be nerves...could also be a number of other things maybe he is chatting to a few others maybe one of those sounds more like his type sometimes you can get caught up in the excitement of it all...

Seems funny to go all quiet we all get busy times at work but not much excuse for suddenly going quiet and unresponsive.Maybe he has been economical with the truth somewhere in your previous conversations and now its dawning on him that you will be meeting soon.

But do hope it goes well if he comes back out of his shell