I'm sort of homeless. Need money NOW.

charlie3090

op, not wishing to be offensive but have you actually read back what you have written,even if you dont mean to you are putting yourself across as arrogant,self opinionated and childish, its the "they dont show me respect, so why should i " that is probably getting peoples back up.
your parents didnt have to have you back, yet they did so respect to them for that,why dont you be the "grown up" and make the first move by making a big effort to keep the peace, try it, you never know.

Vanille_2

jc808 wrote: »

I sense this isnt a can of worms you want to open.
To be fair, all those people you cite are famous. Because they achieved something, or lots of things.

Read the Wikipedia pages of all these people and note what they don't say.

David Cameron
Stephen Fry
Winston Churchill
Josef Stalin

I get your point, but that doesn't mean that the parallels aren't the same. You're saying this on the basis that they have achieved more, eventually.

Obviously I won't reach the heights of the aforementioned people, but are they any less deserving of going to jail than I? This is all i'm saying. I would use more realistic examples, but they wouldn't be people you'd know or respect, so it wouldn't work.

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

But who are you to even know whether she has a disorder - have you suddenly gained years of experience in psychiatry? Or are you planning on diagnosis via Google?

With every post you write, I gain more sympathy for your mum.

I'm not saying i'm going to diagnose anything myself. You're being a bit of a !!!!!! about this. If I thought she hit X critiera for Y condition i'd possibly raise it and go to some sort of family counselling, which to be fair, we do need.
Did you really think i'm nominating myself as a doctor and that what I say goes? It can't hurt to do research. If I don't look, i'll never know. With the way I am, it's perfect plausible that she could be similar in some way, which makes it an avenue to be explored.

All that matters is that the family dynamics are off and all possible reasons for this should be examined. Why am I getting so much hate for this. I'm not placing the blame on anybody. All i'm trying to understand is why we act the way we do and how we can resolve it. you're really being unfair.

Vanille_2

kittiej wrote: »

How long is it going to take you to finish your course work?

About 2 weeks, which is why it's pointless getting a job and abandoning this work.

jc808 wrote: »

No surprise

I suppose that nanotechnology you invented, the totally fresh thinking re: theoretical particles gleaned from CERN LHC Data and the cure for AIDS youve synthesised would warrant anonymity, yes

Outside of cloud !!!!ing cuckoo land, I think you're full of !!!!. Why don't you give us an idea on what these 'achievements' are apart from perennial moping and your holding of the Guinness World Record for navel gazing eight years in a row?

Oh I suppose you think I should stop this university work that i'm just a few weeks short of finishing. Then get a job, then move out. Then finish the degree and incur more fees and make it less likely to get a desirable job. Is this what you would do? Is this what would gain me the accolade of your respect.

Also, you're saying that the only way I can achieve the status of achieving more than 50% of 24 year olds is by inventing some sort of technology that hasn't been by already the worlds current experts? Obviously i'm not a world leader, but that doesn't mean i'm doing well for my age. Do you really expect me to post my CV up here? Don't be a !!!!!!. I'm not going to go through everything i've done, but i've done alright so far, that's all you need to know. How does this equate to me being a dreamer? If i'd done nothing in my life i'd see your point, but that's not the case.
I'm not saying i'm a superior human, i'm just saying I've done enough to not be looked down upon by those that have simply been around longer and achieved less.

System

No you don't need family counselling...you are an adult living in the home of two other adults...the fact that they are your parents isn't that relevant, nor do the family dynamics need to be examined by us, you or them in fact.

You just have to accept that you can't live in the same house because your lifestyle/behavioural choices are incompatible at present. Move out and remake the relationship at a later date when space between you and them allows for more clarity of thought and feeling on all sides.

Oldernotwiser

Vanille wrote: »

you're really being unfair.

Said Kevin (aged 24).

Vanille_2

FagAshLil wrote: »

I'm astonished at the way this thread has turned so nasty - even in here! I think some of you need to get a grip and step away from the keyboards to calm yourselves down.

OP, I'm old enough to be your mum and if you were mine, you'd probably irritate the bejasus out of me but you'd always know that you were loved. It sounds to me that your mum is pretty unfair in her treatment of you and favours your brother. It happens. A lot.

Make your plans to leave and try to keep under the radar as much as you can until then. I'm glad your dad is nice to you - that's important so do what you have to do to keep the peace for him!

Thanks. I'm really getting a lot of abuse here, but they're taking it to a more extreme than I am.
I suppose that's England though; you have some confidence in your ability and people will try to bring you down because there are people out there that have achieved more.

Maybe I should just start being the nice guy, helping everybody out, taking abuse and just swallowing it like a pu**y. I shouldn't ever question authority and rules because people older than you have 'more experience' and therefore I should learn my place in society. Maybe I'll have a child now, do anything I can to get any job now and work it for 40 years. Hopefully one day I'll attain the respect of some of you on here. Then i'll insult my children, but still expect the utmost respect and discipline from them. If they disobey or question the world in any way then I shall strike them down and threaten to kick them from the house because they are ungrateful. I'll also be sure to teach them that people who are older than you are always right.

kittiej

OK so do you have a study plan for the next 2 weeks? You need to make sure you're going to get finished on time.

If your parents don't respect you then do they respect education? Would you be able to negotiate a truce for the next 14 days?

tonycottee

Vanille wrote: »

Tony, I'm hoping that you understand metaphors, or this is pointless.

I don't even know what a meta is, let alone what it's for.

I'll try and be gentle as I think some people are being a little too harsh. Purely from what you've posted, you come across how I was at 16 years old.
You've written a fair bit about all the things you've achieved in life against the odds - including achieving much more than your average 24 year old. You've also put down your parents (even down to their weight) and criticised your brother. Some of your replies to posts have come across as slightly condescending (it means talking down to:p) - but then that could be excusable as you're having to defend yourself. But the fact that you started to use some of the most famous and successful people of the 20th Century to justify some of your actions gives me the impression that you feel you're superior to others.
This could be the reason why you have so many issues with your mother.

Vanille_2

meer53 wrote: »

"At the same time, I do feel that i'm different from those who sponge off the government permanently.
I'm using the government for a short period of time, using money i've already contributed. This will then put me in a better position so that I can pay my taxes. The way I see it is for the greater good."

Well that just explains it all doesn't it ? ME ME ME ME !

The poster who said you were supercilious was spot on ! I've worked and paid taxes for the past 39 years, does your logic mean that i can now jack in my job and let the government pay me to sit on my backside ? Your comments are ridiculous. You have an excuse for everything, and why would you not want to burden your GF's mother but you're quite happy to burden your own ?
One day you may be a parent yourself, then maybe you will realise that all parents try to do their best, it might not be to your exacting standards, cut your mother some slack and try to show her some respect whether you think you should or not. Now thats what would be called being a good son, try to think about someone else for a change.

That's not really an equal situation though is it? In that situation, after working for 39 years you would decide to use up your 39 years of contributions (or as many as possible) to the overall detriment of your country.

In my scenario, I aim to be at the detriment of the government for a short period of time, so that in the long run I can contribute more to the government than if I had not exploited them for a short amount of time. This may be conjecture, but it's also grounded in realistic foundations. This scenario also benefits me, I mean obviously, but it also works out better for the government. Your scenario wouldn't work out better for the government.

Also, of course it's all about me. It's my thread, in which people are discussing about my life. Am I going to talk about your life?

System

For two weeks, put up with it!

It isn't a case of no one on here respecting that you want to make the best of your talents by continuing your education to the point where you can make a success of your chosen career. I think everyone would respect you more, if you sounded a little less arrogant, that may be the fault of your style of writing, or because you seem to assume that older people are criticising you just because they ARE older. All experience of life is valuable and valid....mine no less than yours and vice versa... but being older does mean that I ( and others on here) have opinions based on a LONGER period of experience and possibly, in some instances, a broader experience.