Preferred child (as adults)

mountainofdebt

mildred1978 wrote: »

No privilege. Do you think high paying jobs are handed out like sweeties? We both worked bloody hard to earn those jobs, and frankly I couldn't care less about your jealousy. We've made sacrifices in order to be able to do those jobs, I single parent for the majority of the week so that my OH can continue his earnings. I've given up my job to give my son the best start in life.

Don't forget, it's the high earners that pay the most into the coffers.

Presumably you have even greater contempt for Martin Lewis on account of the millions he's earned?

To be honest OP I haven't read all the posts since I last posted, as to be quite frank, you're coming across as being quite arrogant and not a person I would like to meet in the real world.

Personally I don't care how much a person earns - I would rather spend time with a person earning the MW than someone earning thousands if the person earning thousands is going to ram it down my throat at every turn as to how hard by they are.

I'm sure that your little boy would love to see more of his dad - but people have their own priorities.

I don't why your parents treat your sister differently but as I said before you can let it eat you up with jealously or you can learn to live with it ; if that means cutting ties with your mum and/ or sister then that's only a judgement call you can make.

I don't know what you want to achieve with this thread - personally I think a visit to a qualified therapist would be better as then your relationship with your mum / sister can be fully and properly explored.

Person_one

Nearly everybody in this country is financially privileged to an extent, you are more so than many. If you can afford to eat, keep a roof over your head and enjoy a few luxuries you are incredibly lucky compared to millions. Just think about that every now and then and try to have a little more humility.

I agree that your parents have treated you and your sister differently, but you can't change that, some acceptance and some perspective would really help you, maybe a counsellor could help you find it.

Molly41

I personally think that this thread is a wind up now as there is no swaying her argument. Either that or she has got a real issue with her personality as she is unable to see other poster's views and this could explain her difficulties in the real world too.

onetomany

maybe your parents have picked up ur atituded and decided enough is enough, not once have you consided your mums feelings, you said she got a payout because of a acident or something well maybe this has changed the way she sees her life and just wants to see her girls happy , u even add up the hours you spend with her , maybe they feel they carnt spend a weekend with you because they would be in the way? i have 2 boys and i dont spend the same on them they get what they need depending how much money i have one might get £30 for birthday one might £200 it dosent bother me as long as they are happy with what they got, i also have a younger sister whos 12 who gets everything my dad rings me and says well you didnt get but i say im not at all bothered its got nothing to do with me what they spend on her as long as they are all well and happy then so am i.

neneromanova

If your parents turned round to you and said they were so very proud of you for not needing help with money and for living your own life on your own 2 feet and wish that your sister could do that, what would you say about the money then?

catkins

I meant to say in my previous post that I find it hard to believe that anyone can think it is ok to treat two children so differently. I think it is wrong and do not blame the OP for being angry and upset.

My OH is long over any anger or sadness but it still makes me angry and upset to think of the difference in the way he and his sister were treated. Children should be treated the same

CH27

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Working hard and earning a high wage do not necessarily go together so having a high wage is a privilege which I am absolutely in no way jealous about. Personally I would not give up having my OH at home so yes you have made sacrifices but that was your choice so you can't really complain.

I have no contempt for anyone who has a good living from hard work, honestly I really wouldn't know what to do with such riches. You do though show great contempt for anyone who dares to confront you or your attitudes and I can't help but wonder if that is at the root of the problems with your mother and sister.

I wonder that too.

mumps

Spendless wrote: »

Is your mum still alive? If so, is it likely that you and your sister would inherit jewellery from her? I'd also be more likely to give a son a coin collection if I had one. That's because though both my son and daughter may like the coins, my son wouldn't be keen on my silver charm bracelet, gold bangle or ladies watch. There was quite possibly the same line of thinking over the medals too, or maybe that you got more of your Dad in your life than your brother did.

My mother died ten years ago, the only jewellery she had was a wedding ring, I am the same as her and never wear jewellery. The gold coins really didn't bother me, it was his war medals that broke my heart. I did have more of my dad but the medals meant nothing to my brother, I used to sit and clean them and he would tell me stories about his service in WWII. It hurt me when my brother said he didn't even know where they were.