Trying for a Baby Part 7

colli

divorcingjack wrote: »

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

After posting about work being boring and how I just want to get out of there, a contact I have had for ages (headhunter from a rival company) JUST emailed and said they are ready to "do something" :eek::eek::eek:

WHAT DO I DO????

What if I leave and get preggers just after I get there!? what if I'm ALREADY pregnant?!!!

It's a brilliant offer, more local and for (I think), considerably more money. The job (I think) is much more what I want and they guy thinks I am some kind of genius.

Oh nooooooooooo!

GO FOR IT!! :jWhilst hopefuly you'll be pregnant soon you never know how things will turn out. I was headhunted last time I was pregnant and turned them down but then had a mc and if I had taken it, (assuming everything works out this time) then I would have been there for 8/9 months before announcing my pregnancy and then another 5/6 months after that before actually going on maternity. If you fell quickly you could always fib a bit and say it was a surprise. As the guy rates you so much he might just be pleased to have bagged you and not mind that much . Baby or no baby life's too short to stay in a job you're unfulfilled in if you have a better offer.

divorcingjack

Nicki wrote: »

Thing about being headhunted is that you already know they want you, you arent having to sell yourself. So, within reason, you can ask for them to give you what you want to entice you across. Obviously you need to think about how to pitch it, as you can price yourself out of the market, but it is a very reasonable starting position to say that you want all benefits to be as good as/better than what you currently have, with a higher salary to compensate you for the fact that you are leaving your employment protection rights behind for a year. It is a lovely position to be in, so make the most of it!

That's true!! I don't think they could match my current final salary pension though That's would be a hard one to give up, but I'm a good saver, so as long as the salary was a good bit higher it would be OK.

colli wrote: »

GO FOR IT!! :jWhilst hopefuly you'll be pregnant soon you never know how things will turn out. I was headhunted last time I was pregnant and turned them down but then had a mc and if I had taken it, (assuming everything works out this time) then I would have been there for 8/9 months before announcing my pregnancy and then another 5/6 months after that before actually going on maternity. If you fell quickly you could always fib a bit and say it was a surprise. As the guy rates you so much he might just be pleased to have bagged you and not mind that much . Baby or no baby life's too short to stay in a job you're unfulfilled in if you have a better offer.

You're all right of course, you do never know. It's also accepted wisdom in my company that you have to leave for a while and come back to get a decent promotion or pay rise.

I'll email him back this evening (getting my DH to help me do the email drafting..) and see what happens. I'm pretty busy at the moment, so I might not be able to meet up for a while. Gives me a while to find out whether this cycle is a bust or not :rotfl:

dj x

TTC40

divorcingjack wrote: »

:rotfl:

dj x

Do you know anyone at the company where you could casually ask? Or is it a large company & you could post a question on the main forum?

I agree with you about your OH's idea of disclosing that you are TTC. You don't need to - so don't - although Alan Sugar would say you should have to!

divorcingjack

Hiya TTC40,

Sadly I don't know anyone except the headhunter guy. Unfortunately not a large company either, although they have just been taken over by a blue chip - don't know if their T&C's will have changed too.

Alan Sugar - PAH!

sexymouse

Evening all,

Happy Thanksgiving to any of our US ladies.

Lots of hugs to go around at the moment, particularly to bigzippy and emsbet.

Welcome to all of the newbies. Hope you get your BFPs soon.

Well it's CD23 here today, and I started spotting this morning. I normally have a 27 day cycle, so I don't know if I'm going to have 4 days of spotting like last month, or whether it's implantation. Suppose only time will tell. I'm not going to get my hopes up, as I took it quite hard last month when I wasn't.

Been working all week back in the school I was in during the summer, covering for one of the teachers who is off sick. Unfortunately, there are so many bugs going around the school, I think I've picked one up too - sore throat, headache, temperature - so I had to take in paracetamol today to get me through. I'm there again tomorrow, and don't want to turn any work down so close to Christmas, as it will start to dwindle again soon as schools will be doing Christmas performances and rehearsals.

I'm off to get a cup of tea, and watch the Aussie soaps.

Successful babydancing to all,

sexymouse xx

TTC40

divorcingjack wrote: »

Hiya TTC40,

Sadly I don't know anyone except the headhunter guy. Unfortunately not a large company either, although they have just been taken over by a blue chip - don't know if their T&C's will have changed too.

Alan Sugar - PAH!

The headhunter is likely to be paid his % based on your starting salary so it's no skin off his nose if you get pg within a short time of starting. He will be more focused on getting you (his candidate) into the job. He could be getting 20 - 25% of your salary so get him working for it!

divorcingjack

Oh no, perhaps I used the wrong term. He's not an "actual" headhunter - he works for this other company and I met him on a course and we got talking.

He is trying to entice me away to his company. To be honest, I don't take much enticing. :rotfl:

tinkwings

Hugs to all those in need.

CD10 here so according to the SMEP we should be BDing tonight but DH is really peeing me off at the moment :mad: and if he never came near me again at this point it time I wouldn't care :mad::(

I just feel like I am left to do everything :mad: I have had enough of being told what I have to do and what I need to do. I am an adult for ****'s sake :mad:

Sorry rant over :o:o:o:o:o:o:o

divorcingjack

Huge hugs tink

When I'm simmering like that I always find going outside for a walk and howling at the moon helps.

Alternatively, lock him outside to howl at the moon.

dj x

Nicki

tinkwings wrote: »

I just feel like I am left to do everything :mad: I have had enough of being told what I have to do and what I need to do. I am an adult for ****'s sake :mad:

Sorry rant over :o:o:o:o:o:o:o

I have a friend who has a husband like that. I first met her Rachel in Friends style when she burst into a coffee shop carrying her week old baby where I was with friends and burst into tears. Her husband had gone back to work that day after a week's paternity leave and suggested to her that she might clear out their attic that day as she was not at work :eek:. Did I mention she had had a c section and was having trouble learning to breast feed a very cranky baby.

Funnily enough, they don't yet have another child. I am not sure whether her husband is still in possession of his kn*ckers to make that a possibility

Hugs, tinks. Men can really pee you off sometimes but I hope my friend's story made you smile.