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rachhh wrote: »

Oh dear, it's not like there aren't people out there who go for larger ladies though, I've seen a few profiles of people seeking a 'BBW' partner! But then, according to my mum there are quite a lot of men using pictures from 15 years ago, or at least from the time when they had hair and their own teeth! So I suppose it goes both ways.

Oh and the helicopter :rotfl: they don't seem to realise that if a girl is attracted to the material things they pose with, she probably won't be the type of lady who loves him for him!

Exactly! I just think if I met someone who had blatantly lied about their age/body type etc I either a) wouldn't fancy them and would have wasted both our time or b) be really annoyed about being lied to and defo wouldn't go in for a second date even if I did fancy him. 'Little white lies' always make me wonder what else people are lying about!

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Finally! Just finished reading through the whole thread - only took me about 5 days! Seems there have been quite a few success stories from people using dating sites as well as some not so successful encounters. Just like meeting people in real life though, to be fair

button16

Hey, just want to say I've been following this thread for a while and some of the stories motivated me to join PoF. So and ended up going on a few dates with this lovely guy, we live about an hour away but things are all going well so far.

The reason I had to tell you about this is that he has an amazing car, but didn't have it with him in any of his profile pictures. Not that I am really to bothered about what car he drives.

findingmyway_2

With regards to whether its polite/appropriate to respond to people telling them that you aren't interested, I was of the opinion that it is nice to just say a few words saying thanks but no thanks. That is until I sent I message to someone I thought seemed interesting. A while later I got an email notification he had replied, in the email, it only shows the first line and I couldnt open my account at that time. The site is blocked at work. All it said was, I think I should be honest and adjust expectations. Immediate, I thought this was a thanks but no thanks type of email and I was left feeling rather deflated for the whole day. I have never felt that before with other people I had emailed but not received a reply from. So my opinion has changed. I think, you tend to forget who you wrote emails to, so you forget after a while, if they dont reply, making the blow to your ego slightly softer. Just my opinion though.

I have been chatting to two guys who both seem lovely, but I don't feel much else for them. Im not sure if thats because I haven't met them in real life yet. I just dont really look forward to getting emails from them, or seeing them online. Haha thats probably not a good sign is it?:( I just find it so difficult to maintain a conversation with someone I don't know at all.

angelbob, sorry about the guy, why do people start something, if they know that its not for them? Really annoys me.

rachhh :eek::eek: some men really have a way with words. I wonder if they do it, just to see if they can get the girl to react?

I have been online for about 2 months now, and I have yet to receive any of those sort of messages. I wonder why?

zzzLazyDaisy

Just out of interest - is anyone here on Match.com, and can you log on? Either the site has gone down or something weird has happened to my account!

Dx

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findingmyway wrote: »

With regards to whether its polite/appropriate to respond to people telling them that you aren't interested, I was of the opinion that it is nice to just say a few words saying thanks but no thanks. That is until I sent I message to someone I thought seemed interesting. A while later I got an email notification he had replied, in the email, it only shows the first line and I couldnt open my account at that time. The site is blocked at work. All it said was, I think I should be honest and adjust expectations. Immediate, I thought this was a thanks but no thanks type of email and I was left feeling rather deflated for the whole day. I have never felt that before with other people I had emailed but not received a reply from. So my opinion has changed. I think, you tend to forget who you wrote emails to, so you forget after a while, if they dont reply, making the blow to your ego slightly softer. Just my opinion though.

I have received a slightly off message back after I said no thanks and another one who has just took my message as a green light to keep chatting. He reckons you can't tell if you're a match or not straight away, you should meet and then decide... He might be right but I just think it makes him seem a bit desperate... Think I'm gonna go back to not replying!

zoesmummy_2006

ok so i figured i'd best update on the whole full on saga lol. I did the cutting down my replies etc etc, and yesterday I didnt reply at all, I think maybe he's got the message as he's not text me at all since Ok so I know its cowardly but Im useless at letting people down, and while he seemed nice he was a bit scary, he'd not been single long and I felt a bit like a rebound/get back at his ex sorta thing. but to be fair I think he knew it wasnt gonna happen when I ignored his questions about us meeting up again and doing 'something nice just the 2 of us'. I cant cope with that full on, and especially not when i'm feeling ill-thats just irritating.

I do have a date this weekend-the guy who I should have met a few weeks back, he text me a couple weeks ago and has been messaging me all day every day since, and he asked if he could take me for a drink this weekend, and that it would be 4th time lucky (should have gone out couple weeks back but I was ill lol!!!). So fingers crossed theres no snow, his ex doesnt have a meltdown over something and that neither of us fall ill-i'd really like to meet this guy, he makes me laugh so much.

my profile if anyone wants to nosy is...........http://www.okcupid.com/profile/wolfgirl159

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zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

ok so i figured i'd best update on the whole full on saga lol. I did the cutting down my replies etc etc, and yesterday I didnt reply at all, I think maybe he's got the message as he's not text me at all since Ok so I know its cowardly but Im useless at letting people down, and while he seemed nice he was a bit scary, he'd not been single long and I felt a bit like a rebound/get back at his ex sorta thing. but to be fair I think he knew it wasnt gonna happen when I ignored his questions about us meeting up again and doing 'something nice just the 2 of us'. I cant cope with that full on, and especially not when i'm feeling ill-thats just irritating.

In my experience, it's NEVER the ones you really like who are super keen, why is that? Maybe the keenness itself is a turn-off for us girls

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zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

my profile if anyone wants to nosy is...........http://www.okcupid.com/profile/wolfgirl159

I'm not into girls or anything so don't get the wrong idea (lol) but you're really nice looking and have a gorgeous figure Nice down to earth profile too!

rachhh

findingmyway wrote: »

rachhh :eek::eek: some men really have a way with words. I wonder if they do it, just to see if they can get the girl to react?

I have been online for about 2 months now, and I have yet to receive any of those sort of messages. I wonder why?

I have no idea why they do it... I think some people are just a bit odd! You're lucky then, even my 51 year old mother who's on the site gets those kind of messages, although some of my more attractive male friends on there have said they get messages like that from women too.

girlybags wrote: »

In my experience, it's NEVER the ones you really like who are super keen, why is that? Maybe the keenness itself is a turn-off for us girls

Treat 'em mean keep 'em keen! Haha, I'm definitely one of those scared off by someone who straight away is totally into me, I'm more about the chase, the excitement and the moment when you already like him and find out he likes you too