Trying for a Baby Part 7

emsbet

Sa-ra-ra-ra wrote: »

You lot are on fire! (And clearly not very busy at work )

I'm actually really busy but I can't be arsed!

TeamLowe wrote: »

I only join his morning and already I'm asking for attention and understanding as I'm pretty sure no one else will understand my upset
....
I have mumps! Chuffing mumps! Last thing you want when ttc, gone from SS to desperately hoping I'm not pregnant and being gutted cos I think this somehow means I can't be, mainly cos the cramps I was so positive about can be a symptom of mumps.

Also sickness record is going to be worse and mean I have to have warning when I go back. Oh joy x
Totally totally sucks x x

Big ((hugs)). I hope you get better soon.

Did you tell your doctor you could be pg?

xx

jen77_2

Afternoon all.. I'm CD20 today.. My ninth high day on cbfm! Feel like I'm gonna be feeding this machine sticks forever lol!
Im not expecting a peak as it's only first mth of using it.. So will it just go to low or will it be high until AF arrives??
I'm gonna keep giving it all the sticks rather than scrimping as it needs to know my full cycle.

No other ov symptoms to report .. Still no ewcm .. I've been temping and my temps were on way up over past two days only to drop again today.. This should be link to my FF chart

My Ovulation Chart
(hope it works)

I'm none the wiser as to whether I've ov'd already or whether it's still imminent. Cd20 is a bit late on a 31 day cycle isn't it? Seems like I've been waiting forever lol!!

jen77_2

Forgot to add QQ can u link my chart to my name on yr lists please... Thank u!

Flee_2

CD2 today and feeling pretty good and not as tired as yesterday. Decided to chart my temperature as of tomorrow morning.
Also here is my link to my FF Chart. Can this be added please to the first page.
Hope everyone is ok.

TeamLowe

emsbet wrote: »

I'm actually really busy but I can't be arsed!



Big ((hugs)). I hope you get better soon.

Did you tell your doctor you could be pg?

xx

Yeah, she said i should be fine but doesn't stop me worrying, I'm a bit of a hypochondriac anyway lol
Least I have a reason to be thankful if AF comes

QQ I'm 25, AF due 1st but will be test on 3rd if she doesn't show

emsbet

I'm after some opinions please....

I had my first counselling session on Tuesday at an organisation I fond myself after the one my doctor directed me to had a 6-12 week wait. :eek:

Anyway the lady that I saw was lovely but I'm not sure I want to go again for a number of, probably silly, reasons.

The first is the location. The organisation is run by a charity and the sessions are free so obviously they don't have a lot of spare money so I wasn't expecting anything flash but their office is not very nice. It is basically in a building that looks like an abandoned warehouse (it isn't but it looks like it). To get to their office you have to walk through this open space that looks like it's the staff room for the other business on that floor, it has a pool table and chairs and there are people milling around. The office it's self is really small and the room you go in for the session is right next to the office part where other people are sitting working and the door is really thin and I felt like everyone in the next room could hear me. The room it's self is very basic - the whole office makes me think of a portacabin. Now I don't need the place to be really swanky as that's not why I'm going but at the same time I think I do need to feel comfortable and safe when I'm there and I don't think I do with this place.

Another reason is the lady I'm speaking to is not a counsellor but is trained to take people through their process for dealing with mc (if that makes sense). She is supervised by a counsellor and if she needs any guidance she can talk to them. She just feels a bit more like talking to a sympathetic friend almost and I don't know whether that is enough.

There are couple of other little things but they are quite minor.

Anyway my point is I don't know what to do, should I give it another try, stick it out or should I give up? If I don't feel completely comfortable in the environment am I ever going to be able to open up enough for it to be of any help?

My alternative options are somewhat limted but I do feel like I need some help with it all as I am, at times still struggling to cope.
The other organisation now has a 12+ week waiting list!:eek: Other alternatives include getting private counselling but this costs about £40 per session! DH said i could go if I wanted to but I don't really want to spend that much.
I could also maybe get some self help books about dealing with mc?

Meh! I just don't know! Any opinions? Ideas?

Sorry this has been a bit epic.:o

xx

emsbet

jen77 wrote: »

No other ov symptoms to report .. Still no ewcm .. I've been temping and my temps were on way up over past two days only to drop again today.. This should be link to my FF chart

My Ovulation Chart
(hope it works)

I'm none the wiser as to whether I've ov'd already or whether it's still imminent. Cd20 is a bit late on a 31 day cycle isn't it? Seems like I've been waiting forever lol!!

From your temps it doesn't look like you've ov'd yet. Maybe your cycle is going to be a bit longer this month. Try not to stress too much as that can delay ov even more.
How is your sleep pattern, do you sleep through or do you wake through the night? That can have a big effect on your temps. Also you should be taking your temp as soon as you wake and trying to keep movement to a minimum (even speaking) before you have taken it.

You don't have to have EWCM to ov or to catch the eggie. When I got my last BFP I only had "wet" CM and no noticable EWCM at all.


xx

fannyanna

emsbet wrote: »

I'm after some opinions please....

I had my first counselling session on Tuesday at an organisation I fond myself after the one my doctor directed me to had a 6-12 week wait. :eek:

Anyway the lady that I saw was lovely but I'm not sure I want to go again for a number of, probably silly, reasons.

The first is the location. The organisation is run by a charity and the sessions are free so obviously they don't have a lot of spare money so I wasn't expecting anything flash but their office is not very nice. It is basically in a building that looks like an abandoned warehouse (it isn't but it looks like it). To get to their office you have to walk through this open space that looks like it's the staff room for the other business on that floor, it has a pool table and chairs and there are people milling around. The office it's self is really small and the room you go in for the session is right next to the office part where other people are sitting working and the door is really thin and I felt like everyone in the next room could hear me. The room it's self is very basic - the whole office makes me think of a portacabin. Now I don't need the place to be really swanky as that's not why I'm going but at the same time I think I do need to feel comfortable and safe when I'm there and I don't think I do with this place.

Another reason is the lady I'm speaking to is not a counsellor but is trained to take people through their process for dealing with mc (if that makes sense). She is supervised by a counsellor and if she needs any guidance she can talk to them. She just feels a bit more like talking to a sympathetic friend almost and I don't know whether that is enough.

There are couple of other little things but they are quite minor.

Anyway my point is I don't know what to do, should I give it another try, stick it out or should I give up? If I don't feel completely comfortable in the environment am I ever going to be able to open up enough for it to be of any help?

My alternative options are somewhat limted but I do feel like I need some help with it all as I am, at times still struggling to cope.
The other organisation now has a 12+ week waiting list!:eek: Other alternatives include getting private counselling but this costs about £40 per session! DH said i could go if I wanted to but I don't really want to spend that much.
I could also maybe get some self help books about dealing with mc?

Meh! I just don't know! Any opinions? Ideas?

Sorry this has been a bit epic.:o

xx

Hi Emsbet

With regards to the location I guess there's not really much you can do about that. I suppose you need to ask yourself how much of an issue it is to you. If you'll be able to look past it then fine. But if you'll not be able to relax and feel comfortable then maybe have a re-think. Also bare in mind that as it was your first session you would have probably felt slightly uncomfortable wherever it was.

As for the womans qualifications sometimes the unqualified people are just as good as those with all the fancy letters after their names. I think the main question you need to ask yourself is did you feel that she helped? If she did then are you sure she'd do a better job if she was qualified? Obviously if she didn't then maybe have a rethink.

I guess I've not really been any help but mayybe it will give you a few things to think about in coming to a conclusion that works for you x x x

TeamLowe

emsbet wrote: »

I'm after some opinions please....

I had my first counselling session on Tuesday at an organisation I fond myself after the one my doctor directed me to had a 6-12 week wait. :eek:

Anyway the lady that I saw was lovely but I'm not sure I want to go again for a number of, probably silly, reasons.

The first is the location. The organisation is run by a charity and the sessions are free so obviously they don't have a lot of spare money so I wasn't expecting anything flash but their office is not very nice. It is basically in a building that looks like an abandoned warehouse (it isn't but it looks like it). To get to their office you have to walk through this open space that looks like it's the staff room for the other business on that floor, it has a pool table and chairs and there are people milling around. The office it's self is really small and the room you go in for the session is right next to the office part where other people are sitting working and the door is really thin and I felt like everyone in the next room could hear me. The room it's self is very basic - the whole office makes me think of a portacabin. Now I don't need the place to be really swanky as that's not why I'm going but at the same time I think I do need to feel comfortable and safe when I'm there and I don't think I do with this place.

Another reason is the lady I'm speaking to is not a counsellor but is trained to take people through their process for dealing with mc (if that makes sense). She is supervised by a counsellor and if she needs any guidance she can talk to them. She just feels a bit more like talking to a sympathetic friend almost and I don't know whether that is enough.

There are couple of other little things but they are quite minor.

Anyway my point is I don't know what to do, should I give it another try, stick it out or should I give up? If I don't feel completely comfortable in the environment am I ever going to be able to open up enough for it to be of any help?

My alternative options are somewhat limted but I do feel like I need some help with it all as I am, at times still struggling to cope.
The other organisation now has a 12+ week waiting list!:eek: Other alternatives include getting private counselling but this costs about £40 per session! DH said i could go if I wanted to but I don't really want to spend that much.
I could also maybe get some self help books about dealing with mc?

Meh! I just don't know! Any opinions? Ideas?

Sorry this has been a bit epic.:o

xx

Mine was person-based counselling, the 'you talk, I'll listen' sort and I didn't think it would help but it did. Articulating my worries and thoughts made me realise what my issues are. I went to every session thinking I'd have nothing to say and ended wanting to carry on the discussion with my husband

It's a shame that the space isn't the best for you, I had a variety all over the hospital (it was offered by the EPU), even got someone bursting in once as we were in the staff room!

I'd give it one more go and see if you feel better. Going anywhere new is daunting, especially if it doesn't live up to your expectations when you're feeling vulnerable already

Good luck with it, hope you find the help you need x x

QQuaver

You lot've been chatty:shocked:
Massive post coming up:D

Derby2 wrote: »

I know I've been dropped off the list and that's ok...

Ooops sorry, missed this post.
I remove people when they haven't posted for a while and reaches CD100:o

Apparently I had an ovulatory cycle

Yay!

DH has had his bloods and he has his 'special' test in December, so hopefully after Christmas we'll have a better idea of where we're going with all of this.

Good luck:)

Derby2 wrote: »

Hugs to Mish for CD 1. Me too, but I'm just reminding myself I get to drink at Christmas parties instead! Joyfully, AF will next be due Christmas day!

It was my first anniversary in August and I got DH a lovely hardback book from Waterstones and wrote a poem inside. I say wrote, but I copied out one from the internet, but you know what I mean!

Lovely:happyhear

Can I ask a question? I use opk's and get a couple of smiley faces mid cycle. Is it worth me trying the CB fertility monitor? Do you think it will be worth it? I don't think temping will work for me-too fidgity in the night-but feel like I should be trying something different...

It's up to you, only difference is that CBFM measure estrogen as well:)

Sa-ra-ra-ra wrote: »

he had bought me Cirque de Soleil tickets for early next year, so we're already doing something like that.

Oh I love Cirque de Soleil:happyhear

mrsj28 wrote: »

Worried I might have missed the window this month - we DTD on Monday night, but then nothing since

Fingers crossed:)

I am so hoping to get pregnant quickly, DH less keen, but mostly because we have Olympic tickets for August and he can't bear the thought of missing out! Typical!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

claire16c wrote: »

It really would be so much easier if you could buy a baby in Mama and Papas along with the pushchairs :rotfl:

I agree:rotfl:

Sa-ra-ra-ra wrote: »

I'm not sure temping is working too well for me; I move a lot in my sleep, I wake up at least three times every night, and I sort of doze from about 5.30am each morning. I get a decent nights' sleep about once every 4 nights, so my temps are a bit all over the place.

It doesn't look so bad:)

TeamLowe wrote: »

I have mumps! Chuffing mumps! Last thing you want when ttc, gone from SS to desperately hoping I'm not pregnant and being gutted cos I think this somehow means I can't be, mainly cos the cramps I was so positive about can be a symptom of mumps.

Also sickness record is going to be worse and mean I have to have warning when I go back. Oh joy x
Totally totally sucks x x

((((Hugs)))).
Try not to give it to your DH, as it can kill the swimmers (very rare):o

jen77 wrote: »

Im not expecting a peak as it's only first mth of using it.. So will it just go to low or will it be high until AF arrives??

It will stop when you reach your 20th stick.

My Ovulation Chart
(hope it works)

It doesn't look as you ov'd, what do you think? Unless you thing you may have ov'd on CD17?

emsbet wrote: »

If I don't feel completely comfortable in the environment am I ever going to be able to open up enough for it to be of any help?

Probably not:o

getting private counselling but this costs about £40 per session! DH said i could go if I wanted to but I don't really want to spend that much.
I could also maybe get some self help books about dealing with mc?

Meh! I just don't know! Any opinions? Ideas?

Perhaps a couple of private sessions, then think what to do next?