Being asked for money as a gift

Hollie84

MandyMoo22 wrote: »

again with the nasty comments and the bullying!!!! you lot can be so insensitive!!!!

firstly, i am doing the sam as Hollie - i have a nice lot of family and friends who will respect that. maybe other should to!!

We will probably be adding money to any money we get as we dont expect alot.

Agreed.i dont see why things turn into a debate

Ravenlady_2

In what world does the words 'cheap and tacky' constitute as hurling abuse?

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

We had this on the invites:

We are sending out this invitation

In the hope you will join our celebration

But if a gift is your intention

May we take this opportunity to mention

We have already got a kettle and toaster

Crockery, dinner mats and matching coasters

So rather than something we have already got

We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot

If you miss the list closing date

Then don’t worry you can wait

For 30th April, our wedding day

When some US dollars will help us on our way

But most importantly we request

That you come to our wedding as our guest.

***

If you wish to visit our online gift registry please go to:

https://payments.travelcounsellors.com/

Our account reference is XXXXXX.

Alternatively we will have secure wedding post box on the day.

Then this on the website:
Thank you for visiting our page. We are really looking forward to celebrating our marriage and hope to see as many of our family and friends there as possible. The most important thing to us is having you there as our guest to help us mark the occasion in style, however, in response to questions about gifts we have set up this wedding gift list whereby contributions can be made towards our honeymoon, which is an adventurous road trip around West Coast America. We really wanted our Honeymoon to be a ‘once in a lifetime’ trip and your contribution would enhance our time there, and also hopefully make it possible for us to book a few honeymoon luxuries, such as a historic trip to Alcatraz, a helicopter tour over the Grand Canyon, a show in Las Vegas or cocktails in Hollywood!
We can't emphasise enough that sharing our wedding celebrations with you is what matters to us the most; look forward to seeing you on April 30th when we take the plunge!

For the record we could afford the wedding and honeymoon and had paid the honeymoon off and had spends to take as we didnt 'assume' we we could 're-coup' the cash. The money we got (which we were staggered at) enabled us to do some amazing things when we were there.

So people knew their money wasnt 'frittered' away we sent handwritten thank you cards to everyone detailing what their contribution on the day/or online enabled us to do, specifically. i.e show in vegas, alcatraz trip etc. We also sent them this link with their card:
http://www.ourhoneymoon.moonfruit.com/
Which is a blog we kept while away so people could see where their money went.

I can honestly say we had no bad feedback of how we handled in, in some cases people kept making sure we would open their card before we went as they had put money inside!

Hope this helps someone!

nicola00007

i dont think you can call someone ( or someones wedding) cheap or tacky just because of the way they have decided to go about the gift idea. its each to their own but have respect for how people wish to do it.

shellsuit

Hollie84 wrote: »

Agreed.i dont see why things turn into a debate

It's a forum Hollie which means people will comment/debate on what is presented to them in a thread.



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We didn't ask for anything when we got married, can't stand the little cutesy poems myself either.

We got one once in an evening invite from a friend of my husband. Me, my husband and youngest son were mentioned on the invite.

I have 2 other children too (me and hubby been together for 9 years since the older 2 were 7 and 5!).

It's takes the Michael to ask us for money when you don't even know the members of our family! :mad:

Needless to say we didn't attend!

Ravenlady_2

Its the poems i find cheap and tacky, please re-read my posts.

ampafc

MandyMoo22 wrote: »

I just dont know why if people dont agree they dont just say oh thats your opinion i understand...not hurl abuse!

I find it offensive when you accuse people of being bullies - when they are merely presenting an opinion. People have very right to comment, you know...

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

Ravenlady wrote: »

Its the poems i find cheap and tacky, please re-read my posts.

You might want to skip past my post then! :rotfl:

Although you may hate them most guests wont find offence and if some people want to use them thats up to them.

However for those that come on here to ask for opinion you need to expect to hear for's and against's. If you just want to vent and just want people to agree with you then head to the Bridezilla thread - its very cathartic x

Ravenlady_2

Im sorry but your poem just makes me cringe inside.

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

Dont be sorry - Im not!