Is this how life is meant to be?

Sambucus_Nigra

Daisy - today is the first day of the interesting part of your life. Enjoy - don't sit there wondering what you did wrong. Life's too short.

If he starts just tell him he bores the hell out of out so much you can't find words to describe how uninteresting you find him. If he stands outside, go into a different room. If he harasses you call the police. I'm sure Women's Aid will help you and not think you are wasting anyone's time.

mrbrightside842

Hi Daisy! I've only just started reading your thread but I'm impressed at how pro-active you're being. Did you find your passports and things to keep at your mums, and does your mum know everything now? I think her and your sister are going to play a big part in supporting you and I'm glad you've got them.

Trixysticks

Daisy, you are such an inspiration. I have just read all the posts and am so impressed with the way you are moving on. I wish you and your boys lots of happiness xx

RAS

Hi

if you need to keep the dog safe for a few days whilst you sort things out, the Cinnamon Trust help people whose animals are at risk from abusinve partners. They foster them until things settle down.

You are going to need a court order preventing him coming near the house.

yoni_one

daisy85 wrote: »

I am ringing Womens Aid today to see if they can help me, even if they can just give me some advice on support thats out there it will be fantastic. Im sure they have heard stories like mine a hundred times before. Hopefully they wont tell me to get lost for making a mountain out of a molehill and wasting their time.

Daisy, I really hope you get the response and support you are seeking. Areas of his abusive behaviour may be very familiar to experienced WA workers but it doesn't make it any less serious or important. If anything, until now, you have been making a molehill out of a mountain rather than the other way around.

Only he is responsible for choosing to behave abusively towards you and as the target of another person's abuse, you are entitled to specialist support.

Yoni.

daisy85

Good evening Ladies and Gents, I have had a busy day today. I have

* found all my passports, rent documents, birth certificates, bills, credit cards etc and popped them all in a bag ready to take to my mams house for safe keeping
* made the kids an emergency backpack with some clothes in (to be kept under the coats near the front door)
* Spoken to a wonderful lady at Women's Aid who told me of my options and what to expect
* Have decided to follow some of the advice on here, I am going to stay in my house (with the help of a scheme from Women's Aid) with my little doggy and having a friend come stay with me if anything kicks off


He has turned up tonight, as I was running a bath, ranting and raving. He has lost the power of subtlety now and openly told me 'I decide what you do, where you go and who you see'. He told me that everyone thinks I am a nutcase and that no one likes me, they only speak to me because they want to stay on his good side! And that he is doing me a favour by being with me. I told him it was over and I never wanted to be with him again, I told him that he bored the hell out of me (thank you to the poster that suggested that - it worked a treat )
He told me that he is going to get DS2 taken off me and that I am the worst mam he has ever met and I am an absolute waste of oxygen.
He eventually left after I threatened him with the police about 40 times. I couldn't believe it, I had walked through the front room and there he is stood in the back garden trying to open the back door (that now locks)

Plans_all_plans

Stay strong Daisy. Best wishes.

Money_maker

Well done, Daisy but be on your guard.

Welcome to your new life - enjoy every moment. You are a fantastic mum doing the best for your kids. We are so proud of you x

LolaMadeline

Hurrah! Way to go! I wonder if you should get a CCTV for the back door. The things he said apply to himself--waste of oxygen, and so on. He sure let himself vent! Just think--now you won't have him eating your food, in bed with you at night, hurting your little dog.

belfastgirl23

Yay you :j:j:j

Once you make your mind up you really go for it