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Oldernotwiser

SuziQ wrote: »

This occurred to me, too. The OP professes to need advice but then argues with everyone that doesn't say what she wants to hear.

Pretty normal on MSE!

Muttleythefrog

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

^^^ this bit did it for me, plus the posting at 3am..dunno why, just seems dodgy.

lol... there's quite a few pointers towards 'troll'. I think the big one is claiming her friend contacted the benefit fraud hotline for her..lol... and that they said it was a lot of money.... she asks 'is £200 a lot of money' (probably to get the response 'weekly or monthly?' in light of a previous comment about the periodicity). But when facts start changing then you know you've got someone dishonest... at first he was just some guy she'd met who she'd made it clear to that a relationship was out of equation... by page 2 he became her boyfriend. I'd say with 99% confidence the thread is purely designed to get a reaction... hence they're not interested in the answers to the question posed... they're not even interested in the answers given supposedly by the DWP. All of it doesn't add up... claims to be street wise yet thinks her boyfriend gives her money for no apparent reason...lol.

LadyMorticia

You don't have to be living with someone in the same house to be classed as a couple though.

People who are in the army are still classed as in a couple with their partner, even though they don't live in the same house alot of the time.

shanelm18

Emmzi wrote: »

if he isn't your partner they may assess the money as income from prostitution. Then someone is going to want to tax it. And stop your benefits.

(I have nothing against prostituiton btw. am quite liberal. but if he isn't your partner, you have sex, and he gives you money, um, well. Call it what it is.)

since when did i mention i was having sex with this man? if you read the thread properly you would of seen that i stated that the man doesn't live ANYWHERE near me meaning it would take him 5 hours to come and see me which is physically impossible for him to do so and be able to work fulltime sometime's doing overtime they have cctv at his work and they can provide the information of him clocking in and out ;-)

shanelm18

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I'm certainly not jealous of your situation but it seems to me very wrong to take money from a man in this way,

Have you no self respect?

if he want's do it and i'm happy taking it what's the problem? how dare you ask me if i have self respect i have tons of it darling at the end of the day everyone is different and you coming on an internet site asking me indecent questions goes to show how sad YOU really are.

shanelm18

karenx wrote: »

So can you explain how you wont be able to live without this money? Are you not getting income support/jsa or anything? And you will probably get your house paid for for you. You are obviously living beyond your means.

And why on earth would you accept all this money from someone you dont know?! What will you do if he turns round and demands every penny back?

What it comes down to is this is a regular amount going into your bank so it counts as an income. Also it will more than likely be the same amount at the same time of the month. It would be different if say it was different amounts at different times and it coincided with a DD coming out, so could of been a family member helping you with a bill. But this clearly isnt the case.


it is different amount's at different times but it's every week but it's his choice not to worry i phoned the benefit fraud hotline and they said that's not classed as a change in circumstance i'm just lucky

shanelm18

Muttleythefrog wrote: »

lol... there's quite a few pointers towards 'troll'. I think the big one is claiming her friend contacted the benefit fraud hotline for her..lol... and that they said it was a lot of money.... she asks 'is £200 a lot of money' (probably to get the response 'weekly or monthly?' in light of a previous comment about the periodicity). But when facts start changing then you know you've got someone dishonest... at first he was just some guy she'd met who she'd made it clear to that a relationship was out of equation... by page 2 he became her boyfriend. I'd say with 99% confidence the thread is purely designed to get a reaction... hence they're not interested in the answers to the question posed... they're not even interested in the answers given supposedly by the DWP. All of it doesn't add up... claims to be street wise yet thinks her boyfriend gives her money for no apparent reason...lol.

WOW!!! you lot can really rake up a story can't you!! i can't believe people think this is completely a joke i feel quite special right now exactly what i said is what it is he is NOT my boyfriend i have no sexual relations with this man we obviously don't live together because he lives 5 hours away and the money he give's me is his choice i told him when he first started buying me stuff that he cannot buy me and just because he's giving me money doesn't mean he's going to get with me otherwise i would of had hundred's of mean treating me but he reacted different he stated himself "even if you got with another man i would be devastated but at least i know you got what you wanted" sorry girl's there ain't no drama here unfortunately.. i've got a friend to ring up and they said it's not a substantial amount of money so i'm in the clear back to shopping i go :-)

shanelm18

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I wouldn't call them jealous.

I'd call them cynical about your situation.

Most men wouldn't just give out money willy nilly, even if they do live miles from you.

There might come a time when he'll want paying back and not necessarily with money.

Also, what happens if your relationship turns sour?

It feels like you're relying on this man and I really don't think it's a smart move to start bragging about getting the money whilst other people are working, you know.

You're laughing in the face of everyone and it's not a nice attribute.

i come from an area where you have to be very clued up this guy wouldn't hurt a fly plus having 7 brother's make's my life easier this guy couldn't do nothing even if he tried unfortunately and no one's forced him to do nothing trust me if he wanted something in return the money would of stopped a LONG time ago its been nearly a year! i personally didn't think it was going to last this long! sorry i ain't trying to push it in no one's face's but being called a troll when they don't know me is quite alarming what kind of people are that sad that they have to judge on the internet lol that's quite sad.

System

It never ceases to amaze me how boring some people's lives must be for them to come on a forum and make up stories just to get a reaction

Nobody gets money for nothing :rotfl:

shanelm18

im really telling the truth nothing's impossible !!