Struggling with relationship *maybe sensitive*

Amyrose

It is beginning to sound like a psychological issue. The fact that his parents have slept in separate beds for some time could be significant. And saying that his home life was good could be stretching the truth just like he did with his mates about your sex life. He’s spinning a yarn and there has to be a reason for it even if he is unaware of it.

Lotus-eater

So OP, has any of this helped you decide what to do?

Lotus-eater

Amyrose wrote: »

It is beginning to sound like a psychological issue. The fact that his parents have slept in separate beds for some time could be significant.

Yes it could, it could mean that a low sex drive runs in the family.

Amyrose

If you both want to stay together, it might be worthwhile to talk to a couples councillor.

LEJC

...or that they just wanted a decent nights sleep....

Amyrose

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Yes it could, it could mean that a low sex drive runs in the family.

It could. It could also mean that his mother had a tough time having him and the separate beds were her way of making sure she never had anymore children. Do we know if he has any sibling? And if his mother did the “Woo me I was in labour for 36 hours with you!!” He is going to be afraid of putting the OP through what his mum went through.

Lotus-eater

Amyrose wrote: »

It could. It could also mean that his mother had a tough time having him and the separate beds were her way of making sure she never had anymore children. Do we know if he has any sibling? And if his mother did the “Woo me I was in labour for 36 hours with you!!” He is going to be afraid of putting the OP through what his mum went through.

Some people just have a low drive, there doesn't always have to be a psychological reason behind it.

candygirl

gonzo127 wrote: »

i agree with this in the most, it might have some psychological aspects however it does just appear that hes just got very little drive

realistically if we did spin this around so for example i was to come on here and say

i really love my wife blar blar blar

however she just doesnt seem to want sex with me, and seems happy to have sex only once a month or once every 2 months yet i really want it everyday.
i have tried massage, romantic meals etc etc which are nice but she just doesnt want to take it to the next level. how can i get her to want sex more?

what would you response to that be?

If a person be it male or female wants to be in a normal sexual relationship, there will always be times when one or the other cba doing it.:D
However, in my experience, like I said before, give and take is important, and if he is physically capable, I think he should go the extra mile to satisfy her.If he doesn't want a nornal sexual relationship that's a much bigger issue:(

LEJC

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Some people just have a low drive, there doesn't always have to be a psychological reason behind it.

Then we come back to the compatibility issue...and whether the issue of love for your partner is greater than the low sex drive issue...which is I believe was the debate the OP posed in her first post on the thread...

Amyrose

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Some people just have a low drive, there doesn't always have to be a psychological reason behind it.

I understand that. I’m simply contributing and giving my impression from reading the thread. The OP is free to disagree.