A question for mothers of adult children please

lostinrates

- the narcissistic parent nametag is thrown around a lot online, but there is very little mention of offspring having the traits - and for the number of parents to be described thus, there had to be an equal number of children like it, more even, as not all would have children.


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This, this, this.

In fact, the thing that always alarms me is that support often centres around a belief that the children of such mothers are unusually kind/patient/saintly. Which in itself seems a little.....well...narcissistic! (Please note I am not making a personal comment about any one commenting on this thread)

Fwiw, my mother is barking, my sister is barking and I am we'll aware I show some of the same traights and I only win the battle against their supremacy in my character some of the time. .

poet123

lostinrates wrote: »

- the narcissistic parent nametag is thrown around a lot online, but there is very little mention of offspring having the traits - and for the number of parents to be described thus, there had to be an equal number of children like it, more even, as not all would have children.


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This, this, this.

In fact, the thing that always alarms me is that support often centres around a belief that the children of such mothers are unusually kind/patient/saintly. Which in itself seems a little.....well...narcissistic! (Please note I am not making a personal comment about any one commenting on this thread)

Fwiw, my mother is barking, my sister is barking and I am we'll aware I show some of the same traights and I only win the battle against their supremacy in my character some of the time. .[/QUOTE]

That was what I was alluding to in a previous post. We see all too clearly the traits in others, and yet others probably see the same traits in us.!!

Blue_Monkey

I can definitely see some of the same traits in myself and I want desperately not to let them flourish.

I want a good relationship with my mum. I trust her with dd.

But yes I need to find a way forward in how I deal with these "tantrums".