Friend's Wedding

zagfles

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I must admit, if I wanted to get married abroad I would pay for whoever I wanted to be there, I wouldn't feel right asking anyone to pay for themselves to come.
I feel guilty just thinking about it.

A difference would be if someone had to get married in another country, a friend of mine married someone from europe somewhere and got married over there, we were invited and I think it's fine to be asked then. We didn't go, but understood the reasons they had to get married over there.

Sometimes it's hardly any more than if you went to a wedding in the UK - friend of mine married an Italian girl a couple of years ago - we got EasyJet flight to Milan for £50 each, hotel about £70 a night for 2 night with breakfast, we only had to pay for one meal, bit of local transport, well under £300 in total for 2 of us.

puddy

how would it be 300 quid for this country?

lostinrates

puddy wrote: »

how would it be 300 quid for this country?

Its cost us more, getting from sw to north, with train routes via london, travel being too long to get there on the day, so a hotel night before, then having to leave early to get a train home before they stop.

newcook

puddy wrote: »

how would it be 300 quid for this country?

one of my friends and his OH recently attended a wedding up in scotland - by the time they had got a new outfit, drove up there and back, booked a hotel for the night, and got the couple a present they had spent nearly £500!!

Lotus-eater

dizsiebubba wrote: »

So you would all rather not be asked to a wedding if it was abroad?

I would rather not be put in that situation in the first place tbh.

Like LIR's says, I have been flattered to be asked, but I did feel awkward at saying we wouldn't go and a little angry tbh, that I has been asked to pay alot of money to go to someone else's wedding.

Like I said before, I would feel wrong just asking people to do that for me.

I have been to one marriage abroad, but it was in Europe, OH's best friend was getting wed, a load of us went over and camped next to the wedding place and it was great and didn't cost alot. But we wouldn't have gone if it did cost alot, best friend or not.
I remember that she was nervous and felt a bit guilty about asking people from here to go there, some of which didn't get invited to the wedding, but only to the party afterwards. We just said to her, make it clear that you won't mind in the slightest if no one goes and you understand it will cost money to get there.
Luckily as I said, there were no expensive hotels, just a cheap campsite on a farm and we had a whale of a time.

dizsiebubba

I want to get married in vegas, i just want me, the groom and my parents there... i know that this will upset my extended family & friends if i dont ask them, but i know that some of them cant afford it so what do i do then? ask them or not? ... Is it not better to invite them and then they can decline if they cant afford it?

Why should i have a big fat gypsy wedding just to keep them all happy, when at the end of the day, me & oh just want to get married and have a laugh and afterall it is our wedding day?

I have been to every golf club in th uk it feels like for some1s wedding... had to put my cats in cattery, travel expenses, outfits, gifts for the couple etc... they had what they wanted and i was expected to attend those... i wouldnt even be expecting them to...

dizsiebubba

lostinrates wrote: »

Its cost us more, getting from sw to north, with train routes via london, travel being too long to get there on the day, so a hotel night before, then having to leave early to get a train home before they stop.

I've hardly been to a UK wedding where its cost us less than £300

Lotus-eater

dizsiebubba wrote: »

I want to get married in vegas, i just want me, the groom and my parents there... i know that this will upset my extended family & friends if i dont ask them, but i know that some of them cant afford it so what do i do then? ask them or not? ... Is it not better to invite them and then they can decline if they cant afford it?

Why should i have a big fat gypsy wedding just to keep them all happy, when at the end of the day, me & oh just want to get married and have a laugh and afterall it is our wedding day?

I have been to every golf club in th uk it feels like for some1s wedding... had to put my cats in cattery, travel expenses, outfits, gifts for the couple etc... they had what they wanted and i was expected to attend those... i wouldnt even be expecting them to...

You should do what you want on your wedding day, if that means going to Vegas with whoever you want, then do so.

If it was me, I would talk to the parents you want to go and say that you are thinking about it and what did they think about the costs.
If I had the money I would pay for them, but if they think it's no problem for them to pay for themselves, then everything's OK.

mummyroysof3

im attending my sisters wedding ...£120 for hotel...500miles traveling and petrol costs, outfits for me and 3 children(my mums paid for some of that), at least 3 meals out while there for 5 of us. i wouldnt do it for anyone other than my sister....except in 2 years i need to do it again for my cousins wedding lol. weddings aswell as being enjoyable are stressful and make take alot of organising for the guests...im already dreading packing for all of us lol

also forgot about money im putting in card and im really glad i can sort people to come and feed pets as it would have been £40ish for cattery.

dizsiebubba

Lotus-eater wrote: »

You should do what you want on your wedding day, if that means going to Vegas with whoever you want, then do so.

If it was me, I would talk to the parents you want to go and say that you are thinking about it and what did they think about the costs.
If I had the money I would pay for them, but if they think it's no problem for them to pay for themselves, then everything's OK.

My parents wouldn't ever take the money... however what about the other rellies like GPs who can't fly?