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Oldernotwiser

Why would you take money from a man who's neither your partner, a relative or your child's father?

Muttleythefrog

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Why would you take money from a man who's neither your partner, a relative or your child's father?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/46885547#Comment_46885547
Replace one of the words..lol.

I agree with a post above... be careful what you're doing in terms of this 'relationship' as he might be expecting something more than you're prepared to give... to regard him as 'choosing' to give his money to you might be self deluding.

AsknAnswer above seems to give the link which will answer question posed at top.

spikeripley

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Why would you take money from a man who's neither your partner, a relative or your child's father?

Whatever the situation is it cant be right, because if you could do that a person on benefits who had well off parents giving them god knows how much money a week could still claim. I think it does count as income and the DWP are just waiting for it to be a big enough amount to charge her for fraud and take her to court.

SuziQ

I don't get Housing benefit, but I do get council tax benefit and have been asked to produce 3 months worth of bank statements for them to look at. They have always queried any amounts being paid into the account, so don't think that they don't check. I had to explain every credit to the account.

shanelm18

GlasweJen wrote: »

Surely if he's contributing to your finances that makes you a couple in the eyes of the benefits system? Unless it's child maintenance he's giving you?

how doe's someone giving you money make that person your partner? that doesn't make any sense plus he lives very far away from me so on my bank statements it shows where he sent the money from which is too far for them to even think were living together.

shanelm18

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Why would you take money from a man who's neither your partner, a relative or your child's father?

because it's money that i need it's not my fault most people need to slave away for money i get for doing nothing and i know it anger's people but at the end of the day its just jealously everyone wishes they didn't have to do half the thing's they do for money and that's a fact lol

shanelm18

spikeripley wrote: »

Whatever the situation is it cant be right, because if you could do that a person on benefits who had well off parents giving them god knows how much money a week could still claim. I think it does count as income and the DWP are just waiting for it to be a big enough amount to charge her for fraud and take her to court.

lol first off he's not well off and neither is my parent's i didn't ask for this person to come into my life and i did not beg for him to give me money he just does i didn't know people on benefit's cannot receive gift's from a man because that's what it is. its not an income as i do not work it's not inheritance he is not living with me as he lives too far.... it's not saving's and i haven't moved house and those are all the thing's listed on the benefit fraud website. you cannot say it is classed as something when you are trying to incriminate someone you have to be more specific than saying "basically classed as"

shanelm18

I agree with a post above... be careful what you're doing in terms of this 'relationship' as he might be expecting something more than you're prepared to give... to regard him as 'choosing' to give his money to you might be self deluding.

AsknAnswer above seems to give the link which will answer question posed at top.[/QUOTE]

i always made it clear that he cannot buy me and that just because he gives me money doesn't mean i am going to have a relationship with him and he's been totally fine with it. i'm a very street wise person and would never put myself in danger i've had loads of these opportunities but most guys do want something in return.

Muttleythefrog

shanelm18 wrote: »

lol first off he's not well off and neither is my parent's i didn't ask for this person to come into my life and i did not beg for him to give me money he just does i didn't know people on benefit's cannot receive gift's from a man because that's what it is. its not an income as i do not work it's not inheritance he is not living with me as he lives too far.... it's not saving's and i haven't moved house and those are all the thing's listed on the benefit fraud website. you cannot say it is classed as something when you are trying to incriminate someone you have to be more specific than saying "basically classed as"

To be honest what constitutes income.. even reading the above link.. is complex. I would agree with a previous commenter who said treat what someone from DWP says with extreme caution... they often give very bad advice... if however you can get these things in writing then it changes things.

To an outsider.. and the DWP are an outsider... receiving regular payments for no apparent reason (hence someone asked the question) from someone who is effectively a stranger or 'contact' is quite unusual. It would almost certainly be viewed with suspicion. Suspicion because people do not typically give their money away to people they barely know on a regular basis for no apparent reason unless they're being conned, are expecting favours in kind, or there are factors undisclosed.

At the end of the day anyone can give you gifts... anyone on benefits can get gifts. But what constitutes income won't necessary just relate to earned monies from formal work. It might take someone with detailed knowledge on this point to look at your circumstances and give a view.

shanelm18

Muttleythefrog wrote: »

To be honest what constitutes income.. even reading the above link.. is complex. I would agree with a previous commenter who said treat what someone from DWP says with extreme caution... they often give very bad advice... if however you can get these things in writing then it changes things.

To an outsider.. and the DWP are an outsider... receiving regular payments for no apparent reason (hence someone asked the question) from someone who is effectively a stranger or 'contact' is quite unusual. It would almost certainly be viewed with suspicion. Suspicion because people do not typically give their money away to people they barely know on a regular basis for no apparent reason unless they're being conned, are expecting favours in kind, or there are factors undisclosed.

At the end of the day anyone can give you gifts... anyone on benefits can get gifts. But what constitutes income won't necessary just relate to earned monis from formal work. It might take someone with detailed knowledge on this point to look at your circumstances and give a view.

well then there you go then you cannot discriminate just because it's uncommon in the eyes of the law you have to have proof and they can investigate me all they like because as i said all of the above is the truth and that's not my fault they haven't addressed this issue in their rule books just because it's uncommon. if you see the distance we live you would understand it's physically impossible for him to send me money from the area that he live's in then work full time and live with me that would be completely ruled out. so what else could i get done for?