Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

victory

A man I presume?:D

whitewing

DH is a better husband than I am wife. When I (infrequently) say this to him, he says, don't worry sweetheart, you're fine. I'm not a bad wife but I should do more practical stuff.

fannyanna

My husband and I have a bit of role reversal in what is seen as the typical men and women jobs.

Hubby is a lot better than me when it comes to generally keeping our home tidy and he cooks a lot more than I do. However I'm the one that does the spring cleaning. He often jokes that I don't clean that often but when I do I really go for it.

I'm the one that deals with all the finances and basically makes sure that everything gets done.

Every now and then he gets frustrated with me as I'm lazy with regards to cleaning and cooking and every now and then I get frustrated with him as he does not take responsibility for his own finances. But on the whole I think we're both happy as we realise that we're a partnership and my strengths are his weaknesses and vice versa. Together we make a pretty good team.

make_me_wise

victory wrote: »

A man I presume?:D

Nope a woman

andymg

I think men of the world would agree, it will be good if the DW tells me what needs to be done rather than make a statement like "You should just know, what needs doing"

I read an article on wait... DM, agree to a certain extent on the content. I too hate it when DW says we need to talk, it just reminds me of my times in school when teacher asked to speak to her after the class!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2029793/We-need-talk--words-KILL-marriage.html

Would perfer if DW just tells me whats wrong and how to sort it out:) We men just need to be told at times!

make_me_wise

celyn90 wrote: »

I agree - not only because each part of a partnership should pull their weight, but also because what happens if one partner suddenly isn't there any more? How would someone cope having to pay the bills, having to get the car serviced, change a nappy etc etc if they've never done it before? Learn fast at a time you could do without the additional stress?

I agree with this. DH and I were that bit older when we met and had lived in our own places first. We were use to running our own homes, paying bills, sticking to a budget etc. Its lovely being in a partnership and having someone to rely on etc but that is different from being dependant on that person. If god forbid anything went wrong with our relationship or one or other of us died then the other could cope with life still practically, if not emotionally.

andymg

victory wrote: »

Oh crumbs what a man should do and what a woman should do, hopefully with your edits and less posts like this you will save yourself from falling into a very big black deep hole:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

haha, I love my kids a lot (and missues) too much and can mend my ways if needed!

victory

Write a rota then, or get her to tell her which parts of the house she expects you to do and what she wants to do, that is kind of like what you do to kids for their weekly pocket money though, my kids do their sunday jobs, that includes things like the eldest will hoover upstairs and the youngest dusts downstairs, or they have to tidy up their own rooms and put their clothes away.

The adults of the house seewhat needs doing and gets on with it,emptying thedishwasher take turns, hoovering whenever , clothes on the stairs when whoever goes up puts them away, there are no hard and fast rules to it.

victory

andymg wrote: »

haha, I love my kids a lot (and missues) too much and can mend my ways if needed!

Just ask her what she wants done and when, I have a washing the bedding day it is just come about, not writen in stone but I like washing them on a particular day because then the weekend is free for both of us and we can go out and not spend the time in the house doing housework, so ask her when she likes doing stuff and what she would like you to do.

andymg

fannyanna wrote: »

Hubby is a lot better than me when it comes to generally keeping our home tidy and he cooks a lot more than I do. However I'm the one that does the spring cleaning. He often jokes that I don't clean that often but when I do I really go for it.

That is me, in DW's defence kids are too demanding and can drain her completely.